How to help a friend

[Brdeww]

My friend for the past week has been very weak and sick but when tell them to go home and rest they don't they keep working and get themselves more sick. How can I fix this?

[Hidden]

Maybe they can't take time off from work? The simple answer is you can't fix it if they refuse to go. Maybe you could have a word with their family/other friends? x

[Tdbrown_1 in reply to Hidden]

There is sometimes embarrassement or who believes your tired everyone is. I often got lost driving home from work exhused. If you need pain meds changing jobs will expose this fact and even a docs order your at their mercy. Due to abuse your treated differently. I don't recall your age but one day you will have to deal with this. All the best.

[Amkoffee]

As someone who has suffered from chronic pain for 13 years I can tell you that I get very angry with my body at times and I do things I should not. There's a lot of us chronic pain Warriors that do that very thing. It's a matter of pride. Your support is probably what this person needs more than anything. You could even make some food for this person to bring home for dinner so he or she does not have to come home from work in pain or sick and have to fix supper. Or you can run errands for this person on a Saturday or on a non-work day. This person probably puts every ounce of energy he has into work and when he gets home he doesn't have the energy he needs to do the basic things. And it's best that you don't say something to the effect of "if there's anything I can do let me know." He'll never respond to something like that. The best way of doing it is to just hand him a bag of prepared food.

[Manditts]

I was stubborn and kept going back to work,also the bills didnt stop when i was in excrutiating pain.I had everyone on my back telling me to quit,Dr s included.I pushed it way too far and suffered for it.My op has been that successful im hoping to go back to part time work in the near future.I didnt want my pain to beat me,that was always in my head.Plus the bills,just being there when you're friends need you is a big plus,a good support network just in case they make things worse like i did.I wish you all the best of luck.Peace out.