I feel compelled to post this. I'm a long term quitter. I quit using patches and educating myself by using this forum. I'm pretty solid in my quit with only a few niggles now and then.
My husband quit cold turkey, two months after me. With no support forum and no education other than my occasional ramblings.
Some people who know me will have read of him going down the 'occasional' route some months ago. It shook my quit to begin with and then I settled down, however, recently, I had started to think occasionally that if he could be so successful at a 'just one if i've had a drink' then maybe it was something that a smoker could do.
How exciting, my addict brain stated!
Happily the 'no' i've trained myself to say stayed stuck.
This week I found the secret fag wrappers. The clothes snuck at the bottom of the washing basket, the increased use of chewing gum. I finally got the truth from my lovely man. Its not just one occasionally. Its not full on either, but its escalated. As it always does with the 'just one mentallity'. Not just with a drink. And using the drink as an excuse to smoke. And a couple in the daytime occasionally.
At the end of the day its his life. I love him. I'm worried about the impact on our finances if he starts again and i've implored him to consider quitting before it gets too hard.
I suppose the message is this. Patches, gum, inhalators, champix, cold turkey are all just ways to quit. NRT and tablets give you a leg up if you need it. But, for a successful long term quit its all about education. Teaching yourself how to say no. Learning and telling yourself every day why you quit in the first place and not being afrad to ask from help and advice at the first sign of a relapse.
Pure (well re the smoking anyway!) and free and a bit sad but all right really.