Restless and fighting sleep 3month old

[Chowmein1uk]

Just wondering if anyone has had a baby that literally fights sleep during the day and is so restless once asleep. My baby is 3 months old. He's not my 1st child but he seems to be a lot more difficult than my daughter. He dont want the dummy. He's still very fidgety with me even rocking him and patting him to sleep bit he does eventually go to sleep. Any advice will be much appreciated. I'm at the end of my tethers. And cry more often. I think having 2 kids has been a reality check for me. Please help?

[anonymouseuser]

Hi ,

Sounds tough and tiring - Have you tried a sling? That way your son would be close to you and would rock with your movements but you would still have your hands free and be able to move to be able to play with your other child?

How is he in the pushchair ? You’ve probably tried but how about a walk to the park or something, would he settle then?

[Chowmein1uk in reply to anonymouseuser]

Hi. I have got a sling but he's more awake in that , I think that's due to being nosey lol. He don't find the pushchair but he's still not a fan lol. He's defo not a fan of his car seat.

Im just wondering if he's one of these babies that don't like much noise around to fall asleep, which is alot harder with my 3yr old being at home on the school holidays at the mo. I'm hoping once she's back at childminders, i can start getting him into a routine nap time for at least a few hours whilst it'll be quiet.

[MrsHello Community Ambassador]

Hiya, how are things? Honestly this sounds so exhausting! I’ve got 4 children now and I have to say the jump from one to two was the one I found hardest and that first 3 months was very difficult. How old is your first child? My children all fought sleep as babies and it was so hard. I ended up using the baby whisperer book to give me some ideas - which really helped me understand my baby’s sleeping style. It had some tips that was really useful for sleep management and over time I learnt to manage my wriggly, sleep fighting babies. My main thing was making sure the room was really dark, not too hot/cold or too much going on at bedtime. I tried to establish a routine from even that age and that really helped. I hope you get chance to rest during the day to keep you going energy wise - big good luck my lovely you can do this 😊😊.

[Chowmein1uk in reply to MrsHello]

Hiya. My 1st child is 4 in September. She tries to help out as best as she can. Buy because she's noisy, my 3 month old is restless. I find if it's quiet he's not too bad however he liked the sound of the tumble drier. I may have to use white noise. But I may have a look at that baby whisperer book. Also my boy, has finally been sleeping through the nights now for the last 2 weeks. It's just nap times he fights sleep.

[Pootl in reply to Chowmein1uk]

My lb is the same he only sleeps well during the day if I put him upstairs and keep the toddler down stairs or she is at nursery and that’s only 2 days. So he has 5 days a week where his naps are only 30-70 min and two days his naps are 3 hours. Not much help other than to say we just try to work round it

[MrsHello Community Ambassador in reply to Chowmein1uk]

Hiya, how are you getting on? The tumble dryer sounds like a win and the white noise apps are really amazing. You can get ones with all different kinds of white noise. Hope he is still sleeping at nights for you. 🤞🏻 😊

[Chow44 in reply to MrsHello]

Oh yes, he sleeps through the night excellently, usually 7pm til 6/7am. He just fights sleep through the day. Since he was born, he only liked being rocked and patted to sleep. I think he's got use to it and I need to break that habit. But wow I'm finding it hard and tiring.

[Chow44 in reply to MrsHello]

If ur wondering chowmein1uk and chow44 is the same person ME lol. I can't seem to remember my details for my chowmein1uk account lol

[MrsHello Community Ambassador in reply to Chow44]

Lol I do that all the time. I’m constantly resetting my password for things 🤦🏼‍♀️😂. That’s brilliant news about the nights. Hopefully the day naps will improve. It is so exhausting and often when you have another little one you get no chance to rest. Fingers crossed the naps will improve. I found I was constantly telling myself ‘it’s a phase’ even now I do - my youngest (who is 7) is doing this waking in the night and needing a cuddle for an hour. I’m so tired constantly!!! Xx

[Chow44 in reply to MrsHello]

Oh no really. Blimey kids are exhausting but we wouldn't change them for the world, would we? Lol. Maybe a few parts haha. I do hope they improve. I think I'm gonna wait until 6 months, where I can do the cry it out method and hope it sorts him out then. But you never know, he may change before then. (I hope so)

[MrsHello Community Ambassador in reply to Chow44]

Fingers crossed 🤞🏻 😂 x