HUSBANDS REACTION

[pigginpuss]

I AM HAVING A HARD TIME WITH MY LIFE RIGHT NOW.

I THINK MY HUSBAND IS STRUGGLING WITH OUR LIFE.

WHAT CAN I DO

[rjoneslaw]

have you tried counseling?

[jimeka]

Hi there, I haven’t seen you around for a while. I am sorry that you and your husband are having a hard time. Ms has a lot to answer for, personal relationships get affected. Please sit down with your husband and have a good talk. You must have loved each other enough to get married, so try and find that love again. It’s still there, maybe not in the same form as it was, but if you both look deep enough, you will find it again. Let us know how you get on, praying for you both, Blessings Jimeka 🤗 vent anytime.

[mm1527mm]

Sorry to hear this, blessings and prayers to you

[Sassysmom]

pigginpuss I'm sorry that he's having s hard time with both the diagnosis and your struggling to deal with this. Is he aware of your difficulty? Sometimes I think it's as difficult for spouses to really comprehend how real the struggle is and how devastating the diagnosis is for their spouse. Do you think he's using the MS as an excuse? I can only suggest a local chapter of an MS support group and consider the thought of counseling for you. No matter what happens you will still be you and that extra support will always be helpful. Wish I had that magic wand to heal us all but I don't . Hope you can find peace within.

[RoyceNewton]

counseling

[twooldcrows]

sorry but it is very hard on them to adjust to the problems of having MS it isn't just you ...it will fall hard on them also....yes suggest counseling and of course help him understand more about your MS ...

[2littletime]

I fully understand. I was diagnosed 20 years ago. My husband has always been supportive, but lately I don't think he quite gets it. Things are changing & I am slowing down yet he still thinks I can do it all. We just have to keep trying to make them understand. When I find good articles on ms I share them with him. Keep trying...😐

[goatgal]

Get couples counseling if possible. If your husband is unable or unwilling to participate, get counseling for yourself. It may help you gain insight about the present situation as well as some ideas of the way forward.

[Jan4you]

Aww, so sorry for what you are going through.

But you do say 'I think"...what tells you that he's changing? Or treating you diferently? Did you ever think it might be all him, questioning all aspects of his life?

Often WE WOMEN are the rock to our men. Emotionally he may just not know how to cope, what to say etc.

Know the signs of grief, Shock, Denial, Anger, depression way before acceptance.

Its a day to day thing, moment to moment, right? And we can get STUCK in any of these stages. Trust me, they dont move smoothly from one stage to anoher, right?

He, like you have the right to feel uncertain, scared and upset with how his (and your} life is not what you hoped for.

Illness breads uncertainty. i think of MS as full of surprises! Good like helpful nurses an doctors along with the more challenging aspects of any disease.

Try NOT to compare. Not saying you are though.

He's hurting, you're hurting. Because WE are the ones with the diagnosis, we can never 'one up' our family and friends on who is suffering more, right?

Don't you just love well meaning folks, who want to identify with us by telling you how bad their lives are?

THAT is why we have forums like this one.

Sending you Healing hugs,

I am here for you, all the way, IF you want me to be.

Jan

[stepsforNeeC]

My dear, if you scrolled back to one of my previous posts; you'll find you are not alone! We should never tell anyone "what to do" but we can understand with true caring hearts. Prayer, if spiritual foundation brings him any clarity and maybe consider going to group events if possible. Shared Solutions has dinner educational events that are free. Sometimes the topics similiar to what you might be experiencing (i.e. Couples and MS or Families etc). Also your local MS Chapter should a good resource or nurse navigator connected with doctor. The best and I'll be praying for the both of you.

NeeC