Flare

[Carolsos]

I think I am having a flare up, am so tired all the time and got a lot off pain in my right shoulder! I take codeine for pain relief. I normally take 2 tablets in the morning 30mg each and that normally does me the whole of the day. But am having to take nearly the maximum to have no pain. I think everything is coming to a head now. My granddaughter Bella is getting cremated on 14th July, this is the date she was due. So everything has been up in the air, also about a month before that my daughter's husband was having an affair and she is now going through a divorce. She has only been married for a year!

It all seems to be getting too much and am in pain much more than normal.

I have a date to return to work on 29th July. But going in 5days before that to sort the site out.

I have to say it's been a horrendous few months and now on top of all of this I am not surprised I am flaring!

My daughter is coming up for the funeral and staying for a few days.

Thanks for listening. Take care everyone. X

[sylvi]

Wow you have had your share of woes haven't you. My condolences on the loss of your granddaughter Bella. Send my condolences to her family as well. As you have said no wonder your in a flare darling. Take all your meds as prescribed and rest when you can. Hugs from me.xxxxx

[springcross]

I'm really sorry to hear your news Carolsos, what a nightmare, what a shame about your S-i-L-'s infidelity after just one year too. I don't think there's any doubt that your flare is due to your bereavement and now this. Is this a second daughter or the same one who's Bella's mum? Whatever the answers you and your daughter/s are going ţhrough an awful time and I feel so sorry for you. This is one of those life can be such a bitch times and I hope things improve soon for you. Take care. x

[Carolsos in reply to springcross]

I have only one daughter it's her husband that is a toe rag. Bella is my son's daughter. Thank you for your reply ❤️

[springcross in reply to Carolsos]

Oh I'm sorry Carolsos, got that well and truly wrong didn't I. Your daughter is obviously well and truly hurt right now and maybe doesn't yet realise she really is much better off without him - much better it's happened now than in a year or two. All the best to you. xx

[Gnarli]

What a dreadful time you are all having. It's not really surprising that you are flaring and I can only say I'm so sorry for your troubles. There aren't words enough so sending healing thoughts and huge virtual hugs

[Lolabridge]

I’m so sorry your family is going through such a traumatic time and the sadness and stress you are coping with is very likely to be causing your flare. Take care of yourself and know we are thinking of you at this sad time. X

[Pippy25]

So sorry to hear you are going through this. Stress, distress, anxiety and all these things that are happening I'm sure all contribute to 'feeding' your RD and having flares. Our bodies are fine tuned machines and react to all these emotions and feelings and I guess it finds a way of bringing it out. Hope you are taking your meds regularly, trying to keep to some sort of a routine, eating regularly, keeping hydrated and resting. It's all no doubt a bit surreal still and you have Bella's funeral and your daughter coming to stay in the coming days, so look after yourself and be kind to you so you can gather strength for when you need it. I was in a similar situation at the end of last year when I had to go through an unexpected passing, a PM enquiry and organising a funeral and like you my body went into a flare and I was doubtful I was going to be able to walk on the day of the funeral. Thankfully and without going into detail, I was seeing a doctor who gave me some complimentary treatment alongside taking my regular meds and I was able to walk with my stick and was able to stand up and speak. In the days afterwards it was like a wave of release and think that all the pain, shock, upset, distress, stress, anxiety, adrenalin over that period of time had built up and am sure it played a part in affecting my RD and other conditions. So take care and sending you my supportive wishes x

[Ruth12345]

I add my condolences to you and your family. I expect your body will settle as the situation settles. Not to say that is easy in any way. Stating the obvious you could do without S I L being an idiot, very imature. When our children hurt we hurt.

If its dihydrocodeine you take, I take 1 paracetamol with my mine which maximises its affect. I still take 60mg 3 to 4 times a day to control my pain and the paracetamol really helps me. I found w paracetamol gave mw headaches. Just thought I would say.

Thinking of you and if there is anything you can do to spoil yourself then I suggest you do it.

Sending a hug.

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