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The best and worst of PMR

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I’m feeling low today and pondering on the things I dislike most about having lived with PMR for six years. And I’m struggling to find anything to describe as the best. So I’m looking for input and support from this great international “club”, which I realise is probably the BEST thing.

For me the worst thing is not being able to plan my life and stick with the plan, sometimes on a daily basis and sometimes hourly. My plans so often have to be changed because PMR has reared its ugly head again.

I just wondered what you think the best and worst of this condition are…..try and limit yourself to one of each and let’s see what we come up with. Thanks for your support as ever, Chrissie

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Rose54 profile image
Rose54

Good things

Time to myself

Bad things

Chronic Fatigue

Zebedee44 profile image
Zebedee44 in reply to Rose54

Thank you Rose54

Koalajane profile image
Koalajane

Good thing - making me look after myself more

Bad thing tiredness

piglette profile image
piglette

I have an excuse to say no to all the things people ask me to do!

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Zebedee44 in reply to piglette

That could be a good thing and a bad one, which is it for you?

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HeronNS in reply to Zebedee44

Not answering for piglette, but for me, it's been a boon!

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Morningdew62

I'm trying to figure out what the best of PMR is, and I cannot find any. But the bad ones are countless: PMR slowed me down in every aspect of my life, changed my plans, and very often feeling fatigued, but I cannot rid of feeling guilty that I don't do enough because I'm lazy, the weight gain - again feeling guilty because of low will power etc. etc. Still sometimes think that PMR is just a bad dream.

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Zebedee44 in reply to Morningdew62

if only it was, Morningdew62.

jinasc profile image
jinasc

Good thing - It is not life threatening

Bad thing - coming to terms with abrupt need to change lifestyle.

Extra Good thing Remission: GCA Feb 2007 Last.1mg on 31 Dec 2011- 2022 still in remission and counting.

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Zebedee44 in reply to jinasc

That is such good news, there is life after PMR. And thank you for sticking around on this forum to guide us all there. Chrissie

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Kendrew

Bad things

- unpredictability of the condition

- lack of knowledge from GP's and specialists resulting in poor, inappropriate care

- loss of stamina, strength and agility

Good things

-how the enforced need to slow down, adjust my lifestyle and put in place appropriate interventions, have enhanced my life in ways I couldn't have imagined.

- accepting that steroids are my ally and not my enemy in managing the condition.....when I did this, stress levels were reduced significantly

- this informative, reliable forum where friendship, support and advice are offered in abundance.

HeronNS profile image
HeronNS

Those who know me in real life may have a different opinion, but I think having a chronic pain condition has made me more empathetic, and maybe a better person.

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Bcol

Bad thing, being virtually carried into hospital in extreme pain and pretty much unable to move any joint.

Good thing, little white pills that very quickly removed the pain and gave me my life back.

Jackoh profile image
Jackoh

I could have developed another autoimmune condition much worse than PMR. My life has changed but PMR has helped me to be more tolerant of other folk with “ unseen problems “ 💐

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Bachfugue in reply to Jackoh

And where are you on your PMR journey now? Has your PMR allowed you to decrease below 11mg Pred?

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Jackoh in reply to Bachfugue

I got stuck around 10 mg for a long time. I am at the moment trying to reduce to 7.5 mg. I have to go extra slow. I do the slowest reduction possible and repeat at each stage. I also “ give myself a break” before reducing again. I am the typical “ tortoise “ not the hare! Xx💐

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Bachfugue in reply to Jackoh

Thanks for your quick reply. And hope your journey proceeds carefully albeit slowly. I got ‘stuck’ around 8mg and now slowly reducing. It has taken me three months to reduce to 7mg using the slow method and .5mg hops. Though hardly hopping !

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Zebedee44 in reply to Bachfugue

I was stuck at 8mg for about four of the six years and now slowly negotiating the taper down to 6.5mg. I’m getting pretty fed up with this long slow frustrating condition. Good luck with your taper.

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Louisa1840

Bad thing : the weight gain

Good thing: permission (because it's an absolute necessity) to have a rest (read and doze) after lunch every day.

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herdysheep

good thing - this forum bad thing - even less pleasant than I was - still frustrated and feeling guilty about doing so little

Daffodilia profile image
Daffodilia

Good - can take a pill for it

Bad - wondering what long term effects of pill will be

#4yearwithpmr

Bridge31 profile image
Bridge31

Bad thing… what to say when people greet you with “ you look well “…trying to portray to others what is actually wrong .

Good thing… this forum . Can you imagine how lost, confused and upset we would be without it.

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Zebedee44 in reply to Bridge31

What those people don’t realise Is that they aren’t likely to see you at all on the days when you don’t “look well” because you can barely function.

