Loss: I wrote not so long ago about the loses That I... - NRAS


29,994 members35,864 posts



I wrote not so long ago about the loses

That I have endured this year since being diagnosed with both rheumatoid and oeateoarthritus, tonight my partner of 13 years and the father to both of my children has just told me that he doesn't love me anymore and doesn't want to be with me, my heart is broken into two, I can't stop crying but need to before the kids wake in the morning, I am

Trying so hard to be strong

27 Replies

Hi I'm so sorry for the situation you find yourself in. Take care and take it one day at a time.

Trish x

annaslyric in reply to trish1957

Thanks Trish xx

So sorry to hear about your sadness. There isn't much I can say that will make you feel better right now. It's a huge adjustment.

Please take care of yourself.

annaslyric in reply to Nettac

Thanx for just replying xxxx


Really sorry to hear about what you're going through. What a difficult time for you all. Is there family/ friends around to offer practical and emotional support? If not, maybe consider talking to a counsellor- it's a lot to carry on your own and trying to hold it in front of the children will be difficult too.

I do wish you well and remember, we are hear if you wish to scream and vent!

Be kind to yourself over the next while.


annaslyric in reply to Eiram50

Thanks Marie xx


I'm so sorry you are hurting....Gosh, I don't know what to say, as nothing I would like to say would make you feel better... but I am a daughter & grand daughter of staunch femminsts...cry without your children seeing you and then take everything you can from your "so called partner" !!...take him to the "CLEANERS"... you deserve to raise your children in happines... You are woman, & DANG IT, HE WILL HEAR YOU ROAR!!.... you & your babies don't have to suffer... make him pay for being an arse. I wish you well and given some time, you will find you are stronger & better off without him.

All my love to you & your children


Nettac in reply to Hidden

Haha...made me chuckle!

I studied Women`s Studies at college.

Annaslyric..do try and surround yourself with as much support as you can. I brought up my son single handed, and it wasn't easy.

The most important thing is that you take care of your physical and mental well being. Take some space for yourself.


Really sorry to read this. How painful this must feel. What can anyone say apart from make sure you look after yourself. Take care big hugs x

Oh darling i can't like your post as it is so sad. Does it never end for you my sweet. Hugs from me.xxxxxx

So sorry for you, and your children. You will find the strength from somewhere. But do something nice for yourself today.

stay strong - look after youself, things will get better! Sending cyber hugs. Xx

Thats awful, what a shock. Don't know what to say other than be kind to yourself, think things over carefully, take your time and and while you don't want to make any hasty decisions at this time it might be worth speaking to someone at the CAB Just to see where you stand ((( big hug)))

So sorry to hear that this is happening to you. Hugs and more hugs.

May I suggest you have a look at the forum on the Munsnet web site to find more support. Of course it is no replacement for real life person to person support. But you may find this helps reading the posts and there are lots of tips and pointers to help from others having relationship problems.

Just search for ' Mumsnet relationships '. You don't have to post anything.

I hope I have been of some help with this suggestion. I am so sorry you are having to go through this on top of your health problems. Hugs again. xx

So very sorry to hear this Anna. There's little we can say to take away the hurt & sense of loss you're feeling but you will feel better than this, take it day by day. Surround yourself with those who do love you, those that don't aren't worth your tears. x

im so sorry for you & your children 7 years ago my husband passed away and the only thing that kept me going was to look forward I kept saying this time nxt year it will be better...it was .xxx

Thinking of you xxx

Love and hugs to you. I have no wisdom or sage advice for you but please know that you are thought of and obviously being held dear in so many hearts right here in this forum. I hope and pray you find the peace within yourself to keep things together and the courage and strength to fight. You've got this and we will be here to see you through.

Best ~


I have no words to make you feel better at the moment. Yes, talk to the CAB, surround yourself with people who love you, be kind and gentle with yourself, hug your kids - lots- and try not to criticise the soon-to-be ex in their hearing. Whatever else he is, he is still their father and they love him. This awfulness will not go on forever. It will get better and easier. Allow yourself to grieve for your losses. Believe me, having been divorced twice, your best revenge is to be happy. Huge hugs


I'm so sorry to hear about the situation you find yourself in. There isn't really anything I can say to make things better, but I'm a good listener if you want to talk or even have a rant!

Thinking of you ,

Take care .


Stay strong !


Oh Annaslyric, I am so very sorry for your loss. It just seems to keep coming. So much for in sickness and in health. Remember it is his loss . Perhaps he is clearing out to make room for a true partner. Someone who will be there for you and not just there to use you. Your children will be a source of strength for you , as well. I raised my son as a single mother. I left his father before I knew I was pregnant. I have never regretted that choice. We are very close and I am now sisteen years married to my true partner. I was married three times before getting right lol I do sincerely believe things happen for a reason. Hang Tuff has become one of my favourite expressions. Please do not despair, who knows what is yet to come. I wish I could give you a real hug but til then a virtual hug headed your way. Let's hope karma kicks his backside repeatedly.🏋️‍♀️

Thinking of you and sending hugs. No words will seem appropriate just yet, it will take some time to get your head around it all. Be kind to yourself and talking to people on here whenever you feel the need is a must as support will help you through.

Here if you feel the need to talk.💞😘😘

I can hear how much pain you are in, as would be anyone in that situation. It's hard enough, but then to juggle all that and be a parent is so hard.

I have not been able to accomplish the following myself :), but I've been told that when you're really hurting, remember to treat yourself as you would treat someone you loved.

You are not alone.

I rarely post. But I hear you.

It will get better. And you stronger.


Hi this is Zeus 49 I am so sorry to hear ur husband told you that after 13 years. It is very hard on you and ur children. The only love u need right now is ur children. Sometimes what goes around comes back tenfold. Unfortunately will get through it because times a healer. I wish you all the best keep strongx

Sorry to hear that your partner of 13 years is behaving like a complete arse and leaving you and the two children you have created together when you need him the most. I am sorry also that l can't console you with platitudes, because as a man I feel your partner is a git.

You may also like...