Many of you already know my husband has been very frail for some time. Our daughters arrived for their first post-Covid visit ten days ago and that coincided with a sudden nosedive in his already precarious health. The girls happen to be a nurse with Covid ICU experience and a emergency medicine practitioner in A&E. They have nursed him 24/7 since they arrived and yesterday we all said goodbye as he died at 3.15pm on Friday 29th October. He had his family here together for the first time since he became really unwell at the start of 2020. It has been a long hard road but we have emerged from the tunnel - and there was an exquisite sunset yesterday evening which Esca said was her father heading off. Later we raised a glass of prosecco to him.
I will be quiet but not absent - I have read all the posts, just not necessarly replied. I will be back soon.
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I am so very sorry to hear this. I am sure he is in a good place and so pleased that your family are with you at this very sad time. My very best wishes go to you and your family x
I had a brandy and raised my glass as the sun went down and said to myself " David was quiet, but he left a legacy which will not be forgotten by the many who have benefited from his research into heart illness". I will miss that gentle unassuming man who loved his bacon sandwich.
Be proud of what the four of you have given and keep on giving so freely. The world would be a worse place without you. xx
I'm so very sorry to hear of your sad news PMRpro. You have been such an amazing support to me (and many others) and now you need to take some time for yourself. Thinking of you. xx
Pmrpro I am so sorry to hear your news and no words can match what you must be feeling. You have helped so many of us through our bad times and now is the time for you to take care of yourself. Lindsay.
I am so so sorry to read your news. You have been, and still are, such a strength to so many of us on this forum.Our thoughts and prayers are very much with you at this time.
So very sorry after what has been a prolonged and difficult time. It was clear you did your utmost to keep your husband as comfortable as possible and tackled the daunting elements of your medical services with the tenacity you always advocate on here! So glad Nat and Esca were/are with you. Please give yourself whatever time you need. We will all understand and hope to give you support as you have given us. With love. Jenny
I am so sorry to read this PMRpro, but so glad your girls were there. You are such a steadfast support to others, now you must take some time for yourself. Heartfelt condolences xx
I am so very sorry to hear this sad news. I am glad that your girls have been there to support you both. Please take time to care for yourself. Irene x
So sorry to hear this. I thought you had been quiet lately. How lovely to have your girls with you and their expertise. How lucky they were able to be there in time. Love the sunset scenario just beautiful. All the best to you xx
I am so sorry for your loss. What an amazing gift for all of you to be together at this time; it must be such a solace to have your daughters with you. My thought are with you and your family.
Very sorry to hear your sad news, our thoughts are with you. We all appreciate the selfless support you have given over the years, take care. John Oliver NZ
Condolences to you and your family PMRpro. What a comfort it must be for you all that you could be together and that your husband was so very well cared for. Thinking of you very much.
I had noticed your absence & missed you, but sadly I guessed it was connected to your husband’s health. I’m very sorry to read this & send my sympathy to you & the girls. I’m glad they were there with you. Take care, & take your time, please. He’s now at peace, but a very sad time. S xx
I shall raise a glass to all of you tonight when the sun sets. I do not know you personally but count you as a best friend and feel for you as such. Much love Alison
Dear PMRpro, I'm so very sorry to hear that your husband has passed away and send my sincere sympathies to you and your family: they will be a great comfort to you.Time now for you to take care of yourself and when the time is right we will all welcome you back with open arms and hearts.
So sorry to hear your news, but so pleased that all the family managed to be there to say goodbye. Sincerest sympathies to you all. You have spent many year4s looking after all of us, so now is the time for you to have some time with you and the family.
Heartfelt hugs to you, our stalwart PMRpro who has seen us through so many of our personal crises with wise words and humour during your own stressful times. With love, gratitude and deeply felt condolences to you and your daughters - I think there will be many a glass raised this evening in shared sympathy.❣️
So sorry to hear your sad news ,but what a blessing you were all together for his final sunset, my thoughts are with you all and look after yourself as you looked after him and still found the time to listen to all of us too x
DorsetLady very kindly let me know. I am so sorry for your loss and am so glad that you were altogether and with him when he died. You have looked after him so well. When my time comes I hope it is as perfect. You will be in my thoughts. Sending love and hugs. 💜
Dear PMRPro—Sincere condolences to you and your family on the loss of your husband/father. You were always there for us when we needed you most and I hope we can help you a bit with our caring support now. Take care and find strength in each other.
