I'm in my final trimester of pregnancy I don't want to blame my feelings on that .
I've always got tonnes of house work
I'm a social media influencer so always have content to make
work a part time job on top
I've got a lot to do but I feel like I can't get motivated to do it which is causing Bordem and laziness any advise
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Trust me you are not the only one my love! We all have these days! You soon be busy with your lovely baby! I had 4 children under the age of 5 years old! Crazy but now I am glad as they get really well on with each other! Was hard work with lots of lack of sleep and also tears, but lots of fun! This moody weather at that time of year doesn't help really!
Could you not meet up with a friend and go outside for a walk? It does clear the head!
May be you taking too much on in your pregnancy? Only you know!
Sometimes the way you feel, lack of motivation, is a sign of getting depressed!
Please talk to someone you can trust as well!
May be it will put things in perspective again for you! Christiane ❤️
I'm wondering if I'm getting depressed as I'm not happy with my work situation it's been on my mind a lot . I went back after being furloughed a colleague was very mistreaty it triggered a lot of emotion off for me and I really feel like I don't want to go back I've not got long before maternity but it's making me think I shouldn't go back after as what started out as a great job has turned into a place I haven't progressed or had any training as the last manager refused my training I'm wondering how long can I carry on but then there's tonnes of people without a job so I'm thinking I should be great full i have a decent life financially
Hang in there even if it's tough! Don't give up right! Before your baby is born speak to your partner! Be open and explain what is happening in your workplace! Yes it can make you depressed but talking to a person you can trust I think is very important now for you! You holding all these feelings in! PLease don't darling! I don't know which part of the UK YOU LIVE, I looked up for some councelling, but that isn't available near me where I could self refer myself to! I have a look!
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I've spoke to my partner he understands!he has told me to decide if I what to leave ultimately but I just don't want to regret it either when so many people need work.i only have 6 week till my leave so I'm going to look for something else on maternity leave or decide when I've finished I have 3 other children aswell so maybe I'm just taking a lot on but hate the feeling of no motivation but I'm finding myself doing pointless things when I'm off and it's frustrating when I need to clean things and so forth don't get me wrong house isn't messy I'm just strict and want things more pristine and perfect dosent help that I have to use social media aswell sometimes I do take a break from it just wish I had all those perfect houses(think mrs hinch)
My lovely, you have a baby on the way, and things will be tough for a while, so to my way of thinking...... do whatever you need to make you happy, assuming you live in the Uk, you will have maternity leave coming up, use that to think about whats best for you..... above everything....... be happy!! 😀😘🌹
Thankyou ❤️
Your welcome, I’m just an old man with a lifetime of experience behind me!
Just wait until little baby arrives - your heart will just swell and you'll wonder what you were ever anxious about as bringing up a baby is FAR more important than anything else! Just wait before you do anything rash as you'll get paid your maternity pay which will be a great help and then you can choose not to return. Try to be easy on yourself and enjoy this time as your baby can sense your discomfort and feeling unmotivated is totally fine in the last trimester. Just marinate as much as you can meanwhile. Good luck with everything. x
Thankyou I have 3 already but work has become an added stress especially as I had an insensitive colleague on my first day back from furlough
Making a list and sticking to routine works for me most of the time. If I'm really too tired to move, at this time of year, I would update my christmas card list and type letters to one or two that are not online. Also I have dishes outside for ground feeding bird food and water top up every day and this 'wakes me up' [most times] hope this helps x
Hi Afrohair, I agree that just because you've reached your final trimester in pregnancy, it doesn't mean that you want or need to switch off from everything. So maybe this is just a vicious cycle in which you became demotivated and just can't motivate yourself again.When I occasionally get this, (and I have during this last lockdown), I've taken time out to write down the possible things that I might like to do. Then I've picked the most appealing and just plain old made myself go and do it. Getting absorbed in one thing is often the route into enjoying others again.
With regard to your response about dissatisfaction at work, it's fine to feel that way. You don't have to feel grateful for having a job you aren't happy in. That won't help the jobless at all and although it's great to have empathy with others it doesn't mean you have to be always cheerful. It's better to acknowledge the problems there are. It doesn't mean you don't have to do the job, but you should cut yourself some slack and congratulate yourself on managing to do it at all in these trying times and whilst you are also caring for a family during pregnancy. It's not at all easy. 🌈🌺
That is how I'm feeling like I have to force myself to get motivated again x
How are the other three? Are they supporting you?
Are they looking forward to having another sibling?
A friend of my brother missed having three children under two by a fortnight!
My other 3 are at school during term time and yes they are looking forward to it a lot I have a 4 ,6 and teenager ready to leave school they are not really an issue for me it is just my self motivation and career un satisfaction I had to hold off a lot of my career due to illness and feel like a lot of time has been wasted though I know sickness can't be helped this in turn has affected my maternity leave and I won't be eligible for a good package like some people I wasn't expecting to get pregnant quickly again though I'm very happy I lost a baby last year so thought it wouldn't happen again this baby is a miracle and a blessing
Hi Afrohair,
It is very hard to get motivated these days, with the Covid and all, whilst we are stuck indoors.
People have been complaining about feeling demotivated for a few weeks now, some can't be asked to wash or use deodorant or even clean teeth. It is a form of depression, but when it is safe to go out again it should lift, but that doesn't help us Now.
Look forward to your lovely baby and try not to worry. Housework is amazingly patient, it will wait for you. You don't need to be the Cleaning Queen, in fact it's probably better for your kids to be able to get messy outside to help develop their immune systems.
Are you in the UK or the USA? In UK there is a good Maternity package of time off and money, but I appreciate things are very different in the States. If in UK I would try to stay in work until your Maternity pay begins, They can't get rid of you while on Maternity Leave, which will give you time to bond with Baby, also time to research other possibilities for work afterwards, if you decide you really can't face going back to a toxic workplace.
Cheers, Midori
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