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Karenwelsh

Hi all, can anyone recommend the easiest bras to get on, normal wired back fastening is a nightmare. I'm quite large so something with support would be best but anything will be a blessing at the moment. Sorry if I made any gents feel uncomfortable even thou I think yr all open minded.

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The gents are used to us lot.😂

Why don't you try bras which open in the front (like maternity ones). They also come in large sizes.

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Glamorise do underwired front fastening - available on most online sites. So does Damart - not quite as grannyfied as it used to be.

Just type glamourise front fastening bra into search engine

m.damart.co.uk

Bravissimo do a front fastening bra in a good range of sizes.

Much easier to fasten!

I purchased some pull on bras to wear at home, they don't have much in the way of structured support....but are so comfortable, stretchy, and easy to wear. A google search for 'pull on bras uk' will bring up a good selection of trusted names for online ordering.

I tried out one that pulled on then had crossover parts to add to support. I found them very uncomfortable and not supportive. I'm a 16DD so want support.(I think that's 36DD in UK.)

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maria40 in reply to Purpleazalia

I found I got into an awful tangle trying to get the 'pull on' bras on. Only way I could cope was my stepping into then and pulling them up over my tummy. Glad there's no one around to witness the contortions. They're quite comfortable - once I get into them! I'm 40A a very difficult size to find. M&S do a few but not much of a selection.

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But the easy answer that many employ: fasten the bra at the front and then turn it round and slip your arms under the shoulder straps.

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DorsetLadyPMRGCAuk volunteer in reply to PMRpro

Couldn’t even do that with my arthritic shoulder - until replacement..... have ditched most of my “normal” bras.

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PMRproAmbassador in reply to DorsetLady

My problem with front fastening bras is that they are far too big across the back, All of us (me and both daughters) need small sizes because of narrow backs but what can only be described as generous cup sizes!!! I'm back to a 32 and younger daughter as well - we had strayed up to 34 for a time - and older daughter varies from 28 to 30! But cup sizes are E and up. OD needed a 30H when she was expecting ...

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DorsetLadyPMRGCAuk volunteer in reply to PMRpro

Opposite to me then, broad back...and B cup!

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PMRproAmbassador in reply to DorsetLady

You lucky thing! I really have no idea at all why anyone would want a boob job to be bigger!!!! A reduction - now you're talking.

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Constance13 in reply to PMRpro

How can you want a reduction if you have size 32? You'd be as flat as a pancake!

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PMRproAmbassador in reply to Constance13

Now pay attention!!! 32 is the measurement around under your boobs. Then you measure the maximum wearing a well fitting bra - and that shows what size cup you need. I'm a 32F at least. Not quite Dolly Parton ...

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Constance13 in reply to PMRpro

Ohhhh - I had no idea. To me 32 was minuscule when I did wear bras.

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PMRproAmbassador in reply to Constance13

They weren't too good at differentiating between the more slender build with generous proportions and the stockier shape with pimples ... You used to be offered the same size which was totally wrong and was why us more curvaceous ladies hated the whole performance!!

Constance13 profile image
Constance13 in reply to PMRpro

The things you learn when you're over 80!!!

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prunus in reply to Constance13

Speak for yourself I'm older than you and knew that! I'm a DD. Like PMRpro I have a narrow back. Is there a reason why you don't wear a bra?

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Constance13 in reply to prunus

Yes! I can't stand them - never have!😉

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Constance13 in reply to prunus

You only know that because you have probably always been "interested" in bras!🤪

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prunus in reply to Constance13

I think I've always just accepted ladies wore bras and it was part of their dress. I went to John Lewis at one point and got fitted but decided I was more comfortable in what I think -but it was trial and error. Now I'm happy and comfortable.

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Purplecrow in reply to PMRpro

😂🤣you make me smile!!! True facts for many of us

Pr0jection profile image
Pr0jection in reply to PMRpro

Yep, and I'm a 34E or F. I wish I'd had the courage to have a boob reduction when I was younger....

