Just need to get it out if my chest, I am 31 weeks preg and get emotional and cry most of the time esp at night time

[Mummy4]

Can this cause any physical damage to the baby also is it normal, I know my hormones have taken over my body and my life???

[Hidden]

Some people do get incredibly emotional during pregnancy so in that sense it is normal for you....that is the path your hormones have decided to take. I don't think it will affect the baby but it's not very nice for you if you think there may be other things in your life contributing to this emotional response then try talking to friends and family, etc to get some more support and get things off your chest. If not, then it's part of the pregnancy ride unfortunately lol. If it gets you down a lot, maybe speak to your midwife or GP and post on here whatever you want, whenever you want. There is always someone on here to talk to x

[Mummy4 in reply to Hidden]

Morning Fattyboom, thank you so much for your kind response, it is so nice to be able to talk to some one without being judged, I think most of the stress is coming from the constant thinking about the impact of this baby on me and my life from A to Z, plus the fact that I already have 3 children 10,8 and 5 so I have just started taking full control of my life and working, travelling etc, also some people don't make it any easier for me when they notice that I am expecting again, some of the mums in my kids school have even called me crazy

[Hidden in reply to Mummy4]

You need to ignore people like this. Or if you can, say to them that you don't wish to be spoken to in this way and that you don't find their words helpful. I would be giving them a piece of my mind but I know not everyone is as harsh as me haha. Obviously the baby will impact your life in a huge way, but try and focus on the massively positive changes it brings as well. Your kids can help you with the baby too and will probably enjoy this. I've only just had my first and although he was planned and I've always known I wanted children, the change to my life still shocked me. From being able to just book a holiday freely to now not even popping to the toilet freely lol! I think we all entertain anxieties and stress about this at some time or other x

[Mummy4 in reply to Hidden]

So nice to be able to talk to other mums on this site and share our experiences. I asked mum to come and spend some time with me as she is abroad and I don't have any family in the UK.,I am hoping it will lift my spirit up.

[Hidden in reply to Mummy4]

That sounds like a great plan. When the baby comes, go to some mum and baby groups to get some extra support and chance to get to know mums in your area too. It's nice to have that time. I need to find another group to go to in fact as I moved to a new area just before the baby was born. It was nice to see how other mums are doing and see people worry about the same things as me x

[Mummy4 in reply to Hidden]

Good luck Fattyboom and glad you are enjoying motherhood xx

[Hidden]

I've cried all day some days of this pregnancy, hormones are a pain! I found writing down all my worries and concerns helped me and talking to my husband about them. Get together with some supportive friends, how dare people be so rude to you, its your choice, it's amazing how quickly people forget how emotional being pregnant is. I burst into tears at a baby group a few weeks back, my 22 month old is going through a hitting phase if another child gets too close to her or a toy she's playing with and another mum had a go at me about it. She admitted to having a bigger gap between her children so hadn't experienced what I was and hadn't thought about how I might be feeling.

There are lots of mums in the area I live in now St Neots with 5 or 6 children, I don't think I could do it, but I have the utmost respect for you.

One of my friends posted something on Facebook about having four children makes less stressed parents than having three, so you're doing yourself a favour in the long run! Take care.

[Mummy4 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you Winnie258, I tend to smile and put on a brave face when someone makes a nasty comment because otherwise I know my tears will take over, they don't realise how much pain their words can cause, and they think that they are being funny, I hope it's just a phase am going through, my biggest worry is whether my emotions will not mount a wall between me and the baby.

[Hidden in reply to Mummy4]

If you can talk to your midwife about this as she'll be able to direct you to someone who should be able to help. Or contact the free Nct helpline, they can put you in contact with people that have had similar experiences and that might help to make you feel better. Remember you're not alone, other people have gone through these feelings before you, but you need to deal with them for all your family's sake. Big hug.

From Nct website:

If you or someone you know needs the support of the Shared Experiences Helpline, call 0300 330 0700 on Monday - Friday from 9am – 7pm. You can leave a message outside of these hours and someone will call you back.

nct.org.uk/about-nct/what-w...