Heartfelt condolences to you and your family. You are amazing to continue thinking of us on the forum at this difficult time. I’m sure everyone will only want you to be with your family and look after one another.
My dear Eileen I am so very sorry to have your news. You are such an extraordinary and generous person, and have had so many difficulties that you have faced with tremendous courage. So important that all the family were together, makes such a difference. Some tough times ahead but it does get better. Much love Hedli
I am so sorry to read your sad news. I am sure you will feel comfort in the fact that your daughters cared for him so well when he needed it most. You have had to shoulder the burden of his care, but now it is your time to start to recover. Sending sympathy to all the family. xoxox
dear PMRpro - thank you for this poignant, sad but also amazingly beautiful story. I am so glad for the "coincidence" that led to your daughters being able to care for your husband and be with him when he died. It sounds as if in some way you are already at peace even in the sadness, and next time we have prosecco we will drink to you, who help so very many people, to your daughters and to the memory of your husband. With much love.
I am so sorry for your loss. Words are never enough, but I hope you can take some comfort from knowing so many of us on this forum are thinking of you at this sad time.
So sad to hear your news, my thoughts are with you and the girls. You spend so much time helping others, now is the time to make sure you care for you own health. xx
I've sent you a PM but just to say you and your family are being held in so many of our hearts right now. We've leant on you so much. Now lean on us if you need to.Wishing you comfort and peace and sending condolences and much love to you and your family. ❤
So sorry to hear your very sad news. I'm sure your dear husband took great comfort being surrounded by his loving family during his last days.We all miss your wisdom on the forum but please take time for yourself. Sending love and hugs.
I had noticed you were absent and I’d wonder if it was your husband. I am so sorry for your loss. Condolences to you and your family. It was lovely that you were all together at the end. Not much else to say except thinking of you all. Feel so sad for you. No need to reply. Take care. 🌺
I am so sorry to read this Pro, I had noticed you had been quiet so guessed something wasn't right. So glad your daughters were with you to be able to comfort, help and support. You give so much to others and now is the time to put yourself first. Will be thinking of you.
I am so sorry for your loss. Thankful your family was all together, now you will continue to struggle on with PMR and the new adjustments you will be going through. You are so important to all of us, and always ready with a reply even across the pond to me in the US.
I hope the number of posters showing their concern, care and love for you and all you have done for us is some comfort in this moment . David will be a loss to you all but what he gave to the world is lasting testament to a good man I wish I had known.
So very sad and it’s hard to find words at times like this. it must have been a great reassurance and comfort for you both, to have had your daughters there with you at this time. Time now for you to be with your girls. ❤️x
So sorry for your loss. It is heartbreaking to lose a loved one, but at least he had his family around him when he passed. My MIL passed last month, on her 93 birthday, and my OH had not been to see her since Christmas because he is shielding and because she was in hospital at the end. I'm sending you and your family all my love.
Dear Eileen, I am so sorry to hear your sad news. I feel I have got to know your husband quite well in cyber space over our PMR years, so I really feel quite devastated. With love to the family who have supported him so well. Thinking of you all. xxx
So sorry to hear this. Please accept my condolences. I am glad you were all together. It will take a long time to come to terms with sadly. Will be thinking of you.Steve
I am so sorry to hear your news, but glad that your family were all together to be there for him and for each other going forward. I did not know him, but I have benefited so much from your knowledge as well as how much you have shared it with the rest of us.
Please take whatever break you need and come back to us when you are ready. Xx
Dear PMRpro, guessed something must be amiss from your recent silence. Thank you for sending us that beautiful piece giving the sad news . Losing your best beloved is the hardest thing, and I am glad you were all together at the end. My heartfelt sympathy and love albeit at a distance. Will be thinking of you at sunset this evening. Hugs.
