Feeling miserable 5months after a miscarriage.

[lou121087]

I went through a miscarriage in February. I suffer with depression and I've not gotten over it, not that I will get over it. My family and my partner never wanted to talk about it, like it happened and now I just need to move on. I was pushed back into work a week after it had happened because that's what people thought was the best thing for me. But 5months on I'm still finding it really hard as I don't feel like I can talk to anyone about it or use it as an excuse for my behaviour. This isn't a sympathy post. But just wondering if anyone has gone through the same thing?

[AllWeNeedIsluv]

Hey lovely. I'm really sorry for what your going through sending you huge hugs. Yes iv been through this with my first ever miscarriage I was a wreck for absolute months hun. No one understood and no one seemed to care. If I knew then what I know now I would have contacted the miscarriage association or spoke to my gp and asked for councilling. Tommy's are supposed to be really helpful too hun. Maybe contact one of these and speak to someone about your feelings hun. Take time out and have the chance to grieve and let it all out. I wish I could take your pain away hun. But talking to those that understand really does help. Big hugs and lots of love 😘💝

[lou121087 in reply to AllWeNeedIsluv]

Thank you for your reply. No they don't understand how it feels. This was my first pregnancy and miscarriage so it hit me pretty hard. Everyone said I'm young and I can still try again but that was the last thing I wanted to hear. I had counselling through Time to talk but that was about my depression so she couldn't give much help about miscarriage and said when it comes to my due date that its ok to feel down and upset. But I think I will go back to my gp and see what they say. At first I thought I'd be ok but I just can't stop thinking about it, i still get flash backs of the scan when they saw the baby had died and the lady just saying sorry. X

[AllWeNeedIsluv in reply to lou121087]

So sorry lovely I know how hard it is.. Have you done something in memory of your sleeping angel? That always helps not sure how far you were but did the hospital get the remains of bubu. Normally they'll cremate and take to a baby garden in a, cemetery

That's where my first loss went I visit there often. It helps hun. Oh maybe plant something in the garden in memory of them

I do think contacting miscarriage association or Tommy's would help as they deal with people like us all the time and have a very good understanding just Google them hun and give them a call or email and let them know how your feeling. It does hurt and dates will always remind you but in time it does get easier I promise 😘💝

[lou121087 in reply to AllWeNeedIsluv]

I was 9wks and it surgically removed. And the hospital just said they got everything out and that was that, I didn't really know what to expect after the surgery. Through my whole pregnancy I was in a lot of pain so it was a horrible experience from start to finish.

And yes I've got a memory box with the scans and a Teddy inside. But I think planting something might be a good idea.

And ill definitely give them a search. Thank you for this information 🙂 xx

[AllWeNeedIsluv in reply to lou121087]

Might be worth asking the hospital what they did with the remains hun. They told me and I went to the cemetery and gave them my details and they confirmed that my baby's ashes were there.

Bless you hun. Really hope you start to feel better soon lovely. Pm me anytime you want to chat

Big hugs 😘💖💝

[Georgina_D]

I was off work for 4 weeks due to excessive bleeding (bled for 56 days) and depression like. Work then arranged Phased return and had counselling which really helped. I now have a lovely little girl x

[Major2116]

Hey hun.

So sorry to hear about the loss of your baby.

We lost our first baby in December 2016 and we lost our second baby in April 2017. Fortunately we were blessed 3 months later when we got pregnant again and had our rainbow boy who's now 17 weeks.

I still grieve for our babies. I think of them most days! I have a remembrance candle and a necklace in memory of them. I planned a tattoo as well which I had to reschedule as I got pregnant with our son but still plan on having it.

I had at least a month n half off with our first as there was a lot of complications as our baby was stuck in my cervix. I had a month off with our second too.

I now still suffer with anxiety and depression. More so anxiety now through worrying about our son which is understandable.

I'm currently on medication, I have had counselling and I'm booked in to have cognitive behavioural therapy. It might be worth trying counselling hun. If you go to your GP they can point you in the right direction on who to call.

If you need a chat just message me! You're not alone xx

[Cavendis]

You are not alone l am also going through this l understand you very well. My miscarriage was in May the pain never leaves me it's like my shadow. No one understand. They say it's common you are young you will have children etc.

The only thing which gives me hope which Worth's living is the thought that l will be pregnant again and this time l will hold my baby in my arms. I hope you get pregnant as soon as possible also l want it for myself. May God helps us and next year l hope we will holding our babies smiling to them.

[McrLass]

We’re all here, all in the same boat. Don’t give up. February too for me. Be kind to yourself, we’re here xx 😘

[Dawnny]

Im so sorry you went through this. Its been two years since my miscarriage and I think about it every single day. Some days are good, some are really aweful. Ive only recently started to come to peace with it all and accept that things happen for a reason. No words can truly comfort the pain we feel, but hope for the future is a nice thought to have while we try to make it through the day. Wishing you healing thoughts through all this. You definitely are not alone. Xxxxx

[lou121087]

Thank you all for your loving support. Its nice to know I'm not the only one who feels like this. And Im always hopeful that I'll have a beautiful baby one day. But you guys have made me feel a lot better some how 🙂 thank you xx