Need some encouragement

Hi,new here and could do with some wise words.

I so desperately want to kick the habit but for some reason i cant quite do it.

I started smoking at 17,turn 48 in a couple of months so my poor old body has taken a bit of a battering over the years and now i want to give myself a break and have a healthy life.

I did manage to stop for two years with the help of hypnotherapy and the fact i wanted to stop,but stupidly started again. Mind you the most stupid thing i ever did was light up all those years ago.

About a year ago i was prescribed champix which i didnt get on with,mood swings,low mood ect so started smoking again.

I recently read Allan Carrs book and was filled with motivation to go for it cold turkey. The last couple of days i have managed to go all day without a fag and not been too bothered,but then there seems to come this point in the day where i just want to have a smoke and when i do i dont enjoy it.

I just so want to stop and not be a slave to nicotine anymore. I feel so down on myself for letting something so insignificant rule my life.

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  • Evening Loo

    My suggestion would be to read some more, it also helps to occupy you.

    You've probably given into the crave for a reason, you'll prob need to think of some ways to avoid giving in during the evening as this seems to be your worst time.

    There is lots of advice in the various threads of the forum, have a look and take baby steps.

    M

  • Sounds familiar. It took me my third attempt to finally get it, and I think the key is to really want to do it, which it sounds like you do. I wont pretend the first week or so is easy, but you have to take it one day at a time, spend as much time as possible reading peoples experiences and understanding what is going on.

    Sometimes the crave can seem all consuming but if you can calm yourself and turn that panic feeling around, it does all come together. If you feel a huge crave, think about it for a while, imagine what that cigarette would be like, then you really have to remember how you are feeling right now, whilst you are smoking and how desperate you feel about stopping. Right down your feelings now, before you quit, record yourself talking about it, whatever it takes to remember how you feel right now. I lost my last quit down to thinking I could have just one, and although I still think about cigarettes sometimes, in my head I can always turn those thoughts around to how I felt when I smoked, how I smelt, looked, skulking around corners for a sneaky smoke etc. we've all done it.

    It's not easy, but prepare yourself, don't look ahead, just take one day at a time. Trust me, those days add up, and the confidence you will gain from kicking this nasty little addiction is worth every irritating moment the quit gives you. Find things that make you smile, and things that you like to do, find time for you.

    I wish you every success, you will do it, read peoples signatures etc. There is some great advice and experiences to be had, and it's a good way to fill in those irritating times.

    Lorraine :)

  • Hi

    Welcome to the boards...I'm a new quitter and I so get where you are coming from with evenings being the hardest time, it's my only 'me' time where I sit and think about things which is dangerous :D

    I'm going down the NRT route and tend to 'save' the lozenges for the evening and it really helps. Of course if I feel desperate I'll have one in the day time but I don't think I've done that since day 4 or so......I'm on day 10 tomorrow.

    Each to their own with the way they choose to break free, I can't do Champix either it turns me into a basket case! :eek:

    I agree with MAH about reading, even though a lot of it is aimed at cold turkey quitters I still read and read and read, it helps as it changes the way you think about things.....

    I wish you all the best in whichever route you take, one day at a time, it can be done! It's tough but you sound ready to take the plunge!!!

    Jane

  • Thanks for the words of encouragement. I have decided monday is going to be the day i do it,for good this time.I really have to before my health suffers anymore. I know four people who have died before their time due to smoking related illnesses,one of them being my dad.

    My mum is coming to stay with me in October and i want to be able to surprise her that i have finally managed to do it as i know she worries about what it is doing to me.

    I will use gum i think,even though people say its best just to quit and go cold turkey and not rely on NRT.I can go all day at work ok so just gum in the evening might be the best option for me.

    Another incentive is that when i look at the ceiling in my living room,its quite yellow with nicotine stains :eek:Dread to think what state my lungs are in:o

  • I will use gum i think,even though people say its best just to quit and go cold turkey and not rely on NRT.I can go all day at work ok so just gum in the evening might be the best option for me.

    Another incentive is that when i look at the ceiling in my living room,its quite yellow with nicotine stains :eek:Dread to think what state my lungs are in:o

    Hiya loopy-lou

    Don't you worry about using NRT or anything else - you use whatever you need to aid you with your quit. We all use different methods as we are all different people - there is no one size fits all. Don't put loads of pressure on yourself just take one day and a time.

    I would recommend you read the links that some put in their signatures as education about the addition may help you.

    As for your ceiling - don't worry about it - when you quit, you will turn into someone with OCD - I have (I have never had such a clean pad!) :D

    You take care and let us know how you get on

    Tinks :p

  • So determined to do it now. Just talked to my mum on the phone and told her i am going to quit and she is so pleased. first and foremost i'm doing it for me but i dont want to let my mum down either.

    Will keep coming back here for inspiration.

  • Afternoon Loopy Loo what was it you wanted words of wisdom, that counts me out as I don’t think I am very wise or I would have packed the fags in 40 year ago or to be even wiser I would never have started would I.

    What I will say is that since I quit I can say I am wiser now because I know I have done the right thing and will not smoke again.

    Some people now say to me that I can’t say that, but you know what I can and do every day, because if I was to say ok maybe this is not for life then I would have a bad day and smoke again and then I would be back to square one and I would be having loads of bad days, so I am wise enough now to know I want smoke again and there’s the wisest words any one will ever say to you, quit and stay quit, welcome to the forum.

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