Good bye my friend : Just a tribute to my Sister... - PMRGCAuk

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Good bye my friend

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Just a tribute to my Sister Kay ,she passed away in the early hours of Saturday .I am heartbroken for Me ,I have to honest and say I am happy for her .I know it was what she wanted .Her dementia was circling and she was afraid it would take over . She was still on the ball as we say but had periods when not . I see you Kay flying high ,My fiesty tiny older sister . I see you laughing and escaping . My tears are for me ,my smiles are for you . Fly high and don't look back .

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Harbel

I'm so sorry for your loss.

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scats

What a lovely tribute, I can just feel the love you have for her. Condolences.

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patriciawhite in reply to scats

Thankyou .

Ohhhh Patricia, I am so very sorry for your loss. I have no words to ease the pain, or soften the hurt... my heart aches for you. May her journey be swift and may she be guided by those who have loved and befriended her. And may you find comfort in knowing she is free.

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Thankyou and I do

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Pongo13

Can't imagine how you are feeling. I'd be bereft without my two sisters and send sincere condolences x

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Rose54

So sorry to hear about your lose

Thoughts and prayers are with you and your family

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Lovely remembrances - and she has no pain and illness now.

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MhairiP

I'm so sorry, Patricia. Your lovely tribute brought tears to my eyes.

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Lovely comments- and although you hurt so much, at least you know she doesn’t anymore. That’s the best you can do for loved ones 🌷

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Rosbud

She will be safe with the Angels , big hugs to you at this sad time xx

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Oh Patricia, how very, very sad for you but Kay is now spared the indignity of this awful, awful condition. Such a Sad Time. 🌺

Kay will be at peace 🌺

Thinking of you xx

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CT-5012

So sorry, thoughts and prayers for you and your family.

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May10

My thoughts are with you.

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Blearyeyed

I am so sorry for your loss .

But I am also happy that you can imagine your sister in such a positive way , flying high , free of confusion and pain, her good old self again , through your tears .

I will be keeping an eye on your posts to hear how you are getting on .

And I hope you will contact us all by post or on private chat if you ever need a chat or a shoulder to cry on in the coming weeks.

Taking care you are in my prayers. xx

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1964-karina

So sorry for your loss 💐

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Estellemac

May you hold tight to happy memories of your time together 💕💕💕💕

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Maisie1958

I am very sorry to hear this Patricia but what a wonderful tribute to your lovely sister. Thinking of you and family.

Irene x

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Heartbreaking to say goodbye to those you love, but 'laughing and escaping.. and flying high' is a wonderful way to hold her close in your memory.

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Cinka

Thinking of you, Patricia.

God bless you.

xxx 💕

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Leilagirl

So sorry for your loss. May you be strong now going forward as she would want for you . Blessings to you. 🙏🏽

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Lee1945

So sorry to read of the loss of your sister! It is always so upsetting to lose someone we love and my thoughts and prayers go out for you to help you through this most difficult time!

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PMRCanada

Dearest patriciawhite, I was saddened but also inspired by your post and the news of the loss of your older sis. You attitude towards your loss clearly conveys your love for her. Endings are difficult, but we can take solice in their peace (and flight).

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Ruadh

A lovely tribute to a much loved sister. Condolences to you, your family and friends.

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GOOD_GRIEF

I'm very sad for you, Patricia.

Keep your lovely and sweet memories. That's how you keep her close to you.

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HeronNS

I'm sorry. You will miss her. But how wonderful to have had this relationship all your life. The memories will bring you comfort. Hugs.

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Grants148

I am so sorry ,sending caring thoughts and prayers xx

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Patience47

So very sorry for your loss.

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Daisychain12

My dear sweet friend Patricia. I'm so sad for your pain and loss my dear. You speak so beautifully from your huge heart. What a wonderful sister you would have been to Kay. Think of that when your grief is strong. Some of us never know the love Kay got from you. I bet she felt loved and valued every day. Nothing I say will ease your pain darling but although it doesn't go, you do slowly learn to live alongside it. Much love to you. Linda xxxxxxxxxxxxx

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SheffieldJane

Oh Patricia, I nursed my mum with frontal lobe dementia for the last 7 years of her life. She would have been horrified if she’d known. The moment she died, she transformed into the glamorous, lovely mum I’d always known and that’s who I grieve for. Dementia can be such a slow form of bereavement, losing a person bit by bit. She didn’t know who I was and could do nothing for herself in the end.