My husband died 20 years ago from lung cancer. He had been ill for a long time and I thought I was well prepared for his death. I was quite shocked that I still had to go through the grieving process!! Give yourself time and space for this and I add to the many others my very best wishes and thanks for all you hard work. Take care. Kate xx
Oh my gosh am so sorry to hear of your husband’s passing- you’re amazing on this site and am sure also in your husband’s lifetime and ailing healthThinking if you and am so glad you have family with you xxx
Dear PMRpro, I just saw your post now and I was so sorry to hear about your husband’s passing yesterday. I am not a regular on this site but I have been aware from early on of your continuous selfless dedication to helping others with PMR. I can almost identify with your loss. My own wife died on the 29th of October 2016.
I would like to thank you for your support on more than one occasion when I have posted on this site.
I wish you and your family peace and comfort over the next coming weeks and months.
As someone you have helped very recently, I am humbled you should do so during such a life-changing time. You are a very strong woman. My heart goes out to you. xx
So sad to hear the news, I’d missed your input and wondered if something had happened. It’s a tough time, (I know only too well), my thoughts are with you and your family.
Dear PMR Pro, in the year I have « known » you, your wonderful writing here inspires, educates, informs, amuses and is generally a massive safety blanket for so many people here to depend on. I am so sorry to hear your news, and marvel again that you’ve been keeping us all going during such a difficult time. Sending all possible warm and supportive thoughts to you and your family. Love. xx
So good to have your daughters there to help you care at the end of your husband's journey. You have helped so many of us with your wise words, you must realize how many supportive thoughts are winging your way from around the world. I'll watch the sunset over the Pacific tonight and add my strengthening thoughts.
As there has to be an end it is good that it happened as it did. My belief (as an atheist) is that our afterlife is in the memories of those we knew. I'm sure that your husband will have a long one. Your support to this community has been remarkable - I trust we can repay you in kind.
So very sorry to hear your sad news. What a wonderful support it has been to have had your daughters with you over the past days so together you have been able to share your husband's care and all be together as a family. The love, acts of kindness and words of understanding from those near or far will be the nuggets of gold which will give you the support and strength that you have freely given to so many others. Take care.
So very sorry to hear of your loss. Maybe if you find yourself sitting near a tree or fence at sunset don’t be surprised if a visiting bird stops ever so briefly to say hello. Look after yourself xx
so saddened to hear your news. You are the most amazing support to this whole community...all I can do is to send you (and your family) wishes for strength during this difficult time.
I am so sorry to learn of your sad loss. He is in a better place now and I am so glad your daughters were there at the end. You must now take care of yourself as you have shown care for others, myself included, for which I am always grateful. Sending love and wishing you well.
Dearest Pro. I am not surprised by the number of replies your post has received. You have given so much to us with your ever-ready help and advice. Now we grieve with and for you. May our love and sympathies enfold you as you travel the next part of this road called life.......
I’m so sorry to hear your sad news. Glad all the family were together. Look after yourself and allow yourself time to grieve. You are such a huge support to us all, hope we can support you now.
So very sorry to hear your desperately sad news. A blessing that you could all be together in your husband’s last days, I am sure that brought him much comfort to have his loved ones with him. Thinking of you and sending you love. ❤️ X
I am so sorry for your loss, wonderful for you to have your girls with you both for the last days. I hope the girls are able to look after you too for a while at least. Many thanks for all your advise and help over the last few years.
It sounds like he waited for his girls so he could say goodbye. My mother did the same. And then they go peacefully on. Thinking of you PMRPro, take all the time you need. X
Dear lady, my very sincere condolences and I am glad your daughters and you are able to share your grief. With many thanks for letting us all know your sad news.With kind regards, Shirley
Oh, so so sad to read your post PMRpro. I had noticed your absence on the forum and was hoping you were OK. Although you've had a very hard time, it would have been wonderful and comforting to have you all there together as a family, and your husband would have loved that. Take as long as you need before coming back here. You've always been here for us and now we're here for you. Sending many virtual hugs and prayers. X
PMRPro My sincerest condolences to you and your girls. Wonderful to have your girls there by your side at this very sad time. God bless you PMRpro. You are a legend on this forum.
I had wondered. Missed your contributions. So sorry but his suffering and frailty is now over. So pleased that as a family you were all together and they were able to support you in his last days. You support so many others I’m pleased you were given support in your time of need. Take care. Much love xx💐
I have missed your wise comments of late, and was unsure why. I'm glad that your daughters got to be with you at his passing. It's a very hard thing to go through by yourself. Take the time to care for yourself, and know we are all a comment away. Love and condolences to your family. Betty
I feel so sorry for your loss and wish you and your whole family a lot of courage and hope all good memories allow you to go on. Your work for all of us is so important and your husband must have been very proud and happy to share with you his life and last days. Thank you so much!
