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I can sympathize with you slot I'm now living with my mum after a relationship break up and she is very controlling as much as I love her everything in the house has to cleaned and done to her approve and it's hard work,I cannot afford my own place do to low wages as a care worker plus I'm off sick recovering at the moment from carina virus and often feel I am a disappointment to my mum as I don't have a good career like my sister's but I've learned to just ignore what I can she does appreciate I'm a good person and loves me it's just her way get a job any job pay your way and at least you can hold your head high! Could you not live in your rental flat to save rent yourself?just a idea XX chin up x

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Hang in there lady, things will change, just be patient and time will provide, then you will get to have the last laugh, life is difficult so move forward on that, want to read a great book, Dr. Scott Peck, The Road Less Traveled , it is a great book, helped me a lot, Amazon has it new/used.....Sending Love n Hugs....

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Good morning

I hope you are safe and well

I can also understand your situation

It is never easy to go back home a live with a Mother who is controlling

My Mother lives overseas as she had an abusive abs difficult marriage

The responsibility of caring my my elderly Father and his business fell ok me and I undertook this responsibility until he died two years ago

From my inheritance I paid the mortgages on the two flats and I do not pay rent

Thank you for your suggestion

Since three years I have been trying to pass a Diploma in Wills and Probate and find a years work experience but after being through with what my Father put me through and now my Mother when she has her worries I find it difficult to cope on my own

You have been very kind to listen to me despite having your own worries

I hope you get better in time and find your feet and independence

I meet my expenses from my inheritance but my rental flat has been empty since April and this causes me concern

I have my own worries as I caring for my Father put my own life on hold

I am an only child and at times am emotional dustbin for my Mother

I hope your situation improves

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Bless u you could sell the other flat and then sell your flat start afresh do u not fancy that?you do not take responsibility for your mum she lives away it's up to her to look after herself to be honest she's too far away for you to be practically helping,you will grove for your dad I'm sure but this is your time now xx

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Hello

How are you

I wish you a speedy recovery from Covid 19 but it seems we share a very similar Mum

Mine is immaculately tidy and takes great care of her appearance

I live in UK by myself and I expect with me it is having to find a path at the age of fifty instead of being in my forties

I have also chosen a specialist path and knowing this I must learn to accept this

However with age comes maturity and life experience

I long made the decision I would rather be by myself than be with people who either make me unhappy or to have friends for the sake of having friends

May be this is because I am an only child or may be because I have been offended and hurt by many in the past and this will explain why I as I am

I hope you are well and once you get better will you try and find your own home ?

Try to believe that you will also find your way in life

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