I send my condolences, it still hurts like hell. I love the way you can already picture her glee at having escaped that fate. The loss is all yours.

Sending you love and comfort. Xx

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patriciawhite in reply to SheffieldJane

Yes I know what you mean I looked after my Mother in law for 9 years with Dementia . Its a cruel one isnt it .Kay had it for 5 ,I am happy she is free .Thankyou She was fiesty and glee would be the right word for how she would feel .You are right .

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Oh Jane I’m so sorry darling xxx

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aladymo

My heart aches for you. So very hard to lose those we love ❤️. Lovely tribute.

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Marilyn1959

Hi Patricia. Thank you for sharing your tribute to your sister. Simply stated, yet so powerful, conveying so much.

I wonder whether posting a tribute page on muchloved.com may help you now and in the future. It doesn’t cost anything and can be visited and added to by friends and family. I did it for my mum, and have found it a comforting place to go when I feel the need. Thinking of you.

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Thankyou I have not heard of that I will have a look

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pmrkitty

So sorry for your loss but you'll see her again...hugs to you.

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Patricia love, I feel for you in your hour of distress. Heartbreaking though it is, your sister is in a much happier place, free from here. Your turn to join her will come and while it may seem like an age, it`s not long over that side. It`s just another learning curve, God bless.

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ALeCount

I’m so sorry for your loss, though it seems a blessing that she left on her own terms. I’m wishing you comfort and peace.

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Thankyou and it was .

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yogabonnie

What a lovely way to express your tremendous loss. I am so sorry for it. What good friends you were. Sisters.

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katiemills

I'm so sorry for your loss .

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Josieswolf

Bless you. My heart goes out to you at this bittersweet time. My grandma had dementia and yes it is a blessing for your sister and heartbreak for you. Sending lots of supportive love xx

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Rimmy

I am very sorry to hear about the loss of your sister - 'sisters' are obviously unique in our relationships. I lost my own one and only younger sister a couple of years ago and can truly empathise. My sister was also unwell - constant health issues - mental and physical and her quality of life was deteriorating all the time. Like you the one consolation we can have is that their suffering has ended and we can 'carry them' in our hearts with us and 'hold' the best of our memories of them as long as we can.

Best wishes

Rimmy

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York54

Patricia , so sorry to hear of the loss of your dear sister. My thoughts are with you today xxx❤️❤️❤️

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karools16

Sincere condolences. x

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stellafmdm

So sorry for you, but happy for your sister, now at peace!

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MamaBeagle

What a lovely tribute, Patricia.

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FRnina

Beautiful, sad but sweet and brave tribute Patricia. My condolences

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Chihuahua1

I'm so sorry to hear you've lost your sister, but at the same time I'm happy, if that is the sentiment, that you have not had to witness her decline through dementia. I'm happy that she won't have to go through the fear and anguish experienced in the more lucid moments and that she and you, have been spared all that. I have witnessed first hand a family member who had this condition and it was such a welcome release at the end for both the family member and the family.

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bunnymom

Yes as you say a release for her and sadness for you. Deepest sympathy to you dear ❤️

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Sending hugs x

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S4ndy

So sorry for your loss XXX

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JMTS

Deepest sympathy to you and your family - another Angel to watch over us.

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Stella3

So sad for you. She will live in your heart and you will remember the good times.

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hey_suz

What a beautiful vision you created for us with your words. Deeply sorry for your loss.

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cdenoncourt

A lovely tribute to your sister.

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Perkey

Oh Patricia my heart is with you I have lost all my sisters and it is devastating. All lovely thoughts for you🌺

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ptm2018

I am so sorry for your loss.

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Jackoh

So sorry for your loss. Thoughts and prayers for you xx

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Telian

Condolences to you and your family Patricia and the knowledge Kay is free from all suffering is some comfort at this sad time. Thinking of you.

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navejasjoe

Our condolences to your family

Joe and Estela

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