Very sorry to hear of your sad news. You give so much to this Forum and it's obvious you give so much to your family. Thank you. Take time for yourself.
I just want to echo everyone’s thoughts - I’m so sorry to hear of your loss. I hope that you will be able to take some comfort from the fact that you were all by his side as he left you. Now, please look after yourself.
I am deeply sorry to hear your news. we will all talk again when your up to it. However long it takes. With my regards to you and your family . Sunset is a beautiful time of the day. Viv🌷
I can only add my condolences to the rest - obviously the world has lost an exceptional individual. Come back to the forum when you're really ready and not before. We shall all welcome you back.
I am so very sad to hear this and my heart goes out to you and your family, he was surrounded by love and kindness, your girls sound like angels xxMy thoughts and prayers are with you xx
I'm so very sorry to hear this. I also add my heartfelt condolences to you and your daughters at this very sad time. Take care and only come back when you are ready.
I had missed you. My thoughts are with you and your family at this very sad time. I am adding to the waves of loving energy sent by your friends on this forum. X
So very sorry to hear that your husband has died but wonderful that you were all with him. It must be what all of us would wish for at the end. Do try to put yourself first now.
Sending our sincere condolences to you & your daughters along with thanks for all you have done and continue to do for us in this group. I’m so glad your girls got to visit. 😍😍
Thinking of you. Love and condolences to you and your family x
So very sorry to hear this news . I’m glad you have your family around you for support and that your daughters were able to see him before he passed away. Sending you my best wishes and a huge hug.
So sorry to learn this. My thoughts are with you and your family. I've not been on the forum long, but can already see what you have given it amd am grateful. Thank you for letting us know.
I am so sorry to hear this sad news. You are such an invaluable support for the many people on this forum, I hope that somehow you can feel us, collectively, here for you. Treasure the sunsets and the memories.
So very sorry to hear your news but am sure he is now at peace. Very good that both your daugthers were with you at this time and able to help and spend time together. Sincere condolences to you and your family now you need to try and take time to look after yourself. x
Thinking of you all at this awful time. Bittersweet that you were all together after so long apart, but wonderful that you were all able to care for and be with him at his passing. Sending you all strength, support and love for the days ahead.
May family, friends and memories provide comfort. I did not know him, but it sounds as though he will live on in the hearts of many. You are so giving, remember to allow for extra care for yourself during this time. Warm regards.
Dear PMRPro, I have nothing to add to what has already been said. We're all thinking of you, especially those of us who have already gone through this. XXX
So very sad to hear your news, and send you my deepest sympathy. . But what a blessing that you were all together, especially after the problems of the last eighteen months.
My condolences to you and your family. It is really a privilege to be present when a parent dies. So glad your family had that time together. So sorry for your loss xxx
I am so sorry to hear of your loss and we send our condolences to you and your family. I cannot express enough how you have helped me over these last years even though I do not post much I read posts nearly every day. Peace be with you. 🖤
I’m so moved by your beautiful and evocative writing. Your acceptance, and the moments of stillness with your daughters, feel so true. Love, thanks, and my deepest sympathy. x💐x
Dear PMRpro,I was so sorry to hear about your very sad loss. I am so glad your family are around you at this time, both my wife Jean and I send our deepest sympathy.
I’m so sorry to hear your sad news. I hope you can find some comfort in knowing that he spent his last days surrounded by his family who love him so much. You are in my thoughts and prayers 🙏xx
So deeply sorry PMRpro. You have such powerful and loving support from all of us on the forum. Bless you and your family and may you all continue to be held in the beautiful sunlight that you witnessed that dawn.
Oh dear my sympathies are with you at this time.I am happy your family surrounded you and your husband at this sad time.Its going to be a huge change in your life and I can't imagine how I"d cope.My prayers for you and your family💕
Oh PMRpro, my sincere condolences, As an Empath, I truly believe your husband’s comfort and love from his family being together again, served as a long awaited gift, and he could return to a peaceful spiritually loving place, until you meet again.
