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Positive Wellbeing During Self-Isolation

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An article in my magazine

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I read this today and resonated with it. We've been through some very difficult unprecedented times but I realise how fortunate I've been. I've not lost a loved one like some have and have been able to get out and exercise in the beautiful countryside, have food on the table, a comfy bed, have a lovely supportive husband and family.

My thoughts are with those that have lost loved ones.

Take care and stay safe all.

AliciaπŸ§˜β€β™€οΈπŸ•‰πŸŒˆπŸ˜Š

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I lost a very dear friend to covid19 who I had known for thirty years, when he passed away, his body was sealed in a coffin at the hospital, before the undertaker removed him to thier chapel of rest..... his wife couldnt see his body before he was cremated!

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That is so sad. How is she coping now?

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I think I remember you saying that, didn't you say how the community turned out to support his wife? It's sad when someone dies but in these times it's got to be very hard.

I hope his wife is getting a lot of live and support and I'm thinking of you as friends are wonderful.

Take careπŸŒΌπŸ§˜β€β™€οΈπŸ•‰

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I couldn't imagine how difficult that must have been for his wife Don, heartbreaking. xx

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That is a shame, but a safety requirement unfortunately, as bodies still shed the virus.

Cheers, Midori

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This is so very true, thoughtful and considerate. A post to remind us all to be very grateful for all around us. Thanks for sharing this, a diary is always a good idea. πŸ˜ŠπŸ‘πŸŒΌ

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It really is Bobby and a diary is a very good way to write down your thoughts and then look back on how you were. The simple things in life mean a lot.πŸ§˜β€β™€οΈπŸŒˆπŸ™

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Very well said cf. xx

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It certainly is, I enjoyed reading it🌼🌈

Hi Alicia, First and foremost, I add my thoughts for everyone who has lost someone during this crisis. So many people who started out the year never dreamed they would lose someone before the year was half over.

But I haven't been able to keep my diary during lockdown or the pandemic. I'm sure that someone (or many people) are keeping magnificent records of all that's gone on, so that years and years on, our descendants can read about this horrible time, just as we can read Samuel Pepys. Normally I like to make a few notes in my diary on at least a weekly basis. Maybe I can't because I normally like to be lighthearted and it's been hard to be that.

But, like you, I have come through it all, as yet, unscathed, and have lots to be grateful for. πŸ™πŸ‘

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I agree Hidden , who would have thought such an awful time would be bestowed upon us, we didn't even think this would happen when it started in China. I thought, ah, just like the bird flu and didn't really come to anything, how wrong I was. I think we do all need to spare a thought that have lost loved ones.

I've not kept a diary either, I think that's because I'm keeping a very comprehensive food diary and that's taken up a lot of time. Not only do I hand write my diary I also type it up,this means I have a permanent record and am able to send a copy to the Dietician. People that have kept diaries will look back and think 'did it really happen'!

A lot of us have quite a lot to be thankful for and that's what we need to think about.

Stay safe and well and take care.

Alicia xxπŸŒˆπŸ™πŸ˜Š

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That's what I had thought at first it was going to be like the bird flu thing back in 2009 that didn't come to anything when a colleague had cried because her trip to mexico might not be happening when I had suggested postponing and doing something else that she fancied instead and see about Mexico another time and she had cried saying how she had really set her heart on Mexico! She did go after all that though.

When I first heard the coronavirus whispers I had thought it was a wind up about exams being cancelled and schools closing without any kind of warning as it sounded like something off a horror film but no it wasn't and never did I think it would cause the trouble that it did with the panic buying fiasco back in March and the cancelled events!

I feel now not getting those jobs I went for pre covid was a blessing in disguise as it really would have hurt hard if I had got one of them and then told I was no longer required rather than having to wait a bit longer but in lots of ways I have a comfy bed as well and food to put on the table and got new hobbies out of this as it has put things into perspective for me and a changed outlook on life.

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Yes I didn't think it would amount to much so surprised us all. I've missed two holidays this year, one was booked for me to take part in a 26 mile challenge, I'm not bothered though as there are far more important things. I'm thinking about those that have lost loved ones and also those with mental health problems.

Yes the panic buying was ridiculous.

My daughter went for two jobs before the pandemic and we both said it's a good job she didn't get them.

Well done on your outlook and I totally agree with you. Health, happiness, food on the table and somewhere to sleep means a lot.πŸŒˆπŸ˜ŠπŸ™

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I am really sorry for those who are newly bereaved as well due to covid as its a real blow though when you lose someone like that without any kind of idea it's coming up and not to be able to visit them in hospital I felt was beyond cruel.

Yesterday I met my friend in the park for a walk and a sit down on the bench and a chat and she said I had a good attitude as well in spite of everything that's gone on with the toxic job and then this came up.