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Maxgate2 in reply to Bridge31

Just smile and say thank you. They won’t understand even if you do try to explain!

Bridge31 profile image
Bridge31 in reply to Maxgate2

apparently PMRPro says “ thank you but it’s not my face that’s sick “🤣

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PMRproAmbassador in reply to Bridge31

I don't think I said I SAY it - but it was a suggestion on a thread long ago ...

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Bridge31 in reply to PMRpro

oh what a shame ! Thought it was brilliant !

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PMRproAmbassador in reply to Bridge31

Feel free to use it ;)

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Bluey-1

GCA

1. Worst - not being able to plan, feeling isolated at times when you’ve been a sociable person, anxiety, totally unpredictable fatigue

2. The support of people in your life and this forum

Booklover57 profile image
Booklover57

good - enforced slowing down, having to say no and learning not to feel guilty about it.

bad - unable to make plans, pain, dealing with all the doctors and medics giving differing bits of information.

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ImC_

Sorry you've been low, Zebedee,

Good things:

- it WILL go away one day

- people to chat to on this forum

- I can say “I need a little lie down” at any time of day;  no one will question it and I can read or do sudoku

Bad things:

- the fatigue . . . needing a little lie down at any time of day . . .

(I'm lucky my dose controls the pain and stiffness.)

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PMR2011

Bad: the roller coaster of feeling well then feeling crap; coming to terms that I may be in the small percent who has this for life.

Good: better diet, learning to advocate for myself, trained up my docs who now know more about PMR and GCA, early retirement, really appreciating when I feel well, this awesome forum!

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Zebedee44 in reply to PMR2011

I haven’t even begun to fear that this might be my future but it has certainly spoiled my last six years and I lose so many beautiful days to feeling so “crook” as the Australians say.

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Sharitone

Bad: fatigue

Good: not dead yet! And you lot, of course! - seriously, because if I didn't know anyone else with this, it would be lonely indeed.

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Zebedee44 in reply to Sharitone

I’m totally with you on that xx

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Rugger

I'm sorry you're feeling low and hope it soon lifts.

One good thing about having PMR & GCA is having friends who I never would have met before developing these conditions.

One bad thing is mourning the loss of my previous good health - but 6 years down the line, who knows what else might have been? In those 6 years, 2 friends who were younger than me have passed away and I'm still here. So maybe that's another good thing, rather than bad.....

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Elephants2019

what a thought provoking question!

Bad thing: while grateful for prednisone, methotrexate, and Actemra-I find because of them and their effects on immune system I often feel I am not the wife, Mom, grandmother and friend I want to be, as I do not show up to a lot of events in the fear of getting sick and making me even sicker.

Good thing: the honesty found on this forum in peoples stories, feelings, and support offered. It often amazes me a group of strangers can be more supportive than doctors, family and friends…everyone here understands, which I am so grateful for❤️

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strawclutching

For me the worst thing is trying to work out whether it's the illness making me feel crap or the drugs.

nuigini profile image
nuigini

Simple reply and cheating a bit...

....all of the good and bad above!

Alebeau profile image
Alebeau

I agree with your BEST

The WORSE for me was the daily pain in the first two years. My experience could have been much better had I found this forum sooner.

Instead I put my faith in the rheumatologist for prednisone reductions.

winfong profile image
winfong

Con: trying to work while having PMR/GCA/LVV

Pro: this group

Zebedee44 profile image
Zebedee44

The consensus seems to be that this forum and the sense of community support we get from it is very much the BEST thing. Thankyou everybody for responding to my post which has confirmed for me that I am not alone in feeling the way I do. Particular thanks to the fabulous people that daily respond to all of us with their well informed and considerate comments, PMRPro, Dorset Lady, Jinasc and Mrs Nails. Huge gratitude from me who has lost contact with so many friends when I have no energy to keep in touch. Chrissie

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Slowdown

Good: When the robin sings pre-dawn I go outside and 'answer' by gently whistling through my teeth - he lands on the washing-line (I can just make out the pegs jiggling as he lands) and waits for me to feed him tiny pieces of cheese from my hand. It's taken me since July and a lot of cheddar to earn his trust - I'm under no illusion it's me he wants to see but that little bundle of feathers flying towards me is a thrill.

Bad: The sense I am going backwards in searching for solutions to new symptoms which never reach any conclusions. I suppose I am going backwards in energy, stamina, belief and motivation as I age (I always forget that bit) I'm an optimist by nature, being sorely tested!

Would be lost without this community x

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Zebedee44 in reply to Slowdown

Forget morning stiffness, we all need a little robin.

Tiredofpmr555 profile image
Tiredofpmr555

When I was at my worst I would tell myself that others out there were sicker than I and being treated for something far worse than PMR.

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