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[KPhoenix]

I knew I should have never gotten too happy about my MRI results. The other shoe dropped Wednesday 8/18, my mom passed away. I can’t deal with it. I have never lived apart from my mom. I am so lost and confused. I haven’t eaten or slept since Tuesday night. I know I’m not taking care of myself, but I just can’t work up caring. I just don’t know if I can make it through this.

[rjoneslaw]

sorry to hear bout ur loss. I hope u have some1 ur can talk that lives close 2 u

[KPhoenix in reply to rjoneslaw]

One person. I started back to church and they’ve been supportive.

[rjoneslaw in reply to KPhoenix]

thats great

[krazy-girl]

Hi I am sorry for your loss. I unexpectedly lost my mom when I was going through a divorce and my ex-spouse was able to take my children. My mom was only 60 yrs old and I had to learn how to take care of myself and not having my children anymore. I’ve never cried so much for years. How old are you? Is your father in your life or siblings? I turned to my current church for help. And found many kind people. I still hated living by myself and I also had to learn to really take care of myself. It’ll be hard, but time will pass (eventually) and you’ll learn. Blessings to you and prayers of peace during this bad time for you❤️‍🩹

[KPhoenix in reply to krazy-girl]

Well, I’m 46. Mom was sick for a long time. I’ve started back to church. It gives me great comfort, but I’m sick of hearing people say I’m too smart to believe this “God” myth. I try to ignore them, because I know what feels true in my heart. It is so hard to learn to be by myself and have no one to talk to when things get hard.

[mhepler531 in reply to KPhoenix]

Well God is no myth and you sound pretty smart to me for trying to work through this terribly hard time. I had lost both parents by the time I was 33 and you just have to find a way to navigate life. God will give you peace and comfort as you lean on him. I’m glad you have your church and there are so many caring people on this site. Thoughts and prayers for you. 🙂

[carolek572 CommunityAmbassador]

So sorry for your loss, KPhoenix Please take care of yourself. Things do get better.

[Royjr]

My condolences to you and family🙏🏽🙏🏽. Try to stay and be strong.

[DM0329]

I am so sorry for your loss, too.

I've lost both of my parents; my mother passed first (2006) then father in 2008. It was difficult (and the pain never really passes it just manifests differently).

You're in "shock, denial, etc." please allow yourself time to grieve. Life is a mystery; and death is actually part of the circle of life. It took me more than ten years to acknowledge that. As time passes, it will get easier.

Blessings to you! Find Peace. . .

🙏😇👍

[KPhoenix in reply to DM0329]

Shock and grief is so true. I hope when all the business of death is settled I can just grieve and learn a new way of living.

[jimeka]

I am so sorry to hear of your mums passing, unfortunately death is the only guarantee in life. I am pleased that you have someone in your church to support you, so lean on your faith. Talk to the Lord and let Him surround you with His peace and comfort. Sending hugs and prayers 🙏 blessings Jimeka 🤗

[Neworleanslady]

I’m sorry about your tremendous loss. It’s probably too soon to say this and probably too soon for you to hear it, but I’d imagine your mom would want you to have and feel peace. And if things get hard and you feel you have no one to talk to, remember us on this forum are always here. So is God.

[palomino27]

I'm very sorry about your mom passing away.i was super close to my mom too. My mom helped me thru about the first five years of this disease even though she apparently had a rare blood cancer. Never really told me either Didn't want to worry me I guess....

Now is the time to mourn and be sad and scared even. But then you will realize, as you start to pull out of it, that mom wouldn't of wanted you to give up and that her strength and influence is always with you. Most days I try to make her proud of me. Most days I feel like a big failure even though I know that's not the truth. My sister judges me sometimes, even that I'm giving up or something. If she could see me 24 hours a day she would probably say I'm the strongest most courageous person she's ever seen. Just even everytime I transfer into my power wheelchair or that I even try to live alone. The best way to remember your mom is to carry on as strong and courageously without her as you did with her. But, that is for later....

My wife also left me a year later, said she just couldn't do it anymore. She's a Ph.d in Catholic theology. Teaches Catholic priest even. I don't think my mom wanted me to be with her intolerable judgement and critism. Now there's a test of faith!

