Babies dad was sentenced today and won't be out of prison until July 2014. Really don't know how to feel......

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He was charged for fear & alarm to me and breach of peace. He's going to miss our baby being born! I am separated from him but i still love him, miss him and im so angry he's missing birth. But the other side is that i get to finish my pregnancy without him causing hassle and stressing me out. Im so confused........... Anyone been through this or any advice xx

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Hello I've not been in your situation but I really feel for you here.

I know you really love him, despite what he has done to you, but I think this could be the best outcome. He is away from you until after your baby is born, which means once you have come to terms with the sentence, you can relax, enjoy your pregnancy and prepare to have a nice happy environment for your baby.

When your ex is released, access is of course up to you, but if you do allow him access to the baby, you would hope that he has had the help he needs in prison and it may be the wake up call he has needed to make him change. (Some say people never change but I think some can!)

There will be services and help put in place to ensure you and your baby are safe while he is present.

Try not to get stressed, I know it's easier said than done but think of you and that little baby, make sure you talk to people and don't be afraid if asking your go/midwife for counselling to help you come to terms with thibgs. What has happens is tough for anyone to deal with, never mind a pregnant woman! X

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Well done for being strong, seeing it through and recognising what needed to be done to protect yourself and the baby. Now take one day at a time and focus on your pregnancy and getting ready for your baby. It'll all work out for the best in the end and right now you and baby are priority. Once the baby is here, your world will be a different place, just wait and see x

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Hi

I can understand your grief & expectedly upset about the fact your partner won't be able to be with you when your baby is born as any expectant mother would but as you said at least you'll be able to relax & be able to concentrate on the new arrival.

Just like the last replies I've personally never experienced what you're going through but Ive got 2 children & their honestly my whole world & I really don't know what I'd be doing without them so hopefully you'll feel the same once your Lil one arrives.

xx

All the best

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Reading this and your previous posts, I can see how much turmoil you've been in, the stress and the upset. You've been incredibly brave, and you should be proud of that - both for your well being and your baby's.

I can understand you feeling mixed emotions regarding him, but you've said it yourself - you can carry on the pregnancy in a much less stressful environment. I've never been in your situation, and I'm so sorry to hear that you have, but I think him being away from you is the best possible outcome.

Have you got any support networks in place, such as counselling? This will help you make sense of what's happened and how you are feeling.

As for when he leaves prison - you are under no obligation to allow him access to you or your baby, if you suspect he may be dangerous. As Rachgibson says, prison may have given him a good wake up call. At the time, take each day as it comes and seek professional advice.

Wishing you all the best, enjoy a happy, healthy rest of your pregnancy X