Gwyn wants me to say thank you on her behalf for all the support she has received during her time on HU and wishes you all well. She never intended in making a statement to everyone but to just go quietly. (Gwyns words.) It was the biggest coincidence that Fernanda, a very caring person tried to contact her but couldn't, hence the blog.
When you are newly diagnosed everything is overwhelming and scary, after all we have all been there and some are still at that point. Gwyn was very tuned into people's feelings and went out of her way to support newbies and the younger women, that's why she was concerned at some of the comments. She only posted about things she had actually experienced, were factually correct, gave good advice, or just wished you well. Her birthday poems and tributes were written out of care for everyone. She had no agenda just to help people. By the way, I've never met Gwyn but a voice speaks volumes. She is a funny happy genuine person.
This was a brilliant site till personal nasty comments were directed at some people and it hasn't stopped. JLondon's comment was an upsetting reminder of this. Jamie is a young man who lost his wife at the age of only 33. The site was always about caring, sharing useful information and helping each other along our journey and having some sensible banter, BUT at the same time considering others fears and feelings. There was no personal confrontation. Next it took a political turn in more ways than one, upsetting more people but continuing to fuel a power trip. Now religion has been bought into the equation purely to upset and bully. Having been on here for some time enables you to see what some people are trying to do and that's why we are so upset. I don't believe you should support anyone just because they are a friend if you don't agree with what they are doing or saying.
Unfortunately the powers that be have allowed this problem to escalate out of control for reasons I don't understand. This in turn has made some of us, who have been their avid supporters, feel unsupported. I only stayed on the site to chat privately with friends I made, courtesy of Ovacome but fortunately there are other ways to do this now. Gill xxx