Relationship

[Emcee71]

Hi ladies My partner of 3.5 years has ended our relationship... By WhatsApp message

I am devastated but so mixed up.

I need a hug and you ladies are the only ones who understand how hard it is

😭

[Gonewith]

thats totally out of order. So sorry you have to deal with this as well as every thing else but the only thing I can tell you that you better off without him you are lucky to know sooner that later how he was.

Please try not to be upset. You deserve better.

Big hug and kisses xx

[Emcee71 in reply to Gonewith]

Thank you xx

[Pawpaw22]

Sad to hear this. As Gonewith says, you are better off without this person who could not summon up the courage to be with you at a time like this. Take it very slowly. Spoil yourself. Truly, the "one day at a time" thing works. Just get through today in whatever you can. It will work out.

[Fluffyjumper]

Sending you lots of love and hugs.

[SuffolkJen]

Oh Emily I am soo sorry…

Relationships end sometimes, when they have run their course. Please know that you will find someone when the time is right who deserves YOU.

Anyone who ends a 3.5 year relationship with someone who has gone through cancer recently via a WhatsApp message truly DOESN’T deserve you 🥲.

Spoil yourself, treat yourself, lick your wounds then make 2025 your year, make it count…

Sending you a big virtual hug xx Jen

[0462County]

Sending you all the hugs in the world xx.

[Sunsetime]

I’m sorry Emcee, so cruel to send a what’s app message, be kind to yourself, sending big hugs. Xx

[Emcee71]

Thanks ladies. His Mum died of brain mets to breast cancer 20 years ago this month, and he has a lot of unprocessed grief.

In perfect timing, haha, I'm currently organising to have a mammogram due to an inverted nipple (which could be menopausal changes but also might not be. I have dense breasts and had to have a biopsy on this one already years ago, and a tumour would not necessarily have shown up on my last 2 CT scans). I'm not hysterical about it, but it is weighing on my mind.

Then I have the mysterious blockage in my kidney, which isn't a stone and they don't know what it is yet so probably going to have exploratory day surgery soon, and maybe a stent. They've even said things like 'if it is a tumour you'll need a tumour stent').

The kidney blockage is on the same side as the breast with the inverted nipple.

We both have a lot of life/career challenges too. So all in all, I guess we are just too much for each other.

On the upside I've walked 20 miles of 50 this month as part of a fundraiser. Exhausted and probably stupid / over ambitious, but I am trying to get fitter because I'm sick of feeling useless and people need me. I need me!

Sending love and thanks for your support. You're all wonderful x

[Pawpaw22 in reply to Emcee71]

You ARE brave. Very brave. You do what you have to, to get over the abandonment. Congratulations on the fund-raising walks. Great job. The various findings... one at a time Emcee. One at a time. Hugs.

[Skibot]

so sorry, sending you a big hug xx

[delia2]

Oh my God. I’m sorry but he or she must be a really messed up person. I can’t even imagine how you must feel, coping with OC and being abandoned so casually. You deserve so much better. Just try to take care of yourself and reach out to friends or family to help get you through this. Xx

[Trickysite]

My husband of 35 years left me for another woman two months after my mastectomy. That was 20 years ago. Now dealing with OC.I have the most wonderful son who looks after me and realise my ex, although we got on well, always emotionally abused me when I was ill.

I have had so many male companions since then, and lots of proposals, but never the right one to marry. I have built a whole new life, and I want you to do that too. Believe me, men who leave you when you are ill would be no good to you while you are going through treatment.

[Emcee71 in reply to Trickysite]

God that is unbelievably cruel, I'm so sorry you went through that. The worst thing is that he was great during treatment. But now 'it's over' (and it's so not) and I'm getting on with my life a bit, as best as I can, he's feeling rejected. It's all so complex. He has a lot of s!!t going on too (a staggering amount, actually, which I do not envy) .. I'm not making excuses but I think I need to be strong and move forward. Thank you.x

[bananayo]

I’m so sorry to hear this as I can’t quite understand how someone could do that by WhatsApp message, he truly is a coward ! I hope you can surround yourself with good friends and family while you deal with all that’s going on and be kind to yourself, sending love xx

[candyapplegrey]

Woah, that's really harsh. What a swine. Some people just cannot empathise and don't want to hear about what other people are going through. My half-brother told us and his wife off for discussing friends with cancer. Then he got bowel cancer and suddenly it was an accepted topic of conversation.

You will get through this without him. Try and think of it as one less thing to worry about.

Praying the thing in the kidney turns out to be nothing.

I know you're down in Kent somewhere - us SE London gals are still up for meeting - when you feel well enough.

Congrats on the 20 miles!

We've got your back.

🙏🙏🤗🤗

xx

[Doglover1410]

wow! What a coward and to do it by WhatsApp? Still, someone like that is just going to take up too much of your time…better off without (although I’m sure it doesn’t feel like that right now)

Sending you a big hug, the right person will come along xx

[TeddyandGimli]

I am so very sorry.

What a weak, cruel and selfish man. Clearly you are better off without him.

You will need to grieve for the man you thought he was and the future you hoped to share; but don’t waste one tear for the man he actually is. A real piece of …

Please see this as a great clean start to the new year and a positive step towards physical and mental health.

Hugs.

[SopSinger]

Well, he's not worthy of another minute of your time. What a dickhead and what a way to end things! Pull up your big girl pants, toss your head and walk on proudly. Sending big hugs!

[KH59]

I will reserve my thoughts regarding your ex-partner's actions, as you are the important one here. It feels devastating right now but you will come through this. Focus on yourself and do everything you can to stay well, both mentally and physically. You certainly don't need the excess baggage. You sound like a strong lady and don't waste another moment of your precious time thinking about a ................ who isn't worth it! Keep the faith, you owe it to yourself. Lots of hugs!