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Minor rant re brain fog

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Annoyed that some people think I'm stupid when I just need a bit of time to answer ๐Ÿคฏ anyone else get this with brain fog? You need a chance to think things through and form a response. Also I have moderate hearing loss so like to concentrate.

Guy was in a car asking for directions but because I was slow I could see him thinking I'll just ask someone else...so annoying.

Thanks all. Have a lovely day, at least the sun is out. xx

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sylvi profile image
sylvi

Know that feeling well.xxxx

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Sheila_Gโ€ข in reply tosylvi

Me too.

springcross profile image
springcross

Oh yes! I've noticed it gradually over the last 18 months or so but mine is more like brain freeze than brain fog and is very frustrating. Fortunately, I haven't mixed with many people for the last couple of years because of Covid, which I think is just as well! ๐Ÿค”

Yep Iโ€™ve been told Iโ€™m vacant or rude

Knip profile image
Knipโ€ข in reply to

๐Ÿ˜ฏ That's appalling! Take comfort from the fact that anyone who has said that to you is being very rude...and we all know that YOU aren't! โค๏ธ

Happy5 profile image
Happy5โ€ข in reply to

Yeh great how ones with no idea make judgements :(

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Madmusiclover

Oh yes. And people cut in to finish what they think you were going to say. Response is usually โ€˜no; just give me space to think; Iโ€™m having a bad dayโ€™. Grrrrrโ€ฆ..

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rabbits65

Try not to get too upset over this . Those people are just unkind and ignorant. When my father was alive ( years ago) he was extremely slow to answer people , but I liked him for that because he was carefully thinking about his answer. So it doesnโ€™t have to be brain fog . Have a nice afternoon xxx

โ€ข in reply torabbits65

Thanks all. Feel better now. My Dad was the same rabbits65 he worded things carefully. You're right ๐Ÿ˜Š xx

rabbits65 profile image
rabbits65โ€ข in reply to

Itโ€™s little things like that that make us miss our parents , you know you jogged a little memory for me of him . I hope your alright .

โ€ข in reply torabbits65

Aw that is true. ๐Ÿ’Feeling better now, thanks ๐Ÿ˜Š xx

Knip profile image
Knipโ€ข in reply torabbits65

Your dad sounds as if he was a lovely, caring man. โค๏ธ

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rabbits65โ€ข in reply toKnip

Yes both my mum and dad were caring. Sadly as we โ€œ ageโ€ Iโ€™m 69 we lose our parents just when we need their company most.

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Knipโ€ข in reply torabbits65

I was very sad to lose my mother when she was 53 and I had a four month old baby...I feel so sad whenever I think of how much she would have loved her grandchildren, and they her, but she was denied that pleasure. No scans or chemo back in the early sixties, but we thank God that we have them today. I was, however, very fortunate that my father lived with us until he died aged 76, back in 1980, and we were very close. He too, was a lovely man. Take care, โค๏ธ

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rabbits65โ€ข in reply toKnip

Oh that is very sad to hear . We just donโ€™t know what life has in store for us . My mother never wanted to live to be in her nineties . She had dementia in her last seven years and that was very sad to see her suffer like that xxx

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Knipโ€ข in reply torabbits65

I can understand about your mother not wanting to live given the dementia. I think it is a fear that many of us have. In that instance it is a blessing when that persons passes in peace. My mother was suffering so much at the end that I took comfort from the fact that almost her last words to me were 'if there is a God he will take me today'. Her death was, to her, a great blessing for her. Because of the RA in my hands, and in my wrists, my wedding ring had to be cut off a year ago. My mum was taller than I am with bigger hands so her ring was much larger. On the morning that she died she asked me to put my Grandmother's ring on her finger, because she wanted me to have hers. I feel very close to her now that I am wearing it. A sad story I know but that ring is so special to me. Take care, no matter the age, losing someone we love is devastating. God Bless, Knip. โค๏ธ

โ€ข in reply toKnip

We miss them don't we? I miss my parents too. I'm 51 with no kids. My Dad lasted 8 years after my mum and I cared for him. I miss sitting at the table with them. xx

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Knipโ€ข in reply to

I wholeheartedly agree with you, FW, there is small rhyme....'you have a mother, treasure her with care, for you won't know how much you miss her, until she isn't there'. This is so very true. I am lucky in that I have a good husband and three sons, two of whom live nearby. It was the intense stress of my mother's suffering and passing that triggered my first bout of Rhematoid Arthritis. It knocked me for six. I am thinking of you, take care, we never really lose they we love, because we hold them in our hearts. It sounds trite but it is so very true. It is the little things that we miss about them...not the out of the ordinary things. Big hugs, God Bless you, Knip, โค๏ธโค๏ธ

โ€ข in reply toKnip

Lovely ๐Ÿ’

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rabbits65โ€ข in reply toKnip

Oh thatโ€™s so sweet , thank you for sharing and god bless you ๐Ÿ˜Š ๐Ÿ’• xxx

โ€ข in reply torabbits65

๐Ÿ’ ๐Ÿ˜

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rabbits65โ€ข in reply to

Youโ€™ve had some lovely replies to your original post !!!