Bless you all, the sunset was a beautiful sign of his love to you, Treat yourself with kindness during this difficult time. 🌹
PMRpro - So sorry to read of your loss. My condolences to you and your family. I hope you gain some comfort from the support offered here by all of us.
Dearest Pro, so very sorry to read this. But what a wonderful blessing that you were all together during his last days. He has been waiting for his girls to be with him and taking care of him in his greatest time of need. xxx
I am very sad for you all. I support all the responses of our Forum Family. The skills of both your daughters suggest that their helping and caring lives come from their family, you and your husband. And so it goes on.
So sad to read this..My husband is still recovering from Covid since December...it's a mean disease for compromised people..prayers for you and your family !!
I am so sorry for your loss, and I appreciate your note of explanation. There have been many times lately that I've read a question and then looked for your response without finding one. I'm thankful you were supported by your family through this time.
I am thinking of you all and send sincere condolences. I hope you will take care of yourself at this difficult time. Your hard work on this forum is much appreciated.
I was so sorry to hear your news. And being together as a family in the way you described will, I hope, bring you comfort as you go forward. From what you’ve said in your (excellent) posts you were a formidable team during a long, successful and respected career. Sending warmest wishes to you all.
Thinking of you at this sad time, but so thankful you and your daughters were with you and your loved one, as the sun set. After a long time of caring, now it’s time for others to care for you. And that can be hard to accept!!Also time to share many memories of the 4 of you, with your girls. I’m sure he was so proud of them.
Sending love to your family, Marigold x
Thank you for all you do for us on this forum, please take a well needed break
I have been thinking of you all day since I read your message this morning. I’m afraid I haven’t got the Prosecco to toast your husband but I am sipping a Sherry in Edinburgh after having watched a stunning sky over the bridges, towards one of your daughter’s home (from memory) thinking of you all. Your daughters will be a tremendous support to you and I’m sure you have wonderful memories to share. I know you are a virtual friend but you have made a very real difference to my life and I wish you have time to grieve and let those around you care for you. Take care. Kirstin x
I am so sorry to hear your sad news and my sincerest condolences to you and your family. I am not good at it but I will pray that you can find the strength and support to carry such a heavy burden.
My heart hurts for you. I know it is part PMR and recent loss of husband of 50years but I couldn't stop my tears. Thank God your family was there with you. Such a great comfort.My prayers are with you all.
I am so sorry to hear of David’s death. I remember with great fondness the day we spent with you both in Calgary just a few shorts years ago. You are very much in my thoughts. Big hugs to you, Sheila
Thank you for sharing your sad news with us. What a blessing your daughters are. We are truly blessed to have you and your wisdom on this forum. Take care.
I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your beloved husband. What a gift though, that your family shared this time together and that his girls were able to care for him during his last days. Sending the gentlest of thoughts to you and your family.
My sincere condolences PMRpro. There has to be an end and it's good that the fates at least allowed your husband a departure in the bosom of his loving family. David Levin
I'm so, so sorry at the news of your dear husbands passing💕 Such a sad time however I'm sure you can all take solace that you were all together and I'm sure your daughters were happy to be able to nurse him through his illness once there and to be there to support you too. Take all the time you need. Sincere condolences to you and your family💕
Many others have said it all. But you and your family are in our thoughts at this very sad time. What a lucky man he was to have enjoyed such a loving family. I’m sure he had a wonderful life with you all. And now his fear and suffering are at an end. Thank you for all you are doing for so many of us. You are a special person.
I am so sorry to hear of your loss. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. Just want you to know how very much your comments and suggestions have helped me.
For the last six years you have been my support as I navigated though PMR. I have been one of the 'lurkers'. - reading but not entering, gathering knowledge, mainly from your posts.
So so sorry to hear this. He wrote to me a few times and we chatted more since he discovered my Italian connection ( I am Italian) . He was a lovely lovely friendly person and always replied to everyone within a very short space of time . I will remember his kind and wise advice . May he rest in peace . Thank you for letting us all know on this platform . I sure shall miss his good words . Best wishes to you all xxxx
Sharing your own personal trials and advice with us along this tortuous road over the years has been massively appreciated and helped so many of us. Thank you for all you do and have done and take all the time now you need.
