How to cope with your child self harming

[Mummabear3]

Hello, I'm new to this page. I'm a mum of 3. My oldest girl is 11 and has been self harming for a while. Banging her head on things, scratching herself, biting, hitting.... I have been to the docs and each time they say they will help and I don't hear anything back from them. Is anyone else experiencing something silimar? Please help!

[NorfolkCYP Partner]

Hi Mummabear3,

Have you ever called into Just One Number and spoken to a school nurse about your daughter? They will be able to offer you some advice. You can call on 0300 300 0123 between 8am - 6pm Monday to Friday or 9am - 1pm Saturdays.

You can also give your daughter the ChatHealth number to text a school nurse for confidential advice. 07480 635060.

I hope this helps.

Thank you

[Mummabear3 in reply to NorfolkCYP]

Thank you. We are seeing a doctor again today to talk about it. They say they will refer her to someone but then we never hear anything else about it

[LawsonLion]

Hi how did it go? Was there anything triggers that makes it worse? It must feel like you can’t do anything for her!

Have you looked for coping strategy’s?

[Mummabear3 in reply to LawsonLion]

The doctor is going to refer her to see someone who can help her manage her emotions. I've tried other outlets, I got her a diary we call her 'feelings book' where she can write down how she feels and let it out that way. There can be triggers, it can also be brought on for no major reason.

[MrsHello Community Ambassador]

Hiya I just wondered how you are getting on? Did anything come of the Dr’s referral program did you find any helpful books? I’ve got an older daughter and I know I’ve found managing their emotions is really hard. It’s like it gets differently difficult. X

[Mummabear3]

Hello, yes we went to the doctors. She was given a website to go on and was able to talk one to one with someone about how she is feeling. The doctor will be contacting the school to see if there is anything that can be put in place and I will be calling early help to see what they suggest, whether it be counselling or anything like that. She is still a very angry child and I struggle to control it at home but hopefully these new things once in place will help x

[Tgrice1163]

I am in a very similar situation with my 7yo. She sees a Pastoral Support worker at school who helps her deal with things and they have also referred her to Point 1 but unfortunately there is a long waiting list. I have been to the doctors and they are no help just keep saying keep doing what you are doing! Not helpful! I am really struggling with it at the moment so I feel your pain. It's so hard to see them like that and you can't help them. It breaks my heart!