I found a great counselor myself. Not a replacement, but it does help a lot.

[Kenu]

Sorry about your loss🥲 Always hard loosing a loved 🥰 one. Hang in there it will get better thru prayers 🙏👍😉 Ken 🐾 🐾

[JSSimp]

I will be praying for you🙏🏾

[greaterexp]

I’m sorry for all you’re going through. I pray that God will give you what you need for each moment, for His special comfort, for direction, and to draw closer to Him. He knows that we will have lots of trials, but promises that He will bring us through. I hope that you can eventually look back and see how He brought you through this very sad time. Please try to drink some fluids and engage with the folks in your church or a good counselor. You’re too important.

Would you let us know how you are when you can?

[falalalala]

I'm sorry for your loss.

Please take care of yourself.

[carla1025]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost both parents 5 years ago 3 months apart. It took some time but you will pull through. There is no time limit on grieving as everyone is different so don't feel like you have to ok in a week or month. Sending prayers your way

[MsBoo]

So sorry for your loss.. you have to take care of yourself.. Church can be so supportive.. do what you need to do grieve the way you feel you have to.. We are here for you

[twooldcrows]

sorry for you lose many prayers and god bless you with lots of people to talk to if need to and going to church really helps to ...take your time to deal with this lose and take care of yourself ...we are all here to help and listen ....love and much happiness .

[leking1]

I am so sorry that you are having to deal with this now. I am glad that you have your church to help and support you. Remember that you DO have someone to talk to, you can always talk with God. He listens, no judgement, He cares, He comforts, and He is always there. My love and prayers are with you.

[TonyiaR7]

I am very saddened to hear that your mother passed away. Reach out to your pastor/reverend at your church. You need all the support and love that you can receive. I empathize with your feelings. My mom passed away last year around this same time. Please take care of yourself; can a friend/church member help you in this time; stay with you at your home. And some other folks can bring you some nutritional, savory food. You will need reminders for medication. I know you love and miss your mom. Prayers for you. If you need to express your feelings or talk, a pastor, therapist, close friend can listen to your woes, and encourage you. You have your MS family praying for you. God is with you. Give him all your cares. Don’t worry about your MRIs for now. God be with you.k

[mrsmike9]

Oh dear! Deep breathes and one day, sometimes one moment at a time. Your mom is watching you and would be disappointed if you can't pull yourself together. Everyone needs time to grieve before getting up. But get up! You can and will make yourself proud of you when you can rise. Give yourself some time. We are pulling for you!❤

[pamgarner]

so sorry for your loss,your mom will always be your mom...my mother passed away in 2011 and i still think of her daily.i still talk my life over with her outloud, and tell her good morning every morning.i dream of her,you will always think of her, mom's are a tough loss .prayers do help me....you will find what helps you

[BlanketTime1]

i'm so sorry for your loss. losing a parent is extremely painful. when my dad died earlier this year, i focused on little things. i'd do one little thing and then move onto the next little thing. i also cried when i needed to and cuddled a lot with my cats.

i know no words can really help right now, but you're in my thoughts.

[Sandydemop]

sending condolences on your loss. Please remember to eat, drink fluids and take your medicine even if you don't feel like it. You need your strength now, more than ever. As everyone else already mentioned. You have us, your church and your higher power to draw strength from. Keep asking for help.

[NanaCC]

Oh my goodness this is so difficult you need help you should not be alone. Please find friend(s) or family or both to be with you in this difficult time. My mom just turned 91 I don’t live her but am extremely close and would be just as lost. Please take care of yourself stress and this type of loss can aggravate your MS your mom will always be with you spiritually and I know she would want you to take care of yourself. God bless

[kycmary]

I am so sorry for you I lost my mom just before I turned 20 that was back 1972, I still remember the hurt do you have an Aunt or any older person you can talk to? It does help a little. I started talking to her as I talked to Jesus that helped some too, I'm 68 now & I now that I will see her when I get to heaven & you will see yours too! God bless you love & prayers Mary