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PMRproAmbassador in reply to Pr0jection

I'd do 2 things if I could: boob chop and tummy tuck!

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Pr0jection in reply to PMRpro

Ha ha , you're not alone with those two thoughts....

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Helipad in reply to PMRpro

With you on that one, I’m a G 🤦🏽‍♀️

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Longtimer in reply to PMRpro

I need to be measured really...all mine uncomfortable now....but like cotton.....or I get a rash underneath!......

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PMRproAmbassador in reply to Longtimer

I get email updates from Sadie the Bra Lady (in the NE) and forwarded the one saying the Darlington shop would be opening for appointments to my daughter in Whitby. She's lost loads of weight over lockdown so nothing fitted and like me, she is difficult to fit. She went last week, sent me a message on her way there, Was in the shop about 20 mins tops - left with £160-worth, 5 new bras! Over the moon - they fit and are comfortable! The fitters just look at you and come back with the right size!

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Longtimer in reply to PMRpro

In my dreams.....I usually go to M&S or Debenhams..but they are makes that other shops sell...so when things ease, and I feel up to it will go to the city....have lost weight so not sure what size...

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PMRproAmbassador in reply to Longtimer

Neither of them ever had my size - finding Sadie was a revelation!! Even they don't have a wide choice in the size though if there is one you like but the colour is wrong they do order. Back in the day you could get size 34 easily but all I had to do was raise my arms and I fell out the bottom!! Older daughter went on a search for maternity/breast feeding bras. Was told she needed a range of sizes from 34D to 36B, none of which felt right. So when she came to visit I took her to Sadie, we arrived at 4.50pm, Sadie closed at 5pm. We left at 5.05 - with a 30HH which fitted like a glove! Her comment: "I didn't know bras could be comfortable ..."

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Longtimer in reply to PMRpro

Wish she was in Norfolk.....have been told a couple of years ago....3 different sizes by 3 different shops!....

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PMRproAmbassador in reply to Longtimer

I have left hers with 3 bras that are all labelled with different sizes!!! But they all fit :)

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Longtimer in reply to PMRpro

So long as they fit that's all we want...

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PMRproAmbassador in reply to Longtimer

Quite!

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Purplecrow in reply to PMRpro

How about this idea!!!Over 60, don't need to wear a bra! Tuck a Maxipad over nips and charge out! 😂😂. Revolutions are made for us!!!!!!💃💃💃

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Suuha in reply to PMRpro

Is that the Ample Bosom company from Yorkshire?

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PMRproAmbassador in reply to Suuha

Suuha asked:

Is that the Ample Bosom company from Yorkshire?

Sadie's? No, started in Consett, Co Durham. She developed the size assessment technique that is now used a lot - daft woman didn't patent it, she'd have made a fortune! She was advertised on the back of buses and one of her biggest customer groups was the wives of bus and taxi drivers who'd followed the ad. A few of her franchises didn't take off - young women now seem to want to fall out of the top of their bras thinking it gives them an alluring cleavage ... But there are people who save up all year for a trip to the north of England to get a supply from her and the women who she trained are now running it. Then, 50 years ago, it was next to impossible to get nice styles with small back sizes and/or large cup sizes. She had them.

chroniclelive.co.uk/news/no...

Purplecrow profile image
Purplecrow in reply to Longtimer

For your information, ...try some anti-perspiration under breasts. Keeps perspiration/moisture away. It helps ... Lots!!!

Longtimer profile image
Longtimer in reply to Purplecrow

I do put medicated talc underneath, doesn't always work though...thanks will try....

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MrsNails in reply to PMRpro

I hope this topic doesn’t inspire Underpants Man to reappear 🩲🤦🏻

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PMRproAmbassador in reply to MrsNails

I'm sure Fran will deal with him with aplomb ...

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Constance13 in reply to MrsNails

I have wondered all day what our gents think of this rather extensive chat!!!!

I ditched bras 40 years ago! Only wear them when I am going/have to go somewhere special.

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PMRproAmbassador in reply to Constance13

Now that would be nice ...

