As I have said I try to connect on this post when I struggle to cope.
In a time of Lock down and the imperative need to resort to self isolation given the mass loss of life. I have to put up with anti social neighbours who are blasting their music.
I have reported this incident and used noise recordings and even despite being warned the music continues
People are suffering but here the music continues.
In addition to this my elderly Mothers complains and how much can I cope with on my own
It is Easter tommorrow a time to think how we can resurrect our lives
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Constant loud noise from your very selfish neighbors is bound to grind you down and have your nerves on edge. The Council will take a decibel reading, have you tried this approach. Don't put up with it. The Police are still dealing with anti social behaviour. Because the noise is grinding you down it makes it difficult to manage other matters. You should not have to put up with it. I really feel for you at the moment. xx
I have recorded the loud noise by using the Noise App which goes to the Anti Social Behaviour Team
They have warned her last week and I will continue to ask for this to be dealt with
I thank you for being kind enough to answer
As for my Mother she puts all her worries on me and if I say something wrong she blames me
I see how she is but being far away always her needs come first and I am secondary to her
I think if God allows us to survive this Pandemic I will try to pass and obtain the work experience needed to qualify and then try to move away from this place
I have been here for five years and it is clearly not for me
I expect this is what Easter means the symbolic new beginning
To begin a new, is difficult to answer. I think to remain open to new options and beginning and to realize these can be reached at any point throughout a lifetime, so to be ready to embrace change when it happens. xx
Hi Roukaya, You've mentioned these anti-social noisemaking neighbours to us before. It's a pity you are still suffering this. But there are resolutions to be had. If the noise is persistent you may still have an environmental officer on duty with your local council. You can probably find out by looking at its website online. Unfortunately it's equally possible that there isn't, at the moment, because of the current emergency. One hesitates to call the police, particularly at the moment but if it's bad enough and goes on into the night they will usually intervene on your behalf. If you can wait until the holiday is over, you can also make a noise nuisance report online, again at your local council's website. My own council was really swift to deal with the noise nuisance of a persistent intruder alarm going off in the early hours at the premises across the street from me in this heavily residential area. Within the day they had phoned him and told him to silence it. I hope one way or the other you'll be able to deal with this. It really is unsettling when you are going through such a lot.
Roukaya, I hate to say it but your Mum is being rather selfish. I know it is part of your culture, but you cannot help right now, so you need to stop worrying about her complaints. You will become ill if you cannot distance yourself from this.
From where you both are it is impossible for you to help her at present, but perhaps she has nobody else to confide in or complain to, so she puts her burden onto you.
If she is lonely it is understandable, but you don't need to take it to heart; You know there is nothing you can do at present, so please try not to let it affect you.
Your Mum probably knows it in her heart too, but has nobody else to talk with. It isn't an ideal situation.
With regard to your neighbour, you can only keep complaining to the Council or Police, especially if the noise goes on after 11pm or starts before 7am, in which case it becomes a Statutory Nuisance.
If it goes on long enough she will eventually get evicted. Getting the recording equipment from the Council to prove the nuisance would be a start.
I hope you will be feeling better about things soon.
I had a friend help me move. It was 300 miles, couldn't have managed solo! Still trying to refurnish, because it is a bungalow, much of my furniture wouldn't fit, so had to go.
Sorry to hear you are in pain, but stress will often cause it.
Yes, I was pleased to get moved, just in time as it now appears. The old town was really not good for me,there was a very strange energy in the town, and many factions working against each other. I'm just so glad to be out of there. It will be good for you if you can get your exams over with successfully, and maybe it will help you soon with getting a good job, with enough money to get you moved somewhere better,
Have you tried a nice note under their door, putting yr thoughts in a conciliatory way, anything to give you peace in the moment
Can you call the police ? Let them know they’re continuing to do it and it’s affecting your old parent to break down during this time? Some people are just jerks.
Hi Roukaya
Antisocial neighbours are very hard to cope with I know it very well. I moved to a flat in 2015 and the man below(it is a block of four) had taken over my washing line area with his junk. The housing association told me to just ask him to move his things & agree among ourselves which lines were whose and I thought everything would be OK. How wrong I was. When I knocked on his door he came out shouting and swearing at me and jabbing at a "no cold callers" sign ! He started shouting and swearing at me as I came & went from the building and I started finding my laundry unpegged when I came home from my volunteering. Then he attacked me a couple of times. His wife was dying of dementia and he was loudly abusing her at any hour of night or day, which I could clearly hear in my flat. I was reporting everything to the police and the housing association as it happened; well over 250 incidents since 2015 so far. The housing association realised they have been negligent, including criminally so, and turned on me in panic (because I was telling the story to newspapers probably) and have always treated me like the whole thing is my fault. It isn't my fault at all, I am being abused by a violent, aggressive nutcase and a negligent organisation and one other neighbour (who has since moved) was his pal and also joined in the abuse by making false statements about me (in revenge for me reporting her flytipping and a couple of other breaches of her tennancy agreement- she was joining in the abuse).... Anyway the man below has continued harassing and abusing me ever since 2015, the housing association pretend it isn't happening (because they are frightened of admitting ANYTHING in case a liability case ensues) and the police have kept telling me that the housing association are responsible for collection evidence and stopping the abuse, so are being negligent. I was actually assaulted by one of the housing association officers one time at my flat who knew full well that I have epilepsy and waggled a biro about 1" in front of my eyes for about twenty seconds. It made me have a complex partial seizure. He wrote a report that I had behaved aggressively toward him. I hadn't. I was having a CPS. I actually have a recording of the incident; he had always mocked me, totally taken the pee more like, so I put a sign up saying recording was taking place & did it with my phone. You can hear his snide, smarmy attitude on the audio. I tried to get the chief exec to listen to it but he kept ignoring me so I emailed the recording to the BBC and several newspapers and played it to the police. The police said they couldn't take action on the strength of just that but it IS a very interesting listen ! It is abuse not any kind of "interview" that the HA man is doing on the recording ! One of the local community constables gave me a huge amount of support (he has since died) and good advice and would occasionally pop in to say hello if he was passing. It was good support. Unfortunately the abuse is continuing still in various forms.
I live on my own and I turn to this site for support and understanding
I bought this flat in 2015 the best I could manage
It s a housing Association Flat
I have been having noise nuisance on snd off since 2017
I have only been able to use the noise app since I have the I Phone and Feb the noise nuisance has been recorded and sent to the Anti Social team and she was told
It started again in April last week the incident reported snd the housing team has warned her
I was told if further incidences to submit further recordings
I have recorded several yesterday and sent again to the housing association
I will see if further incidents take place and ask again on Tuesday as to what kind of action can be taken to stop the noise nuisance
I think the very nature of Housing Association blocks have in my view some good and bad tenants
Because she is a single parent on benefits she is entitled to free housing and knows she can take advantage
I will take it up with the Housing Association next Tuesday ad they do listen in the strength of evidence
This sounds awful. I am sorry you have had to deal with it so long and I hope you are able to move to another flat sometime in the not too distant future. Let us know if your efforts re your neighbor pay off. Good luck and stay well.
Similar situation..Neighbour's kids with a match quality ball being hurled at speed into a basket all day. Screaming and chasing eachother. Ball hurled into my garden narrowly missing my Grandchild and a flying thing when I am in the pool..I was advised to call the police. You can't fly those drones over people. I took video and they have been threatened with eviction
Now I put the balls into the garden bin...Neighbours from Hell still causing problems..
No point in approaching an aggressive neighbour. They wind you up to make you appear to be the problem
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