Need to talk my boyfriend broke up with me I keep crying and didn’t sleep at all last night
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Hello again was it a argument and is it the first time do you think you can get back with him and what is he like with you he may not be suitable for you in the long run, it's normal to cry at first and very painful but this will pass in time as you start to accept it xx
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He broke up with me because of my mental health and found another girl no chance of going back
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Well then he isn't right for you, he doesn't sound very compassionate and quite fickle to get someone else like that, I'm sorry but there's no quick fix you could make a list of his bad points and foccus on them rather than dwell on the good times,and try and distract your mind keep busy doing something you enjoy, I believe in fate and one day when the times right someone that is right for you and understands your needs and puts you first will come along, some people don't love properly and this man sounds like that your lovely and deserve and will get better, please don't drink alcohol it will make you feel worst do you have any family you can talk to xx
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Ok thanks nope no family
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Are you having treatment for your mental health like counselling if not I would ring doctor and ask for this and it will help you get through this xx
(no family)
then keep talking here!!!
there will be people here - and we will listen!!!
we care and we feel your pain with you!
Ok will do thanks
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I noticed you put something about drink on one of your other posts have you been wanting to drink alcohol
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Yes
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Have you had alcohol today I used to binge drink when upset it nearly killed me you need to get help with this if your having a lot of regular how much are you having and what xx
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Nope I haven’t
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Really well that shows your strong to be able to resist turning to it I find food is a comfort or chamomile tea bit you probably not much appetite sometimes we don't feel hungry but when you start you realise you are and will enjoy it have you got any favourite TV programmes you can try get absorbed in them as it will give your mind a break each day that passes you will feel better as your mind accepts it, do you have a pet and also can you get out for a safe brisk walk or run it will give you a mood lift and tire you so you will sleep better you need to foccus on that each day that passes your heeling from this heartbreak, and I'm a expert it will pass that's a promiss 😊
Dogmad600 in reply to
Can’t walk now dark no tv I like I listening to radio
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No not now put a radio talk show on don't listen to sad music do you think you can make some warm milk or milky cocoa and have a chocolate biscuit for your supper or something not too hard to digest will help you sleep I need to pop away for ten minutes xx
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Ok I can’t eat
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I'm just having some chamomile tea when it cools some others be here soon or you can look up new posts just come on and get chatting to someone while someone contacts you my cat pixie is meowing he's woke up so much for my sleep lol 😁 he's a right live wire when he wakes your name says dog mad so you have a dog perhaps xx
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No I just like dogs I’m going to try and sleep
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Yes but buy some chamomile tea bags tomorror I shop on line now I don't feel safe in supermarkets near me so unless you can shop safely have milky cocoa or hot milk I get Morrisons in a blue box with daisy's on if you start to cry just think of his horrible bits night night 🌷xxx
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Ok thanks
Hi Curly,
I happened on your post just now, and read that you used to "binge drink when upset it nearly killed me". I am so low and hurt all the time now, and nothing is helping. I have begun drinking, and wish you would talk to me. I don't think I can't be talked out of drinking when the hurt is so unrelenting, that's not what I'm asking. Just talk to me about it. Please. I told my psychiatric nurse-practitioner that I have begun drinking because the pain is so bad, and she was worthless. She wouldn't even respond to me telling her the prescription I am taking doesn't work at all anymore.
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Hi I'm not too good right now so tired but will do my best all u can say is you need to quit drinking to regain your true brain it's chemicals change with alcohol I stopped drinking and eventually I wasn't bothered sweets helped other things to turn to like swimming walking in nature bit I had a set back lately thought I'd have a couple had bottle wine could have harmed me I realise there's no cure as far as I know other than don't have much in see AA too I went there there's lots of supporting people I like a few drinks when I'm sad happy it's the extra one that make you not want to stop I'm lucky as don't have addictive personality, I'm sorry can't be more helpful but I do dilute my drinks if wine have half alcohol or hot water and turn to food after a few and it stops me but not always I had too much to drink one night and fell backwards over my cat, my liver count was unusually and my immune low is been drinking nearly every night as was under so much stress I'm very health concious too tho that helps and chamomile tea lol take care 💛🌟🌷
Take care of yourself Curly. Sorry you're tired and not too good right now. Thanks.
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Please get in touch with AA a lot in there are same and don't want to binge or stop just want to be normal the thing is so many who are normal aren't and don't know there bingers I can't wait to get swimming again diversion best policy stay foccussed and look after your health hugs from me and pixie 💛🌷😸😁xx
Pixie?
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My cat lol check out my posts pixie does his own too lol and check out bazzaks were trying to get everyone laughing as we're all real sceard and unsure about the future so I'm focussing on cheering everyone up with funny posts night night xx
I also had drinking problems I attend aa women’s meeting 24/7 it’s amazing so much support
A real meeting or online? (I don't have Zoom.) It doesn't seem as though online would be much use, is it?
hi dogmad;
i'm so sorry to hear about the pain you're enduring ... this is some of the worst pain we can deal with.
Hidden asked some great questions...
do you want to talk about the nature of the breakup? what lead up to it? what your BF's issues are? did he give you any warning?
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whatever you want to share... there's plenty here to listen...
