I hate asking for help

Now I am

[Tulip77]

Do what you need to do 💜

[Hidden in reply to Tulip77]

Have done

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Hurts to say

[jimeka]

Unfortunately it comes to us all. For eg, my hubby is a farmer and he is laid up with inflamed cellulitis in his legs. Today he has to watch our surrogate son and friend harvest the wheat for us, it’s really hard watching him having to delegate jobs. But, I was sneaky today, a gentleman knocked on our door and asked if I wanted our hedge cutting. I asked how much, and when he said how much, I said no I can’t afford that. He asked me how much I could afford and he did it for my price. My hubby was not too pleased but he had to agree with me, it was money well spent as neither of us can do it. I now look out onto a lovely neat hedge, I used to love cutting it but I have to accept I can’t do it anymore. Sit back, relax and try to enjoy the ride. Sometimes it can be quite laughable watching others do things differently to how you did them. Concentrate on your PT and getting stronger. Hugs 🤗 Blessings Jimeka 👍 🙏

[Kenu in reply to jimeka]

It is a chore to watch and accept how others do things differently. Took a little for me to bit my tongue when I have others help and just be happy its ✅. We all have our own way and it normally turns out just fine😊 Like you said, owning up that we can’t do it anymore. Stay positive and keep going forward 👍🙏😉 Ken 🐾 🐾

[Hidden in reply to jimeka]

Thank you ☺️

Good advice

And

Good thoughts and prayers to you and your hubby

[Sandydemop]

Asking for help is very humbling. I get it.

[Hidden in reply to Sandydemop]

Thanks

[rjoneslaw]

never feel ashamed to as for help

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Thanks rjononeslaw

[hairbrain4]

Asking for help is giving others the opportunity to give the help needed. Sometimes we are the "helper" and sometimes we are the "helpee". We need to share the responsibilites on both ends so that everyone gets a chance to be both "helper" and "helpee".

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Wow

Thank you

The words I needed right now

[JSSimp]

We must humble ourself when we know we need the help. I definitely can relate because I am a person that like to do it for myself as much as possible. Often I felt ppl didn’t want to be bothered because of their busy schedules. Now if I really need something I will let ppl know. Often God send ppl right on time for our ever needs. I have always been the helper and not the helpee so it’s hard to exchange roles. Praying for everyone daily on this journey for more strength and peace daily.

[goatgal]

hairbrain4 offers wise words for those of us who have difficulty asking for help. I like the idea of reciprocity: when we ask for help, we offer others the opportunity to give of themselves. I was raised to do it by myself and my life only intensified that pattern. Now, thanks to your post and her response, I see how isolating and selfish that can be. I've been very comfortable in my helper role, now I need to find the grace in being the helpee. Thank you, both.

[pamgarner]

humble is a very dry piece of cake to swallow,people are kind they want to help you, they probably feel priveledged