saw doc

[pamgarner]

went to neurologist yesterday i only go once a year unless something freaky happens,he said nothing has changed ,my mri,body strength,cognitively,so i guess that is fabulous! then my husband had to speak up and say i have changed,for those of you that don't know, he is very sick,heart valve problems is on dialysis.so they both were trying to tell me i need talk therapy,i probably do.but since he has gotten so sick,i am doing it all literally,i do become very tired and impatient (need to work on that)insickness and in health...it is just so much sometimes,now that is reality.sorry to whine AGAIN!this is also a life change for me again,and i am much stronger than him now,maybe just need a break!urrgghhh

[lbenmaor]

Pam,I am praying for both of you.

[pamgarner in reply to lbenmaor]

good,thanks,prayers work great!

[Kenu]

Prayers are with you and your family 🙏🙏🙏🙏🐾🐾

[pamgarner in reply to Kenu]

i need all i can get right now thanks

[Humbrd]

Sounds like you are stronger than you ever imagined you'd have to be. Good thing you are a warrior. Prayers that you get the break you need to recoup and keep your strength up.

[pamgarner in reply to Humbrd]

where do we dig up all the strength we need in a lifetime.i should look like Popeye!

[Humbrd in reply to pamgarner]

It's amazing sometimes the strength we pull to get through the tough times. 🙏

[falalalala]

🙏🙏🙏

[mrsmike]

Hang in there. 🙏

[twooldcrows]

you sound like you are looking good ...yes the stain of taking care of him is hard on you and you do need some kind of break ...do you have anyone that can help you with him and let you have some time by yourself whether it is to go to the storm or go for a walk ...time out is good...hope you are able to find someone to help you off and on ...prayers for both of you ...maybe you could talk to the doctor with out him hearing you and you can explain what is going on with him and all that you are going through with him and that you need some help with him....love and happiness for both of you ...take care of yourself ...

[BlanketTime1 in reply to twooldcrows]

oooh, yeah. when my mum stopped work and became my dad's primary carer, she'd explode from time to time. my sister and i had to work hard, but we got her to take mini holidays just to recharge. she really needed those breaks and she's able bodied, so i bet it would help you a lot.

[pamgarner in reply to BlanketTime1]

sorry you have had to go through it,so many situations,so little time

[bxrmom in reply to twooldcrows]

Your insurance, city/town may have a service that can help you once or twice a week so that you can take some 'me' time away from the house...even if just for an hour or two. My thoughts are with you.

[BlanketTime1]

it is odd. for a few years i was sicker than my dad. i was the one with the cane, wearing adult nappies, falling & etc. then he got really sick with parkinson's. i had to adjust my mentality to cope with that and i was his daughter, not his wife!

so it's got to be difficult. perhaps therapy would help. it seems like you're carrying a lot and we are still in covid, so perhaps one of the online services would work best with your schedule. it's a thought.

in the meantime, we're here!🤗❤️

[Texandyroe]

Praying for you both!!! 🙏❤️🙏

[JSSimp]

🙏🏾

[pamgarner in reply to JSSimp]

thank you!

[Amore55]

Yes, you really need a break! Please check into services which might be available in your area. There are often more services than we are aware of. For peace of mind and self preservation, this is beneficial! Sending hugs!🤗🤗🤗

[pamgarner in reply to Amore55]

back atcha!👍

[kdali]

You only have so many spoons to work with 🙏

[pamgarner]

got that right some days are just over the top thanks for your concern

[mrsmike9]

Whine all you need here. We will listen and perhaps offer some cheese for a combo! (Just trying to make you smile. )

[pamgarner in reply to mrsmike9]

that made me smile i am taking life way tooooo serious there are some things you can so things about and some you can't😃😀😀👍🤣😆