Yes, had missed your helpful replies over the last few days. So sorry to hear your news and it was fortunate your daughters were to hand. Having 358 replies to date gives you some idea we do appreciate you.
As so many people have said before me, I am so sorry to read your news today. Bless you. Be assured we all wish you a quiet time to recover & hopefully the girls are still there too.
I am so very sorry for your loss but glad your family could be with you both at this tragic time. You have been the most inspirational guiding light for us as we all tread this tricky path, and I am glad that you are taking precious time for yourself. I wish you strength in your grief, and hope that you and all your family, may have the time and the peace to reflect on your husband’s wonderful life.
I just want to send you and your daughters my condolences. Reading your post filled me with emotion even though I don't know you or your family. I am sorry that you have lost a lovely husband and father and I know the wonderful memories will live on. This forum is unique as it helps people come together as a family through the experiences of their illnesses and you are a big player in keeping this family together. I don't have much to say myself but I read most of the posts and I am forever grateful to you for the knowledge you continue to share every day. Thank you, take care and hear from you soon.
At a time like this, there are no adequate words - even though so many of us on this wonderful Forum wish so hard that we could find them.
As one poster said, you are indeed a legend here.
And that’s because you have given so much for so long.
I track my Pred via a spreadsheet, and to one side of the spreadsheet I have a selection of ten or so pieces of your advice with each statement cut and pasted into its own box. That way, I can easily refer to advice of yours covering all aspects of PMR as they apply to me.
It has proved a godsend to me, but it is there only because of the wonderful advice you have laid down over such a long time.
My respect for you has developed over time to where it is now, and I can’t imagine that it could be higher.
All of which makes my loss for adequate words all the harder right now.
My wife died in April 2018. Her illness meant a slow but steady decline and, finally, she took her last, tiny breath in my arms.
So I know something of how it is.
I am so glad that your daughters were able to be there. That is something I am glad about for your husband, for you, and also for them.
I am but one of a huge number whose life has been touched for the good by you. I shall be grateful to you for the rest of my life.
I send to you, and to your daughters, all the feeling that is possible - and all the hope that is possible for you to somehow bear this with the fortitude that I know you have.
So sorry to hear of your trouble. It must have been a blessing to have your girls with you, after such a long time. My love and thoughts are with you all x
Oh PMRPro, I have only just seen your post. I was so sad to hear your news, but incredibly moved by your beautiful description of your husband's passing. How extraordinary that your daughters were there and able to care for him in that way. As many others have said, you are the "glue" that holds this wonderful forum together, and I too have benefited enormously from your words of wisdom over the past four years. My thoughts are with you.Kathryn
So terribly sorry for your huge loss. After all the help you've given us, please know that we send you love and care and all the support we can give from a distance!
I hope it's of some comfort to you to know so many hundreds of people care about you and are grateful you're here for us. Lovely that you had a happy life together for so long x
Not been on this forum long, but already been helped by your sensible advice on a couple of occassions.Time now to care for yourself and your 2 obviously wonderful daughters. Take time to heal. My prayers are with you x
My heart goes out to you and your family. For you to continue helping us PMR sufferers while soldiering through the loss of your husband is remarkable. Best wishes and please take care of yourself. You are a rare gem.
Though we will never know each other outside of this forum I've felt that I've gotten to know you a bit over these past years. I was truly saddened to read of your husband passing away recently. Please accept my heartfelt condolences and my prayers for you and your whole family. May the Lord bless and keep you all through this hard time of adjusting life. What a true blessing for your daughters to be able to see your father before he died. A real gift for your husband, your daughters and you. Oh, and THANK YOU to your daughters for all their front line work in their occupations. Take care.
I've only just seen your post and so very sorry to read you've lost your dear husband. Wonderful you have your daughters support.
My dear PMRpro. I had no idea. I’ve been away from the world mentally for sometime because of my significant others health. So I went on the back burner. Not a good thing to do. I am so sorry PRO and this was probably a Very difficult Christmas for you. I am glad your children were with you. I hope you Can you stay with us you are very important to all of us. And especially when I say we couldn’t have gotten through this without you. I will try to stay on top of health unlocked difficult right now. I wish you all the health and happiness you can find in this world today. Marilyn USA
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