The toxic job during covid has increased the hours their offices are open whereas most places say like the bank are only open say 10/2 at present so it's right that that place is rotten to the core and those horrible managers were a symptom of that!

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It really must be so hard for those that are bereaved, particularly under these circumstances.

How lovely for you to meet your friend, it's great to catch up, aren't we fortunate.

I feel for those left in that workplace, I'm glad you're out of it which is good.

Alicia 😊🌈

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One colleague had said to me after I had had a crying fit after I had to sign a leaving form that I was better off out of the place and had said how it was disgusting the way they had treated me and how that had been unfair when they had said no to me taking leave to cut down on my months notice and had said I has taken too much holiday and was to pay it back which was fair enough and in itself didn't upset me no it was their spiteful attitude that was what did!

The friend I met with yesterday was an exceptional friend to me when that was going on, there for me when I had cried down the phone after a colleague had had a go at me there after I had cleared out my things from my desk saying to me well you could always stay and how it was said to me that had brought on the crying down the phone and my friend had said at the time how I didn't need people having a go at me at an emotional time as I had put the clearing my things out at the end of the workday for that reason and she had said how I hadn't needed to have explained anything at all to the colleague having a go and that she had no choice in the matter that I was going and there was nothing she could have done about it!

It meant a lot to me that she took the time with me when I had cried down the phone that afternoon and when I thanked her she had said there was no need to do that and how we all get times when we feel upset and how having said that to me when I was already in a distressed state after clearing out my desk was just nasty and spiteful really and how where there's no sense there's no feeling!

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I can fully understand how their spiteful attitude would have got to you.

How lovely to have a friend like that, worth their weight in gold.

You left with your head held high but fortunately it's all in the past now and you can move on. I've now moved on from the treatment I had in work and feel good now.

Take care

Alicia

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I have found that the passing of time has been of help and talking things through.

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Oh most definitely,time is a great healer.

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Sorry to hear that Md but glad that he's on the mend. x

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That's what happened to my husband. He had a heart attack but didn't know it and drove all the way back from Gloucester to North Somerset feeling absolutely awful. I took him to the doctors and after examining him and giving him an ECG, GP told him he was going to hospital as he had had a heart attack. It was really scary, hubby went off in an ambulance and I went home to get some things up together for him before following them there. He had two stents fitted too. Hope all goes well. x

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Yes thanks, he's OK - that was three or four years ago now but it really was scary. x

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That must be tough for her but hopefully this week will fly by and he'll be home again. x

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Absolutely. It is too easy to focus on ourselves. There are some very sad and tragic stories and I too am very grateful for my families safety and my safe environment. Shielding is a very small price to pay and a huge blessing at the same time albeit very difficult for some people. We are safe and protected because of it. x

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I agree Sheila.

Shielding is difficult and my youngest daughter only knows too well as she had to shield her youngest as she has JIA (Juvenile Idiopathic Arthritis (Uveitus)). She's been really good and my daughter has taken her out now but not to any supermarkets, only the hospital or open green spaces.

I can fully understand how difficult it must have been but it was worth it to stay safe.

This is definitely a time to think of others.

Take care

Alicia xx

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And you x

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I think things like this make you realise how most matters are petty when you put them into context!

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Very well said. πŸ™πŸŒˆπŸ‘

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I’m thankful tooπŸ™

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I'm thankful as well and feel this has been a lesson to us all in never taking anything for granted again and how much of life is beyond our control.

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I agree, the Sad thing that’s going on in California there’s a city out here that’s harassing seniors for wearing mask. They interviewed a woman on tv that her car had been vandalized with graffiti saying what she afraid of for wearing a mask. There are some Politicians That are saying there are more important things than Life. Pretty much they don’t Care about our lives? πŸ™

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Hi.

That's awful but typical!!! It's sad that it doesn't surprise me. She must have been frightened as well. Yes, you are right in that your government don't care.

Please take care and stay safe.

All my love Lynne xxxx β€οΈπŸ€—πŸŒˆπŸ’œ

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Thank You, my brother called me today implying the virus is a Hoax? So the 120,000 people who died is all a Hoax? I changed the subject, You can’t change β€œSTUPID 😜. You take care too LnnπŸ™πŸ˜·

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I think you are different from your brother!! He isn't thinking straight is he?!? XxxxπŸŽπŸ’œβ€οΈπŸ˜·

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Sometimes No, he’s the One in the family that THINKS he has ALL the answers. So I know Not to go back and forths with him😜

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😜you are doing the right thing!!! πŸ’œβ€οΈXx

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That's so lovely to hear. I have a comfy bed, food on the table and have been able to get out and exercise.πŸ™πŸŒˆπŸ˜Š

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I'm so glad πŸ™πŸŒˆ

Yes, I have a lot to be grateful for. I have been shielding . My husband has worked all through as he works in a prison. I have been very lucky that I have lots of support from family, friends and all of you on here . Take care and stay safe. Lots of love Lynne xxxx β€οΈπŸ€—πŸŒˆπŸ’œ

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That's good Lynne that your husband has been working. My husband is retired and I'm semi retired and we haven't had to worry about wages coming in and a job, there are loads out there that have had to worry.

