I wondered if anyone else has been in this tricky situation...I found out a few weeks ago I was pregnant and my boyfriend of a year wants me to terminate. Neither of us have children, I am nearly 40 and he is 41 and we do both want children however he is making me choose between him or the baby. Our relationship has been a little rocky but we do want to try and make it work but he can’t do that whilst there is a baby. I had my 8 week scan yesterday and there is a healthy heartbeat and I can’t go through with the termination. I told him and he literally walked out. Deep down I am so excited about the baby but there is this black cloud over the situation because I know I’m going to lose him. It will be difficult bringing up a baby alone but I want to do it.
If anyone has any advice or has been in this situation I’d love to hear from you. Thank you.
Wow I’m very sorry to read this and this must be so difficult for you. All I can say is a baby never grows up alone, there will be friends, grandparents, and other people in your life who will love it in addition to you of course, even if the 2 of you split up. He may also be scared and reacting in a way that isn’t constructive right this moment. But it doesn’t mean you need to make a decision to terminate. All will be well in the end, even if he doesn’t come around. Take a deep breath and spend some time with someone who can really support you right now, he cannot be that person at least not right now.
Thank you, really good advice, I have got lovely friends and family around so I’m spending time with them which definitely helps make me feel better.