I know a few people that do the same....think it depends on the size though!.. 😂

Can't remember when the "throw away your bras" action took place. I know I thought at the time "that's for me" in the future.

Burn your bra too....can`t remember when that was either....

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HeronNS in reply to Longtimer

1960s. Flower children. Feminism. Anti-war. Civil Rights. Peace and love and the Beatles. LSD and higher consciousness. Meditation. Birth of the environmental movement. Medicare in Canada. Whatever happened to us?

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Longtimer in reply to HeronNS

Memories!!!.......

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Longtimer in reply to PMRpro

Can't remember ever doing it different to that!.....so obvious it's easier....

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PMRproAmbassador in reply to Longtimer

I've never done it like that except during PMR and I hated it because it never felt tight enough.

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Longtimer in reply to PMRpro

I must be on the wrong track then...the bra is hooked the same as always and then twisted round....is that what you mean....I have Scoliosis at the top of my back right across where the bra goes....ackward!....so want soft comfort, but support as well...tricky!..(D cup)

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PMRproAmbassador in reply to Longtimer

Yes - but once it is fastened at the tension I like, then I can't twist it round!

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Longtimer in reply to PMRpro

I see, ....maybe I have mine looser than yours....I never buy undwrwired.....too uncomfortable for me....but obviously all being different shapes.....different problens....I am tempted for the first time in my life going for the scan tomorrow braless!!.....some people say on here that they didn't have to undress..so not having a bra (metal clips) on I can get away with it..will be wearing a jacket..it's very cold!.....did you undress for yours?....

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mgrogers99 in reply to PMRpro

My mom had RA and put her bras on that way. I thought that's how everyone did it until I changed clothes in the gym in junior high school many years ago!!

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MamaBeagle in reply to PMRpro

I've always done that! I thought it was the normal way to fasten it! Then I discovered that most people fasten them using the contortionist method 😏

Telian profile image
Telian in reply to PMRpro

That’s what I do!

Well I've just ordered front fastening, sport, and maternity bra 1 of each to try them out and see which style is easier. Thanks everyone x

I find Miss Mary of Sweden has comfortable bras. A bit pricey though. missmary.co.uk/?gclid=Cj0KC...

Try sports bras for yoga or bra let’s from M & S. 😀

I've always been measured at m&s and always buy from there now cause I know they will fit and be comfy and always bought 6-8 at the time of being measured. Some are bit pricey but they fit that main thing. I'm just hoping the ones I ordered today will be proper sizes cause we all know if yr onr size in 1 shop yr 2 sizes bigger in a different shop

knix.ca/

Can't attest to their claim that their bras are supportive, but I do note they have International as one of their ordering options, and they have good reviews.

honestbrandreviews.com/revi...

Glamorise!

Would like to assist but not qualified, used to be able to take the off quickly, but even that has slowed up, and I am blaming PMR 🤣

Some front opening ones on Amazon Smile and you can donate to PMRGCA UK

So glad you posted this as have the same problem with heavy boobs. In my youth I put on a lot of weight which I successfully lost during my 50's and 60's. However, my boobs remained large for my smaller size and left me with dents in my shoulders and unable to wear underwired bras. Since having PMR I find that most bras become so uncomfortable (headaches because of the strain on my shoulders) after, say, a day of wear that I can't wait to take them off late afternoon and hope no one comes to visit! I need non-wired, firm support bras so if anyone comes up with a solution I'd be over the moon......

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PMRproAmbassador in reply to Pr0jection

You maybe need to get a better fitting- there shouldn't be much pressure on your shoulders, the adjustable band under the cups should fit so well that it takes most of the strain and there is little weight on the shoulder straps. And that back band should be absolutely straight across, not forming a rainbow shape.

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Pr0jection in reply to PMRpro

I've been fitted with bras for most of my life, paid a fortune out for some of them but it's my posture that appears to cause the problem as I have fused discs in the upper part of my spine which causes forward head posture. Luckily it hasn't stopped me from being fit and agile even with PMR and of course the prednisolone helps. I keep reminding myself to sit up straight! Thanks for the advice though.

