What are some ways you've approached "the big ask?"

[MichaelS_NKF]

It takes courage to ask others for help - and there's no bigger ask than asking for a kidney. kidney.org/newsletter/5-way...

[Abram1]

I donated nine years ago. I have always told people looking for donors, that there is somebody out there whose life will be enriched forever by the act of donation. Essentially, you are providing an opportunity for that person to change the course of their life for the better. While it may feel that you are asking prospective donors for the ultimate favor, after donation they will look at things differently and express their gratitude to you for joining your lives together.

[cathyserene in reply to Abram1]

Nicely said, Abram1. When my friend found out she needed a kidney donation it was a huge shock. Her kidneys went from "managing" to "oops - doing almost nothing"! Her primary kidney doctor happened to be out of town, so this was a big surprise to both of them. Because we're good friends, and because I used to make all the announcements about blood drives at church, at the next announcement (which was almost right away, and with her ok), I announced that in addition to donating blood, it's also possible to be a living donor for a kidney as well as a part of a liver, and that it just happened that (name) just found out that she needs one. While I wasn't asking specifically for that big a commitment (and donating blood is so minimal in comparison...), please consider what you can do, and spread the word.

At the time I thought my friend and I were different blood types so thought I wouldn't be eligible - but that I could spread the word. A couple weeks later I realized that we were the same blood types and that I should at least see if I was a good potential donor. And I was, even at age 66.

I have seen people wear t-shirts that read on the back: kidney donor needed, with the phone number. (or something to that effect). That definitely gets the word out quickly. Oftentimes the news will pick it up which spreads the news even more readily.

One other thought: as a donor I don't push that I donated, but I do let it be known - it's not about me, but it opens the door for people to think about it, ask me questions, and pass on the information to others who may have brought up the subject.

Word of mouth is vital, and a person who needs a kidney (or any other organ) needs to spread the word, ask friends to spread the word, be creative with getting the information out there thru t-shirts or any other means.

[BigTerp44]

Hi Michael- I donated to my fraternity brother in December 2012 after I saw his post on Facebook. You can google our story at Delta Sigma Phi Fraternity, Summer 2014, Delta Sig in need, Page 40-42. I never thought I would be a living donor. My father passed away in 1998 and he was able to help 18 different people in need with his post-mortem donation.

When I saw my friends post, it just hit me...who would step up for me? Here he was, a husband, a father and he now was faced with going public with a very private health care matter.

It changed my perspective on life. I am a bit more sentimental, emotional and grateful for the experience. I take nothing for granted.

The Big Ask, The Big Give is a great way to get the word out. If I had to, I would do it again in a heartbeat.

It's a very private and life changing event not only for the recipient but for the donor too.

Much respect to those in this rare, unique and special group of people.