Terrible week....

[ricky23]

Just to let everyone know my lovely mum died yesterday evening, i spent all week with her, i slept on the bed with her every night. I no longer feel frightened of dying, i was with my mum as she died, it was amazg, so calm, peaceful and warm. If my cancer comes for me then i now know i neednt be so frightened and she will be waiting for me.i

[Hidden]

Hi Ricky,

I am so sorry that you lost you dear mum, It was good that you spent this precious time with her... and that you feel the way you do...my thoughts are with you and your family at this time and thank you for having the courage to update us love x G x

[Hidden]

Hi Ricky

Very sorry to hear about your Mother. How beautiful that you could spend those last precious hours with her.

With love Suex

[SueH1]

So sorry to hear your news but how lovely that you were able to spend precious times with your Mum. I was in a similar position with my own mum 6 years ago and so your posting has struck a chord with me. Thinking about you. Lots of love, Sue xx

[ricky23]

Thank you everyone, its still really raw and im all over the place. Mum is my best friend, i always went to her for help and advice, dont know what im going to do now. Mum supported me through my cancer, and im dreading life without her. Sorry to be so negative just feeling down. But thank you for your thoughts and care x

[wendydee]

So sorry to hear of your Mum's passing. You were a real strength to her, I am sure. I know what you mean about seeing someone through the process of dying. It feels like a privilege and is a special time for all concerned. That is, if they are not taken very young or in tragic circumstances .

Love Wendy xx

[Hidden]

Sorry to hear about your mom passing.

But so glad you were there with her when her time came.

I to was with my mom when she passed and was so glad that I was there.

Thinking of you.

luv trish x x

[ricky23]

What lovely people you all are, its so kind. One good thing ive not given my cancer any thoughts!! I hope mum will still be with me. Thank you. X

[angelina]

Hi Ricky

I am truly sorry for your loss, I know how difficult it is to lose your mum.

Remember we are here for you in the difficult times ahead.

Sending you love and hugs

Angie xx

[Hidden]

Hi Ricky

So sorry for your loss. It is wonderful that you were able to be with her.

Please don't feel you are being negative, it is so natural to feel as you do when you have lost a Mum who you were so close to and who was always so supportive of you. I do think though that although it will be difficult for you in the weeks ahead, a bond like that is never broken and you will feel your Mum still with you in many ways.

[jennybutler]

Ricky so sorry you have lost your Mum, like you I was with my Mum when she died and so glad I was,I will never fear death as I know she is still around me, in many unexplained ways, I have no doubt we will meet again one day.Take care thinking of you at this sad time Jenny xx

[Honey3]

Hi Ricky,

so sorry to hear of your loss, but so pleased for you that you were there at her passing and it was such a beautiful and positive experience. I envy you! My mum's passing was sudden and traumatic and I was 500 miles away. There is a tough road ahead in many ways, but you will find the strength to get through it. Your mum will always be there in your memories. You can be happy that you gave her such comfort towards the end and she must have drawn courage from you. I am a mum supporting my daughter through the after effects of this horrible disease.

Take care of you now and be gentle with yourself. There is no right or wrong way to grieve. Take each day as it comes and if you need to cry, then cry. This not a time for being brave.

Honey xxx

[shaun67]

hi ricky,lost my dear mom last wednesday too,I was with her in her final moments and yes you are right it is special and its helpful to have been there,in time I guess we will treasure these last moments as golden but while its raw its hard to accept what we have participated in,knowing that there is something afterwards gives credence to why we have soul and thought,be strong and remember all of the times you had with your mom not just those special moments,chin up

[ladygooner-uk]

Bless you Ricky. so pleased you were there to help your mum, I'm sure it helped her knowing you were there.

Big Hug.

sue

xx

[MargaretJ]

Dear Ricky

My sympathy for your loss and how good that your mum had you with her at the end and could go peacefully! I was with my mum when she died and I too am not afraid of death as long as the process is peaceful and dignified!

My thoughts are with you.

Margaret

[shen]

Dear ricky

My heart goes ouy to you.. I too was with my mam and then my dad

. When they passed away

What can i say.... Be strong and think of the good times..mt thoughts and prayers are with uou xshenxx

[ricky23]

Thank you to everyone, you are all so kind, it has been very moving to read all your comments.... thank you.....x

[Solange]

Hello Ricky,

I'm so, so sorry to hear about the loss of your Mum and send my deepest sympathy. How lovely that she had a peaceful end and that you had been there, so close, with her 'til the end.

I'll be thinking of you as you go through the next few weeks, making all the necessary arrangements. Your emotions will be on a roller-coaster I expect...... but you'll get through it all and come out the other side - stronger. I lost my own Mum three years ago and I still talk to her in my head sometimes. That's where your Mum will be - in your head and in your heart.

With love and ((((Hugs)))), Solange

[Jan76]

Dear Ricky ,

Thinking about you and your family ... so know how you must feel after my lovely mum had so many terrible years of pain her passing was full of calm and peace .

Keep your lovely memories close by xxx

Love Jan xx

[Cinderella]

Dear Ricky

I am really sorry that you have lost your mum. I am glad that you were able to spend time with your mum in her last moments.

I pray that God gives you & your family the strength to bear your loss.

Take care & lots of love, Samixa X

[ricky23]

Wow youve all made me cry!!! You are all so lovely, its made a huge difference to me, to know many of you know how i feel. Thank you from the bottom of my heart xxx. I hope in the future i too can offer such support and love x

[Hidden]

Just to say Ricky... that I am still thinking of you... and sending best wishes and love x G x

[ricky23 in reply to Hidden]

Ah thank you so much gwyn, its so nice of you to be thinking of me, missing mum dreadfully. X

[Hidden in reply to ricky23]

You must be it is so hard for you at a time when you need her the most..have you had the funeral yet? I would think it is a bit too soon... but I am thinking of you love x G x

[ricky23 in reply to Hidden]

No the funeral is 3 weeks away, there is a long waiting list, as the crem is being refurbed!! Havnt seen her yet, not sure if i want to, as its been a week now. Got to have a dexa scan to see if i have what she died from, its been the worst year, i will miss her as i told her everything, arent mums the best, i was so lucky to have had her in my life, she was a brilliant mum to me for 52 happy years. X

[Hidden in reply to ricky23]

I am so sorry, it is your decision whether or not you see her or not, you might want to remember what you have already got .. those last precious moments you had, there is no crime in not seeing her now...it might be more upsetting for you (if you can be more upset I seriously doubt it) but you don't want to wipe out what you already got you described those last moments as being special and they are....I am sorry you have to wait so long to say your final goodbyes..I am sending you my love and prayers love x G x

[ricky23 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you so much for your wonderful words, means a lot. X