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Hi I'm waiting for her to reply but im really tired so I'll just wait a bit longer now your here if that's ok xx
Thanks he said because of my mental health and found another girl
dogmad...
tx for sharing more....
if that's his reason - then as hard for you to hear this as i know it is....
you're better off w/o that guy!!!!
he did you a favor - if he doesn't accept you for ALL OF YOU - then you don't need that influence in your life!!!
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if he can't handle something like mental illness - i can only imagine the lack of support he would've offered you if you had to deal with a life-threatning problem - or a death in your family.
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i KNOW your pain!!!! been there. done that. it sucks beyond words. the pain is as bad as any other pain you can endure....
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BUT KNOW THIS: thank him (in your head) for showing his true colors now, rather than 10 yrs down the road!!! you deserve FAR better than this. and after you get beyond this pain - and you will - you will be free and clear to seek someone that cares about you - ALL OF YOU!!!!
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keep crying - let it out! keep talking - let it out!!
you will get past this - stronger, and better... a far better you will emerge from this !!!!
Thanks I will keep talking here love this site Feel so alone
dog - you may be isolated - but you are NOT alone!!!!
there is much love here; and it's going out to you!
💜💜💜💜💜
Thanks I feel alone
i darn well know you do.... you've had a hole ripped in your gut.
but you are not alone... everyone in this thread is with you. and as others see it; they will be too.
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almost everyone has been thru what you're going thru. we all know your pain.
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and we're here for you....
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i gotta break for dinner mtg; but will be back as soon as i can.
Never ever alone, you have us and God xx
Yes I know that
There are a lot of very wise and caring people here to judge from the many replies you already received. I agree with them. You deserve better than this. Real love doesn’t find another girlfriend or break up because of a medical condition whether physical or mental. Talk to your counselor and try to keep busy. It really will help. Everyone is here for you.
hey dogmad -
checkin in - how you doin?
Sorry to hear of your pain. Since he has been able to turn you aside at a time when you need his support most you will, in time, come to recognise that he wasn’t the right person for you. It is an old cliche people trot out, but time really does help to ease your overwhelming loss and raw feelings . Hang in there and keep safe 🌺
Oh dear lovely, never nice at end of relationships but stay strong and try to think good thoughts. Sorry you are so sad xx😪😪
I really feel for you vsoneone one day will come along who will love you unconditionally cry if you need to listen to yr radio and out some nice cheery music on x
Try not to worry, I know it is upsetting but there is an old saying ‘plenty more fish in the sea’ and you maybe pleasantly surprised. Your next fellow could be the one. I really hope so. Keep your chin up, all these things happen for a reason.
Hello Dogmad600 although I am 78, I can still remember the pain of broken relationship and wish that, in my day, we had social media. My advice to you is to love yourself and feel responsible for your feelings. Use meditation to clear your mind of unwanted thoughts .. try youtube for free meditation recordings and I hope it hellps.
I am a guy and I think he is scum for treating you that way. He is in for a surprise. People are never going to find the "perfect" person. When people get older some will develop health issues and others will have problems with marital issues because of trust and health. I've seen the perfect couple in school, got married and kids, just to decide they aren't right for each other 15 to 20 years down the road. Besides I stead of boyfriends have boys that are friends. In time they will know more about you and accept you for who you are. He know know about your quirks and you will find out his. It will be easier this way than to know about your/his issues and decide you're best off as friends. Less heart aches this way. Best of luck.
It happened to me 50 years ago, but after a while, I met a man who became my hubby and I had two children. I understand your pain. Music that you like is a good idea. I wish you had a cat or dog. They are a comfort at times like this. ❤️
I hope you're feeling a bit better today. I agree with all the great replies that you've already had. When I think back I simply cannot believe the states I used to get in over breakups of relationships that were so obviously not right but incredibly toxic! I stayed in them or kept clinging on only because I was insecure and felt I'd not find any better, Now I am with the most amazing man anyone could ever meet,. We have not been apart since meeting 25 years ago and he has accepted me in every way possible, not once tried to change a thing, and taken each new struggle that has come with my health totally in his stride!lThere is someone like this out there for you too, and now you are free to find them! Xxx
It’s hard with Covid
Oh dear sorry to hear that -how long were you together.When my boyfriend acrimoniously broke up with me I had a breakdown & was practically suicidal. I cried virtually everyday because of what I gave up for him & the fact he came to me to ask me to take him back on the very first time he broke it up -this acrimonious break up was the 2nd.
It took me a while to get over it & I have ben for a long while now because we broke up in 2008
Like curly1 said -it will be painful intitially & in time it will pass & while youre learning to accept it
Hello Dogmad600
Time heals everything. One day you will miraculously know that you are much better off than with someone who does not cherish you. Blessings.
Sorry to hear about your breakup, it’s a crap situation but if he broke up with you cos of your mental health then he ain’t right for you.. take the time to focus on yourself and get yourself in a different mind set.. the fact he has got another girlfriend tells me he didn’t think much of you to start with no offence..
I turn to the Lord when I need help and support. Also K-Love radio which can be listened to online : listen.klove.com
So sorry for you, but he'll realize he lost a good thing. Keep your head up 😉
I am sorry to hear this. I know its hard but with time it will get better. You will find better and someone who you deserve. Blessings
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