Newbie needing support

[nsd_user663_5189]

Hi, so glad I found this forum! Broke my arm a couple of weeks ago and my dr reckoned it was time I gave Champix a try. No major problems with the starter pack, last cig 10pm last night and doing ok today. Mainly cos I read alot of day 1 posts to get prepared! Hoping 2day is the 1st day of freedom from a 25yr, 40-60 a day addiction...

[nsd_user663_2376]

Hi Coops

Good luck with your quit going from 40-60 per day to non will be a great achievement and im sure will save you plenty of £££££ and of course improve your health greatly.

[nsd_user663_4955]

Congratulations Coops, best decision you have ever made. Day 1 nearly over as well - Fab. Glad you found this forum and it's prepared you well. There is support by the wagon loads on here from a wide range of people, we all have the same goal though - To stay smoke free.

If you need anything, just shout, someone will be along to help.

Looking forward to reading your progress in the days and weeks to come.

[nsd_user663_3728]

Hi Coops

Well done deciding to quit and on day 1

Below is my standard wlecome and advice post which I try and sned all new members

Welcome to the forum and well done on the decision to quit possibly one of the most important you will ever make and you will be losing nothing but you will regain control of your life and that has to be good

You will find all the help and support you need on here as we all help each other just like a family we are here for you every step of the way cheering the good days and sympathiseing with the bad but the good far outweigh the bad

Read the posts on here you will find a lot of tips and advice and in the signatures of a lot you will find links to other sites just click on them Here are 2 I find very good to start you off whyquit.com and woofmang.com Read, read and then read some more as the more you read and learn about why you smoked and about your addiction the easier your quit will be

Post often to let us know how you're doing, to rant, rave have a moan whatever you like pretty much anything goes on here OK

Love

Marg

[nsd_user663_5149]

Congratulations on making the decision to quit. There will be tough days but everyone on here is lovely and having people to chat to who have been there makes it so much easier

Chloe x

[nsd_user663_5166]

Hi Coops,

Well done for Day 1 - I'm on Champix and on Day 4 - so with you all the way!

CG

[nsd_user663_5189]

Thanks for the support, good to know there are people out there quitting successfully. Sometimes friends can be a bit negative?

[nsd_user663_5034]

Hello Coops and welcome...well done on your decision to quit!! I am on Champix as well and havn't had a smoke for 30 days and feeling great....Good luck ...Cheers Kez.

[nsd_user663_1658]

hi coops a big welcome & good luck in youre quit. Youre doing brilliant to get through day 1 - probably the toughest x take care n hear you soon

[nsd_user663_4086]

Thanks for the support, good to know there are people out there quitting successfully. Sometimes friends can be a bit negative?

I agree entirely! I found it nigh on impossible to quit at University because just about everyone I lived with also smoked. Not the greatest support network!

Now 5 years on from graduation, there is only one left smoking. At our last meet up it was only myself and him stood outside in the freezing rain!

[nsd_user663_4990]

Coops,

From what i've seen on my own quit, my friends are more like 'oh right k.. right what were we talkin about just then?' if i mentioned i'd gone another week off the smokes... its got to the point where i don't bother telling them now.

:eek: So how have I coped? :eek:

Well, in truth, friends aside there was only 1 or 2 of them that ask, and say well done anyway, but the practicing ex-smoker tends to lean on those closeby less and less as the weeks go by.. and i've actually found this forum far more rewarding than any friends or chance meetings in the real world. On these forums you are among folk who are all going through this whole quitting process.. and have quit just nicely.. but you know? sometimes you just need someone to actually acknowledge what you yourself are really proud of.. it give you ok.. a small boost, but enough to make you feel it was worthwhile.. even though you felt it was good anyway.

You will no doubt find a few folk outside of your friends, folk who you don't talk to all the time who you mention it too just in conversation .. and they really do congratulate you on it.

Sometimes thats all you wanna here.. you want to tell the world.. you just wish the whole world would listen.

Aside from that.. the friends, particularly if they still smoke, will be a little bit envious that you've quit... something they wished for years they could do. The longer you go.. the more lonely they start to feel because their smokers circle is shrinking.. and it turns to real envy later if you go a long time quit.. because then they wish that they could too.. and right now.. but then they listen to their demon, off they go and have another one and they are trapped again. (heck sometimes to ease their own pain they try offering you a smoke to lure you back.. pfft.. some friend!)

Friendships are funny things, but at least on here you got good support.

[nsd_user663_5189]

Thanks Jase,

don't want to moan but a "mate" asked me today why I was putting myself through it when I knew I'd be back on them in no time! Was feeling a bit unappreciated! It's great that in here everyone understands the achievement in each milestone, even if it is only making it to day 2 lol!

Thanks for making me smile guys

(and yes Champix does apparently cause insomnia too!)

Fiona

[nsd_user663_4990]

'when i knew i'd be back on them in no time'.

Thats the bit i'd be working on.. i've done quite a bit of reading this time, not on scare stories about nicotine.. just things that made sense to me.. folks experiences.. things that made me say in my mind 'you know? thats spot on!'

Determination and your strong will to drive it are your two strongest qualities you should reenforce. make them strong.. or just stronger each time you read and you'll be amazed how soon you find comments such as your friend makes, to actually have the full opposite effect to how it sounds.

if a friend of mind now said that to me, that would be like 'double-daring me' to go even longer on my quit.. to try even harder. Basically, you are in a position to prove the blighter wrong.. and that yep, you actually can do this.. you will do this.. and you are doing this.

Hope that makes a little sense, tis a bit late and i'm yawning like bagpuss at the moment

[nsd_user663_5034]

don't want to moan but a "mate" asked me today why I was putting myself through it when I knew I'd be back on them in no time! Was feeling a bit unappreciated!

I know exactly how you feel....my friends that still smoke are not supportive at all...one said "you are wasting your time...you will be back on them" another said when I told them I had not been smoking for 2 weeks "oh no!! another preaching non-smoker" and hubby...no support at all from him...in fact I think he smoked twice as much when I gave up:rolleyes:...he is away at the moment and says he has a patch on....I asked him on the phone how it was going....Alright was the answer...so I'm a bit doubtful.

So this forum is my strength at the moment and it is making me strong and I am sure it will be the same for you!!

One of my non smoking friends said to me yesterday ...gee you smell nice what I buzz I dont smell like stale smoke anymore

[nsd_user663_4844]

Welcome!

Congrats and yes this forum is a life saver! I really mean that. My husband and I even quit together but he doesn't want to talk about it so I come here for support! There are so many nice people who share tips, offer encouragement and truly understand the fact that it is an addiction....a very bad one that we all are overcoming

I agree about smokers being envious because honestly over the past year when people I knew quit I would tell them great job but would never bring it up again or just cringe when they brought it up. I felt weak and ashamed and wished I too could quit. Problem was when I quit I couldn't make a big deal to anyone......all but a handful of people thought I was a social smoker when I was drinking and others had no idea I smoked. My husband quit CT so although he is glad I am not smoking I can tell he doesn't approve of the nic gum I am still using. And it was my badgering that got him to quit with me! I come here....to hear that it is okay that I am using the gum and that at least I am not smoking. I come here to read others posts nodding my head at so many statements that resonate with me. I love this place and you will too!

Look forward to reading about your success! Goos job...you will do it!!!!!!!

Hanna

quit 7: week 10? I think.....quit date June 22nd: mom to 4 boys 8 and under.