[Mummy4 in reply to Hidden]

Thanks for your support Winnie, will def let my MW know

[Hidden]

I'm sorry and surprised to hear that some other Mums are being unkind! All I can suggest is to ignore their comments - they're probably jealousy fuelled. Also, imagine that Harry Potter has come along and blown them up like he did to his cruel Aunt - it's daft, but it makes me smile (I'm sorry if you don't know what I'm on about!)

Being hormonal is normal. If it's any consolation, I'm a mess! I've gotten worse with anxieties, I cry at absolutely nothing, then laugh ten minutes later, then cry again!!

Writing down why I'm so upset has helped - I do it as a 'mood chain'. For example:

1) Action - Either big, or something very mundane and irrelevant - E.G “There's no clementines in the house"

2) Immediate thought and emotion - E.G "Bloody hell, I really wanted those clementines", feeling disappointed.

3) Further thought and emotion - E.G "My OH went to the shops the other day, why didn't he get any clementines?"

4) Change in raging hormone emotion E.G "HOW DARE HE FORGET TO GET CLEMENTINES!" (anger)

5) Regret at previous emotion, E.G "Oh my God, I'm a horrible girlfriend"

6) Crying.

7) Crying, because I'm crying

This example is a silly issue and looks a bit bonkers, but it happened the other day and I did cry a lot! But, looking back at it, I can see that I was hormonal and there is nothing to worry about.

But whether your problems are big or small, or even a bit crazy because you're craving clementines, writing them down or getting them off your chest really does help!

Ok, I'm waffling on now, and I probably don't make any sense. I hope it is coherent in some way, and that it helps! X

[Mummy4 in reply to Hidden]

Thanks Apple tea and don't worry I understand what you are talking about and what you mean, my daughter is a big fun of Harry Potter.

I guess I just need to take each day as it comes .

[muffin1983]

I am the same especially at night. But i know its hormones and all the changes and bad luck i have recently. You need to find out whats making you feel emotional and try and find a way of making it better. Speak with friends or family for support or even midwife / Gp . Hope you feel better xx i know its hard trying to beat these emotions i am still trying to at 30 weeks. But i know it will all be worth it when baby comes. That's the only thing keeping me going xx please stay positive x

[Mummy4 in reply to muffin1983]

You know muffin telling friends is something I find hard to do as they have always known me to be the strongest and I am the one usually at hand to help, and as for my family they live in a different country although I speak to them regularly they haven't got a clue about what I am going through, just writing this comment made me v teary

[Hidden in reply to Mummy4]

But it's ok to ask them for help for a change...I'm sure they would rather know how you're really feeling, rather than bottling it up (imagine if it was the other way round, I'm sure you would want to know?) In terms of hormones and pregnancy, what you're feeling is temporary and will pass. Because your family are so far away, you will need your friends more than before. If you can't find the words to tell them face to face, perhaps write an email or text? X

[Mummy4 in reply to Hidden]

Thanks for your advice Apple tea I am thinking about telling my hubby first tonight as we sleep in different rooms now due to me snoring now and needing more space he has no idea what I go through every night

[Hidden in reply to Mummy4]

Telling him is a good idea, and also a brave and honest thing to do

My OH and I are nearing the stage of other rooms - I'm 20+4 and can't get comfortable at night, as well as everything and anything being on my mind! X

[muffin1983 in reply to Mummy4]

My friend said to me yesterday that I've always been the strong one but she now understands that even the strongest of people have there downs. That made me cry. . Look if u ever need anyone to talk to im here. But i am not the happiest myself.

Sometimes even talking to anyone might help. Just now i feel like the loneliness person in the world. I have lots of friends and family but they have there own lifes. This website seems to make me feel abit more supported its weird xx

[Mummy4]

Dear Muffin thank you ever so much for your kind words and moral support you too feel free to talk to me whenever you want who knows maybe we can make each other stronger and sharing our worries and ups and downs with in this site amongst the mums and bumps will ease off our anxiety and low moods.