my family has been undying critics and know it all for thirty years.....they tell me how it is.......when i divorced my ex for being abusive........my famly was all over me and called me a coward.....when i lost a job wrongfully at the usda because of a jerk of a boss..........was my fault.........when i stand up and defy bad orders for patients........tis because i cant hold down a job.....same when i do an excelelt job with stable owners.........who dont like to pay..............my familiy believes its my fault....and most horse people are honest and doin their best (total crock).....now they sent me a letter saying how they have been there for me these past years and they want me to change my ways and
really???
im wrong and they endlessly fault me when actually its the other way aroudn and they.....beleive they have bene there for me and so patient?? calling me a coward for divorcing a mean wife to my son?? always my fault but they have been patient and ? im being unreasonable??
oh.....
thanks for letting me vent..........needless to say..............i have no intentions of venting nor selling myself to these idiot know it alls............i was a professor and diretor for ten years.............they tell me how it is..........i was a contractor and vet anestheisiologist and er doc............they tell me ..........how it is..........adn how unreasonble i am .............
oh..........
u wonder why guys like me........appreciate people like u.....
unreal.....
id rather go back to the woods......than accept help from these morons .........unreal.
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That is how I feel about my family too. 🙂. Best wishes.
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thanks u guys are my real familiy.....helps tons....
We all have to forge our own way through life Brig57 and I always wondered why others are so quick to criticise when life's tough for everyone. Eventually I concluded that it's to cover their own shortcomings and lack of self esteem.Of course we all make decisions which we wish we hadn't and we make others to adjust. What we can't do is to follow all of the criticisms of others in making those adjustments. Life would be unliveable. So believe in yourself and ignore their criticisms. Most of us actually don't wait to be asked for advice but give it far too freely, but still, don't be too hard on them. Because it just shows that they are flawed human beings too, as we all are. Make your own choices and then there's just one person who can do the blaming, and that's you! Listen to your own heart!
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thank u ....i do value your words....years ago i was working to develop my independence and social contribution through vet med and teaching riding clinicias on the side to pay for things........ardent self actalizer in defiance of my mother.....who used doctors and counselors to crush me..........so if i sound tentaive.......i learned state power...........learned how outrageous and moronic doctors can be and have fought privately for thirty years to recover....even now my family who have stood against me......tell me they are tired of being there for me and want me to fall in line........
it blows ur mind.......hwo much people have to stand alone...fight the innane stupidid of family...........who assume the worst........taken six years to get my family to realize they misinterpret everything and dont ask and then once again say....what burden i am and how supportive they have been (standing against me each and any time....and tired of being supoortive........................what????) and then have to deal with moronic counselors..................u fight alone and no one has any clue whats going on ..............get screwed by bosses......wrongly and once again......fight alone...........save for people here...................who have been in your shoes................unbelievable so called family...........how many times are u jobe........gets real old..
thank u...........ive walked alone moving away from my family and netg people most fo my life................from controllers and narcisistic family who love to be controlling and domineering.......................
moving away from them once again...once again findint who u can trust and onece again....findint out whenever u turn your cheek and trust certain people....
u get burned....................but .......they show their hand..........never again.............turst certain people but u find who u can trust..............and know when to ignore innnane ccousnleors and their inepereince..........like they know..........just cookie cutter counselors..............they dont knw u or your history or your family........
u do indeed have to trust your instrincts.............
once again a sense of betrayal but this too shall pass................and why i chose to be so careful about accepting help
but they show themselves and u learn nothig has changed
find out who invaluable peole here are......
thank u
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foetunately those who betray me....will answer to the higher counsels and face their reveiw boards on their way to the final ascent........i dont have to do anyting or retaliate..............they win temparily ..........and lose the patient.....my trust my business..............and have to face their maker too......u did what? to a patient???
that always makes me feel somewhat better................but people here do make a big difference....
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bad leaders bad counselors are useful too ultimately......what not to do........good lessons ........hope im never that way to others ..........useful lessons too.................really takes time getting to konw peopel in theri element..........stay away from toxic anyone..........lifes too short.......
