I had my first (hoping the last) pity party yesterday...

[Szs3eb]

After my first symptoms started 3 weeks ago and diagnosed with MS two weeks ago, I was being so positive and yesterday just sucked so I sat in my bed and felt sorry for myself. I posted to this lovely group, and got some great uplifting responses.

So, no more pity party for me. I just got up went to get my flu shot and now I'm jogging downtown. Hopefully making it 2.5 miles. This will be the longest distance since my numbness and tinkling went away enough for me to start to jog again.

Thank you to all you MS warriors for being out here and I feel grateful that I have a place to go for support.

Have a great day.

[lbenmaor]

Fantastic! 😀🌺👍

Leslie

[anaishunter]

Kudos. so great to hear!

[Curlygoats]

It's OK to have a pity party, I do it quite often. This has been a really hard week, I had one too.

[Szs3eb in reply to Curlygoats]

I hope your next week is so much better.

[Curlygoats]

And yours

[Mollyabigail]

I like your positive attitude. But a good 5-minute pity party is necessary (for me anyway) now & then. I allow myself a good cry occasionally. Then, I pray a few minutes & try to remember that God sees me & He cares. Then, I wipe my nose & go about the day like a normal person would! You can jog?? Go, girl!

[Szs3eb in reply to Mollyabigail]

I feel so fortunate and grateful. The first time I made it two miles I cried happy tears.

[goatgal]

I you have had a great day. Don't beat yourself up when you make adjustments or need to recalibrate. Take care and be good to yourself!

[ahrogers]

I allow myself an occasional pity party. Glad yours didn't last long and you are able to jog again. Keep it up as long as you can. Exercise helps a great deal!!!

[mrsmike9]

I doubt if there are any, or not many, on this site who did not go through grief (or "pity party") when diagnosed. And you may have that come back at some point, especially if you notice changes. You do have to allow yourself to have these emotions. Hopefully you can not stay their long. Try to find something that gives you joy or a feeling of accomplishment.

I am glad you are doing better now! Running 2.5 miles? That's something I couldn't do, even before MS! Have fun!

[DIsneyQueen]

Just keep plugging along and be grateful for what you can do. We are always here for you. Sometimes I watch a sappy movie or read something gut wrenching to give me a good cry. Sometimes you just need a good cry. And yes, I believe this is all in Gods hands. We were chosen for this, don’t know why, but here we are encouraging one another. Hang in there and keep jogging! God Bless you

[Tazmanian]

Welcome this is the greatest group you never want to join

[hairbrain4]

Sometimes you just need to sit in that pity party as long as you only stay there for a short time. MS can bring on depression. If and when depression shows up make sure your neuro knows about it. For me it doesn't last for more than a couple of days. Exercise usually brings me out it. Your jogging is a great way to keep your body in shape and your head clear. I used to run about 5 miles a day. Now days I just walk due to bad knees but it's exercise & good cardio. So keep on keepin' on!🤗

[kycmary]

Great, keep up your spirits & schedule in a pity party once or twice a month. Don't wait for a melt down allow your self the luxury of a pity, I have been dealing with this MonSter for almost 30 years.

[Frances_B]

Watch out for excessive positivity - harmful effects from constantly telling yourself to be "positive" and striving to achieve that can do more harm than good. They have a habit of sneaking up on you making your pity party longer and deeper and harder to climb out of. Be realistic, and steer clear of people who are toxically positive or insist on pointing you in the direction of "inspirational people" - social media platforms are awash with this stuff and it will mess with your head if you get too mired in it.

"...far too many people put on facades while internally dismantling. They succumb to the pressure of toxic positivity, to needing to conform to the unrealistic societal norm that we seek. Life is full of joy and pain. Both must be recognized. If I feign or hide my agony, or if I am negligent in allowing myself to fully exist with my feelings in real time, I will self-destruct. My repressed feelings will figuratively become the flesh-eating bacteria that destroys the innermost parts of me."

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Keep it real and keep it balanced and you will do much better overall.

[kdali in reply to Frances_B]

Ty for sharing the toxic positivity article.

[Szs3eb in reply to Frances_B]

Thank you

[RoyceNewton]

Ie is always okay, Have a cry and a warm cup of tea. Brace yourself YOU are in for a long rollercoaster ride but YOU will be okay.

[Szs3eb in reply to RoyceNewton]

Thank you