break up:/

[confusedteenager]

im 22 weeks pregnant, my boyfriend and i broke up - well he left me.. says he cant be with me anymore.

i have had depression for years and its getting a lot worse now that im off my meds, i know i can be a bitch.

i need him in my life and i break down and cry all day because of what's happening at the moment.

[michellem30]

The most important thing right now is to look after yourself and your baby. I have an 8 month old boy and being a Mum is the best feeling in the world. If your boyfriend can leave you at the time you need him most then you don't need him in your life. Try to put things into perspective. Life could be a whole lot worse. It might not seem that way just now. I was on medication for depression before I was pregnant. Had to stop whilst pregnant but went back on after I gave birth. I am currently coming off medication. This is a very emotional time and I completely understand your feelings but just think in another 28 weeks time you will be a mum and it's amazing. Keep your chin up xx

[Butterfly1mich]

Hi. I'm sorry to hear about your break up.

But please believe me when I say that you don't need him in your life. It'd be nice if he chose to stay but you can't have someone around who isn't going to be stable or supportive for you and your baby.

I can say this from experience as I had my first daughter at 17 and me and her father stuck it out because we thought it was the right thing to do. We should never have done it because it was a hideous environment for my daughter to grow up in.

I won't lie and say its easy doing it on your own because it's not but it's a lot easier just focusing on you and baby and getting on with your futures then also having to deal with an unsettled relationship as well.

Focus on you and baby and on getting better when he/she is born and eventually the right man who will love you unconditionally and support you through anything will come along. I promise you this.

Good luck with everything.

Xxxx

[BubbaG]

Morning,

I feel for you honey,

The relationship with me and my babies father broke down when I was six months pregnant and I was totally devastated. I am also prone to depression and I guess there is no magic solution to take you away from how you must be feeling right now.

Like the others say you need to focus on your little one inside you. I tried so hard to just focus on my bump and my health but I still never slept at night and I was worrying about everything from how I would cope, going back to work, my family and then on top of that I was really worried about how all this stress was going effect my baby. My LO was perfect when she was born but she did come a month early!

Maybe your partner is stressing over becoming a dad and all the demands that come with it. Most men do come around once they see their baby.

Do not blame yourself for being hard work. Most of us women can be hard work and when pregnant we are ten times worse. You are worth more than that.

Keep your chin up and at least on here you can get support from others.

Take Care xx

[dkokosi]

Hi There,

I am really sorry to hear about your break up.But as the other girls told before me ..if he can leave you at this time than you dont need him in your life!My boyfriend left me at the moment he got to know that im pregnant..for now he says he needs time..It is a lot worst when he comes every 2nd week than i dont know nothing about him.He doesnt pick up the phone etc..

For me what helps a lot is my baby!try to concentrate on your baby!I signed up for Pregnancy yoga and it does make mirracle helps you a lot to relax and cut your thinking off for a while!

Cheer up you gonna be a Mum soon which i believe going to be wonderful

take care xxx

[Pickle1990]

Hi,

Me and my boyfriend were in a similar situation. When I first found out there were regular occasions where he would tell me that its over and leave. We spoke about it recently & he said it was because he was worried and that he didnt feel like a dad at the point. He's not great at expression of emotions so for him it was easier to just walk away but he did always come back. I understand how your feeling, I was worried I wouldn't be able to cope even though we are together but something just kicked in when my daughter was born. Its hard at times but then your baby smiles & you seem to forget everything. I hope everything works out for you x

[muffin1983]

Im going through the same. And i came off my fluxotine when i found out I was pregnant. I had to leave my boyfriend as he was drinking and being abusive but i feel like i need him and miss him so much.

The crying might ease. You need to be strong for baby. Im 29 weeks and have bad & good days. Is there anyone else that can support you rather than him such as a best friend, mum etc.

Maybe space might do you good and things might look up for you's in future. Just try and be strong and look after yourself for the little baby growing inside you. X