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i agree....usually the critids are those who sit inthe bleachers.......i was the one coachint the kids without........and got crucified for it.......being an elitists and other total garbage................
peopel dont know u and jump to conclusions........have to learn to ignore them and walk away from people and their innane biases and false perceptions and realze they dont know u at all...............just talk at u with their biases.............have to tuen them out ignroe them as always........................get back on your road.........ignore the so called experts without experence......im defiant.............rightly of oppression...........
By all means listen and filter through the opinions of others but your opinion is gold and you must respect it. I think you cope admirably and you can sound off to us whenever you like. Con amore Bx
my early life was complicated very...and i had to carefully maneuver to escape mycontroling family............only people here get it..........ive never had anyone in my corner........before..............takes survivors to understand......and liek a circus family.....we get each other and are very protective.........i cant thank u enought and while i lack the words..........can never tell u how much i aprpeciate what u all have done for me....yes i didnt liek venting ......or being negative...........many here have been so very helpful.........directly or indirectly...................words inadquate...thank u.
I am the youngest of five... and I say that I have a lot of distant relatives but no family - so I know what it is like to "get no support" from family.
I am now 71, and they did, eventually, conceded that my late wife was "The best thing that ever happened to me".
ooh partner........i sooo get .............how a wo=man can be the ultimate compesnation for the love and warmth a man never got and what a miracle.........a woman woman..................can be...................us men can live in an emotional desert if we are aroudn the wront peopole whereas the right woman.................omg.....i so get what are saying .................thank u .....u could not be more......rght...........
im sure u were a great and devoted husband.............
Good grief; You are probably better qualified than all your family; Do you know what I think? They are jealous of your qualifications and achievements, and want to bring you down to their level.
Is there any way you could get away from them, or are you tied in to a family Business with the horses?
It sounds very toxic.
Just read a bit I missed- Circus family; well known for being tight knit clans. Can you get far from them at all, as it sounds as if you would be better off.
i have my circus family here.....u know.....the giant protects the short man who is the tall man to him who helps him tie his shoes........and fiercely loyal to each other....u guys hear.
yes...their perception of being tired of being there for me is defendint abusive es and abusive bosses and keeping cinderella under their thumb.....yes i dont have to udnerstand. them.........i jsut know..........how ludricous they perceptions are.......
yes.....i know to move and stay away from toxic people .........and who real family is vs biologic
ask any foster kid or those adopted by lovin g parents
Thank GOD for friends. You can't pick your family, but you do get to pick your friends. I love my biological family, but there are some family members I really don't like to spend too much time with , and maybe vice versa😇.😐
i apgize if i say too much too strongly..........i chose my friends....not busdisky family or doctors or anyone............what buiness is it of theres.........my lifestyle my friends are my business..........as a grwon man..........
who wrote the laws of social regulation of the approved whatever.......so cowbys ust wear business suits....no .....everond must wear lab close or scrubs.....or
im interested in who u are and teh welbeing of my fiends.....wh o used to live in afree america.....not the pc america.......
so doctors are going to tell truck drivers whats right and wrong??
or bakers??
based on what experience??/
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i shouldnt say this too loudly, but one way of both honoring people that have been there for us....and send a message to the mean people .......is memorials, dedciations such a donations in people memory or honor...even if a penny or fifty cents or leave a note in your will......funding certain causes or people and others who have betrayed us or have been nasty to us.........somehow all the funds and supprot go those who have been kind to us...........i know how it sounds.......but i can live with empowering the kind people .....the mean people have more than enough in my book.........my money or assets can go the people or causes i believe in.......it my will my say......imagine leaving an insurance policy to someone u secretly admired but couldnt say......or to his or her cause.........or plant a perpetual tree in a forest in their name.........name a tree, name a road or trail......doesnt have to be official....plant a flower.....hang a wind chime....make a perpetual bird feeder or bench .....countless ways.........leave graffiti on a wall............so and so cares about so and so........so they paint it over.............still there..............make a painting underneath a painting.............your list of peple u honor or care about......underneath an inoquous painting ............repaint part of your house.....and under teh paint.....write your message fo the peopl eu care about........
hilarious............teh nice people do win in the end.........let the crows have their day.........wont last forever.....................the nice pepole will.............
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You can't pick your family, but you do get to pick your friends. 
, and maybe vice versa😇.😐
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