First Pregnancy

[SammiJF]

So I learned that I'm about 7 weeks pregnant and have my first prenatal appointment in just a few days but, I can't stop worrying about a miscarriage. I've already started prenatal vitamins and drinking plenty of water but, in the back of my head I keep thinking what if. Is that normal to worry about so much during pregnancy. No complications run in my family and I'm pretty healthy person. I haven't had any morning sickness I've just been nauseous and my breast are so tender and sore. I feel insane 😪

[Sisi14]

Aw congratulations Hunni and bless you going through all the mad mind games we all play with ourselves, which I must say is normal for a pregnant woman! Your not alone we all go through it , easier said than done but just try and relax and enjoy each day and try and relax! Hope all goes well at your appointment and well done for taking all the meds’ required xx

[SammiJF in reply to Sisi14]

I haven't had any even light spotting and only light cramps that I know could be my uterus or the fact that I'm experiencing some of the worse constipation I ever have. I've also read that the risk is only around 5% right now but it doesn't stop the worrying. I can't wait to hear the heartbeat and have an obgyn tell me everything is healthy and all good.

[Sisi14 in reply to SammiJF]

I know it’s hard and as much as we are excited about the whole pregnancy it’s a worry! Hopefully after your booking in appointment you won’t wait long til your scan. Well no bleeding is good and mild cramps are ok it’s the stretching and all going on!

I loss my babies few month ago so I know how it’s worrying, but honestly try and relax xx

[SammiJF in reply to Sisi14]

Goodness I'm sorry about your loss but thank you for the reassurance it's much appreciated 💖

[Sisi14 in reply to SammiJF]

That’s ok Hunni it wasn’t my turn and my twins are fast asleep together now.

But as the lady stated below the best thing you can do is relax and enjoy every moment. Xx

[SilkeP in reply to SammiJF]

Sorry to dip in here. I’m a natural worrier and know exactly how you feel. As the others say, do try and relax and enjoy. Pregnancy feels like a long and worrying time but it’s over so quickly. Enjoy the bonding time and maybe look into pregnancy yoga to help you as well (as of 12 weeks). I’m saying that because even after your 12 week Scan - when you’ve seen the heartbeat and all, there’s a looooong stretch to the 20 week scan and when you can’t feel the baby moving you still have no certainly at any point that everything is ok, although that’s of course the norm. And then once you DO feel the baby kicking, you worry about the times that you don’t feel them kick. And once they’re born you worry about them breathing, peeing, pooing, eating, walking, falling, bumping, running into roads and all. I hear you never stop worrying about your children - mine are 4 and 2, and I can certainly say that’s true so far!

My firstborn has an abnormal 20 week scan and we declined further testing (amniotisis or whatever it is called, where a needle is inserted into the amniotic fluid) as that carries a risk of miscarriage. I spent another 20 weeks worrying whether he might have cystic fibrosis or other potential birth defects that could impact his and our entire lives. In hindsight I wish I had relaxed more and enjoyed the pregnancy more, but that’s not easy.

With my second I fell down the stairs and even though I was checked, spent weeks worrying I’d caused her some damage. Both are healthy and fine but they could’ve probably both done with a bit more relaxed mummy!

All the best - and congratulations!

[Hidden]

Aww please try not to worry as all your signs are perfectly normal in a healthy pregnancy.

Even bleeding isn't always bad, not that you've had that, but I bled every month and didn't even know I was pregnant until I was 17 weeks with my third baby lol, I'd even done pregnancy tests that had come up negative and put myself on a very strict diet and exercise regime to lose the weight I thought I'd put on! Our daughter was born healthy, strong and a perfect weight. She's now 32 and pregnant with her first child.

It's natural to worry especially if it's something you really want but worrying won't change anything, your baby is tucked up nice and safe and your body is doing everything it should, just try to relax and soon enough you'll have a scan and see the heart beating which will be both amazing and reassuring.

Good luck with the appointment, hopefully it will help this all seem more real to you, it's always difficult in the first few weeks xxx

[Shem008]

I recommend trying mindfulness and relaxation techniques to help you through. It’s normal to worry. I was worried with my first pregnancy - unfortunately it came true and we lost our little one just before our first scan. But the majority of my friends had perfect first pregnancies! I am now pregnant again. It has been triple the worry this time round. I’m now 17weeks 4days and the pregnancy is going well. I still worry A LOT, to the point that I haven’t enjoyed this pregnancy as much as I was enjoying my first and the first scan was a relief rather than an exciting time. I’ll be having my second scan soon and I wish I had been able to enjoy things much more instead of worrying so much. The time has flown and I can’t get that back! It’s hard to not worry but maybe start a little Baby book or something so you can record the good things that are happening which will hopefully remind you to enjoy it all. And if by some unfortunate means the worst does happen, please know you are not alone and there are many support networks out there for you xxxx

[romaluna2015]

I agree with all of the previous comments. Lots of love and all the very best xx