โ€ข in reply torabbits65

๐Ÿ˜Š absolutely...nice hearing everyone's experiences ๐Ÿ’

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rabbits65โ€ข in reply to

I see someone on this thread mentioned B12 , you say your going to look into it. Well I bought some but Iโ€™ve not taken any as you really need to do a test first as I read it can be dangerous to take if you donโ€™t require B12

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Fruitandnutcase

Thatโ€™s just rude isnโ€™t it. I find I have to really think when Iโ€™m giving people directions. I almost go over the route theyโ€™ll drive in my heart before I tell them. Just try and write it off as โ€˜the guyโ€™s an idiotโ€™. ๐Ÿ˜Š

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GranAmie

can identify with this so much, but my old GP now retired suggested we both try vitamin B12 as I mentioned husband was becoming increasingly forgetful of basics ... and it made a great difference, Not the same as pausing for thought, but it may help somebody reading this. xx

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sunnyweek

Yes a friend told me I pause when speaking. I've also noticed I sometimes say the same sentence again.

Great hearing your experiences. Yes I like to visualise it... 'the guy's an idiot' made me laugh!

Will look into B12 - I take B2 already.

I also ask my husband to slow down if he's talking too fast plus guilty of repeating myself - and like it when people pause during chats ๐Ÿ‘ xx

Knip profile image
Knipโ€ข in reply to

I have a considerable hearing loss and mostly I need people to speak a little more slowly so that my brain has a chance to decipher what is being said. Probably the least understanding is my husband, who is usually a lovely man, but he just doesn't get this.

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Knipโ€ข in reply to

At a Rhematology conference a nutritionist suggested that we take D3 and B6. I will look into B12...if my hubby hadn't been with me I would have assumed I had heard the wrong Vitamin! ๐Ÿ˜€

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lucymead

I have same problem my grown up children are awful. The last text I had said "Are you on medication again" GRRR

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Yes I think it is the typical type of situation where a little bit of understanding goes a long way...was v frustrated yesterday, calmed down now ๐Ÿ’ xx

Knip profile image
Knip

My biggest frustration is knowing the word I want but just can't find it to order...I know it well, it's on the tip of my tongue...it just won't come...until...suddenly it's there again, but the moment has passed! It's as if my brain carries on digging around after I have 'let it go'. It's so frustrating and I must admit that I fear sometimes that it might be a sign of dementia.

โ€ข in reply toKnip

I get that too. I tell myself it is due to fatigue...sometimes wish the world would go at 30 mph instead of 70 ๐Ÿ’ xx

Knip profile image
Knipโ€ข in reply to

It's so good to know I'm not alone in that! Stay safe and keep looking on the bright side of life...๐Ÿ‘ โค๏ธ

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stbernhard

If I can't explain my situation and get some understanding, I just think "well it's the other persons problem, not mine!" I have enough to get on with without letting it bother me what other people might think. I have acquired a very thick skin over the years. Be good and kind to yourself today! Others may not be. All the best.

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Garnacha

I was thinking of asking the same question, my brain fog has gotten so much worse over the last couple of months I've seriously thought could I have onset of dementia, ive always been very switched on & was more likely to get tongue tied trying to get out what I wanted to say, someone once asked if I had gills like a fish as I didn't seem to take a breath ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿ˜‚

I always wake up feeling like I have a hangover too & tbh I'm getting really fed up of it all, I've been putting it down to methotrexate but, I missed my last injection deliberately last Monday as I had my covid booster Tuesday, thought this morning perhaps lefluminode is the culprit especially as I feel sick for 6 - 7 days of the week.

I've got a rheumatology appointment on the 17th & I'm going to ask x

I had to medically retire from my last job, as it was one-to-one support, and if I hadnโ€™t written it down, I had no idea what someone had just told me. Big sign I needed to get out. And I did ๐ŸŽ‰. With my family, โ€œ I may not have told you this yet, or I may have told you 5 times already, just bear with meโ€ ๐Ÿคฃ.

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wilbertjellyfish

Sun is out. ๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽ‰

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Bhasvic64

Yes I agree with you and obviously others. I also forget the odd word when I'm trying to tell something to someone, have to describe what I mean, hope that's makes sense!! Oh dear this getting old is not all its cracked up to be. Take care everyone.

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Boywonder56

Rowing the same boat friend....as they used to say when austin was wierd.....onward thru the fog......

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Boywonder56

And i hate when people say ....ur just getting old....piss off....

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Happy5

Yup can often see being written off, just cos I appear old & frail never mind when I start speaking. I call it the invisible disease. Fortunately most of those I speak with regularly know I'm having a vacant day when word searching in conversation.

100% relate to this! Forgetting everyday words is my thing lately, too and it is just so frustrating to see people glaze over

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