Have carefully averted my eyes from all the above posts

Really?🤪

Some great products of Leonisa. I bought front fastening. leonisa.com/uk/products/pos...

suffered all my adult life with bra problems.Since P.M.R,vascular necrosis to shoulder joint and now recent total reverse shoulder replacement I have given up on bras,just wear a little stretchy vest .Ah comfortable! Breast are "used" to hanging loose now.I have arthritis in my other shoulder so can't see myself reverting to bas soon.I am 36gg,just wear vest tight ,can tuck underneath if needed.Good luck.

Front closure, racerback (they don't slip off your shoulders)

Racerback bras
LCfan profile image
LCfan in reply to Reader7

Can you tell me who makes these? I have straps falling off all the time and one shoulder lower than the other

Reader7 profile image
Reader7 in reply to LCfan

I'm in the US, so I don't know if I'll be much help. I buy mine at Kohl's. You can do a search for racerback front closure bras where to buy near me. Hope this helps!

LCfan profile image
LCfan in reply to Reader7

thanks, I'm in The UK so will need to search a bit more!

love these bras from True: trueandco.com/products/bras/

I have ordered 3 so far.

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PMRproAmbassador in reply to SandyBoots

I'd love a bra like that - but "I have a larger chest" says someone, 32D! I can't cope with being squashed ... ;)

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SandyBoots in reply to PMRpro

I am very large busted, 32 DD and hate underwires and bras that clasp in the front that dig in when you sit down. I am all for comfort these days. I order the true body scoop neck bra in a medium full cup from True: heaven!

I always wondered until now why you could live so long and not have a comfortable bra and a comfortable pillow. Still looking for the pillow, although i do think I like coop home good pillows.

one more thing - the fabric is so soft - no squishing!

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PMRproAmbassador in reply to SandyBoots

If you think that is large - 32FF ...

Telian profile image
Telian in reply to PMRpro

My 19 year old granddaughter is a

34 GG and an 18” waist. I couldn’t believe my eyes when they last came over. Don’t know where she gets that from.

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PMRproAmbassador in reply to Telian

Sounds like my older daughter!

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Telian in reply to PMRpro

I was an 18” waist at her age but only 34A.

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PMRproAmbassador in reply to Telian

I can't imagine EVER having been an 18 inch waist

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Telian in reply to PMRpro

We were all a skinny family then....

If you think you're big busted SandyB.. I'm a 32F!!!! But for comfort I wear a 34E MandS flexifit. I wear these for absolute comfort. You can find them cheaper on eBay than in the shop...have to keep looking someti.es for the size you want. Never let MandS measure you...I was "sized" (32F) at Bravissimo who do it by looking. Even then some bras are more comfortable than others!

I just looked at the M and S flexifit - looks comfortable!

They really are... don't expect a fabulous shape but can't fault the comfort.

redanancy.com/products/ulti...

There is one listed in the website just for “ladies of a certain age” that clasps in the front- to avoid painful and difficult contortions! Also, it has no painful wires- and new tech fabric that is friendly against chafing.

It’s very good for well endowed ladies, and the particular one is “Sora” .

It’s a breathable, moisturize wicking fabric.

There is a UK 🇬🇧 option for ordering/ mailing, etc.

Yoga or sports bras are great; they are a thick stretchy material but not too thick where it makes you feel warm. They have support and are all one piece, so there are no fasteners or clamps to worry about. I too am well endowed and I wear one every day, and it gives me plenty of support. I just slip it on over my head, make a few adjustments and it's on. I won't go back to the "normal" bras any time soon. You can order them on Amazon; the one I ordered came in a 3 pack but they have a variety to choose from. Let me know how you make out Kareweish and good luck to you.

After trying all in one lace bralets I have decided that stretchy sports bras are the most comfy, with nice broad straps! I pull them up over my feet. All is ease a comfort after 5 years of stiffness and pain. You need to look but they are available in bigger sizes.

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