I'm so pleased you've had a lot of support, that does mean a lot.

Take care

Alicia xxxxπŸŒˆπŸ˜ŠπŸ™πŸ’œ

Thank you, yes it does mean a lot. I had to take ill health retirement 2 years ago through my many conditions.

Take care and stay safe Lynne

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I'm so sorry Lynne you had to leave work, that's difficult. My heart goes out to you.

Thinking of you.

Alicia xxxxπŸ’œπŸŒˆ

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Thank you. I was very lucky. My boss tried every which way to keep me on but I know she was right. I'm in touch with lots of my friends from work including my boss, they were brilliant!! I have s great support network of family and friends and of course everyone on here!! Do I also feel lucky.. I loved my job, I was a teaching assistant, dinner lady, breakfast club worker and me and my friend did football with the children for quite a while until some younger teachers started teaching there and we handed over the reins to them!!! I know that I couldn't do any of that now!!! Lots of love and hugs Lynne πŸ’žπŸ€— πŸŒˆπŸ’œxxxx

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Aww that's so lovely that your last place of work were so caring, you hear of all these bad stories and then this, I'm so pleased you've remained friends with your old work mates.

Take care

Alicia xxxxπŸ’œπŸŒˆπŸ˜Š

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I still keep in contact with the nice people that were at the toxic job every now and again who say the place has gone from bad to worse and that I made the right decision to finish!

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It's good you got out when you did!!! Xxxc

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I had been wanting to leave for ages after there had been various spiteful incidents that had gone on and I had cut my hours and changed them as well but it had been like trying to save a sinking ship as it only dealt with the symptoms of the problem not the causes!

I was frightened when I first made the decision back in October last year to seal the deal and leave anyway but I'm glad I did now and lots of other colleagues have also left there as well after I did.

I think that's rotten though in them extending their opening hours when the country is in a state of emergency but that's them all over!

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Well you did the right thing to get out before it got even worse. You can look back now and see you're better off.

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Thank you. They were all so supportive of me. My boss is a wonderful lady who has always been so supportive whenever any of us have been poorly ourselves or a family member being poorly. I know I was very lucky to have such a nice boss. My first job was at British Gas and my boss was horrible. I had a nice boss in the end when I left to have the boys. I never returned. I didn't work until the boys were nursery) school age, I was at the same school so I got the same holidays. Our parents kindly stepped in when needed. As you know we love and miss them dearly but have learnt to live with it. Anyway, I will stop there because as you know I have a tendency to go off on a tangent!! Lots of love and hugs Lynne xxxx β€οΈπŸ€—πŸŒˆπŸ’œ

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How lovely to have had a boss like that Lynne, that's amazing. So very caring.

I'm sorry you've also experienced a bad boss, as have I but fortunately it no longer affects me, their problem, not mine.

I'm so glad you ended up leaving knowing that your boss did everything in their power to keep you.

Take care

Alicia xxπŸŒˆπŸ’œπŸŒž

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Thank you so much for your kind words. Yes, I know I was lucky. I think I appreciated my boss even more because I'd had a horrible one first!!!

Take care and stay safe. All my love Lynne xxxx β€οΈπŸ€—πŸŒˆπŸ’œ

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You are welcome Lynne and I don't think it was luck, it's the fact that your boss could see what a lovely person you are so wanted to help. Having a good boss does make you appreciate things.

Alicia xxxxπŸŒˆπŸŒžπŸ’œ

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Thank you so much, that is very kind of you to say so. You are also a lovely lady. How are you feeling tonight? All my love Lynne xxxx β€οΈπŸ€—πŸŒˆπŸ’œ

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Aww bless you Lynne, as they say 'likewise', not an expression you hear of often these days.

Oh my goodness the bike ride did me good as I slept very well last night, bonus.

Alicia xxxπŸŒˆπŸŒΌπŸ™πŸ’œ

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Thank you so much for your kind words. Night night sweet dreams. All my love Lynne xxxx β€οΈπŸ€—πŸŒˆπŸ’œ

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Thank you and same here.

Take care xxxxπŸ’œπŸŒˆπŸ™

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Thank you πŸ€—πŸŒˆβ€οΈπŸ’œπŸ˜‰

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