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Hi, I am in a very confuse state right now, I am 24years old, 8weeks 2days pregnant, had my first scan yesterday and I was very excited, I am in a relationship with a guy I met in February, the first time I met him I fell in love with him and it was same for him, we had unprotected sex that same month on the 23rd and I got pregnant, I was so scared, am d only daughter of my family(second child) with 3 brothers, I told the guy I was pregnant and he was excited telling my parents was now the challenge, after a month and some days I told my mom and she cried alot and refused to talk to me for some days, beg her not to tell my dad cus he would be disappointed, and it might break him he has been sick for some years Now (stroke) I am a Nigerian and the expectations when a young girl get pregnant is for her to get married and we are not ready yet, most times I feel like running away from the house but I cant, I just need advice on what to do.

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Hello l believe that everything will be ok in the end. The first thing came into my mind is that the boy come to your house meet your parents and say them that loves you. Then your mother can talk to your father softly and tell him about your pregnancy l think that he will understand you.

lf the boy does not want to come and meet them l think you can tell your father everything first he can be dissppointed but he will understand you

Dont think running away from home this will hurt them

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Quin21 in reply to Cavendis

Thanks alot dear.

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Kate91

I think as long as the father is willing to stick by you and support you, that you will be fine. Your parents will come round in the end but you need to let them met him and let him tell them himself what he intends to do about. Both my parents were disappointed when i got pregnant at 18 but they eventually got over it ten years down the line im expecting my third child with the same guy, even though we arent married yet, though we are engaged.

Try asking the father if hed be willing to say move in with you and possibly think about getting married in the future that might be a good compromise for your parents on the marriage idea as it shows he is committed to looking after this baby.

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