Update on my son

[TonyiaR7]

Thank you for all your kind words and prayers. My son completed the rehab program at Long Island Teen Challenge. We are going to his graduation on Jan 25. I pray that God gives me the strength for the long ride. Right now, he’s in a halfway house. He has not been successful in finding a job so far. So he needs prayers for employment, being idle isn’t good. Pray I don’t go back to worrying about him. My husband didn’t want him to stay (very short stay) until he could get himself situated. It has been hard. But I am thankful that he is alive and drug free. And I pray that his new life (path) will be healthy, looking for God for wisdom, love, salvation and help in times of need.

Still working on my body but it seems to still be on a decline. Hard living all day alone. But grateful I have my husband when he’s not working.

Thank you.

[Iona60]

Prayers for strength, peace and direction for you and your family.

[MarkUpnorth]

Wish you luck. But if like my son, who was inpatient for nearly 2 month's, upon graduation, stood up to drop all his doctors' & therapists' jaws, as he proclaimed in a pissy angry voice "I don't have to do ANYTHING I don't want to do, and no one can make me!" Went right back to the place where he started from. Wasn't till years later when he finally moved out on his own, failed a few times, bailed him out, then failed a few more times, wouldn't bail him out, then FINALLY got it! Now doing well, succeeding in his job, advancing fast....developing relationships...... It may not be over with your son, but it can still happen. We found you had to let him go, struggle a bit, then it took! Hope your journey is a lot easier!

[Juliew19673 in reply to MarkUpnorth]

My Nephew was the same - 3 times in Rehab, then when my Brother would no longer bail him out, surprise, it took. 3 years later, Nephew is out of his house, employed and finally standing on his own!

[MarkUpnorth in reply to Juliew19673]

3 years, Yeah that's about right! Doing Great Now! Too bad they couldn't have caught on earlier!

[TonyiaR7 in reply to MarkUpnorth]

Well I hope he will not have a setback. But he isn’t living with us. So I pray the merciful, forgiving God will direct his paths. I am going to stay positive.

[MarkUpnorth in reply to TonyiaR7]

If he does, a little suffering on his part, (you will too), will get him on his way, if lucky.

[mrsmike9 in reply to MarkUpnorth]

Tough love. Going through that with my youngest. It's tough on him and me!

[TonyiaR7 in reply to Juliew19673]

Good for your nephew.

[MarkUpnorth in reply to TonyiaR7]

Juliew's, nephew, that was my son! Sure he's good to go!

[greaterexp]

Thank you for letting us know. I'll keep praying for you all. But thank God, he's doing so much better right now!

[carolek572 CommunityAmbassador]

TonyiaR7 I am happy about hearing of a positive update on your son. It is not easy but one day at a time, and loving family support, makes for a more positive recovery. I am like you, alone all day, but I am blessed to have the company of my husband when he is not working.

My prayers and blessings go to you and your family,

Carole

[jimeka]

Congratulations on your son completing his rehab program and graduating. With Gods help he will pull through, find a job and be successful at what he is good at. As for you been alone all the time, a few of us on totally understand. We have husbands who have to work and it’s hard for them too. I know by the time my husband comes home, I am ready for bed and just want to chill out. I have to make him a meal at lunch for him to reheat in the microwave when he gets home. I hardly see him, but I have Razor to keep me company, but then with this cold weather, I can’t go out as the cold sets the ms a light. Good to hear from ou, and enjoy the graduation tomorrow, I will 🙏 for strength for you, hugs 🤗 Jimeka

[TonyiaR7 in reply to jimeka]

Well, it’s hard because we basically worked for the same company and I had to stop. Work, getting ready, driving to work all was becoming more stressful when my disease started to become more taxing for me. My brain didn’t die. My kids needed me. I had more patience with them. I participated with them on some activities where my husband filled in what I could not do. I was redefining myself constantly and no one was around. The kids appreciated that they could talk to me or help with homework, music, cheered at some sports. I was the female at home with these different but overlapping men. My family didn’t or wanted to understand my issues or accommodate some, like being in a very warm or hot room. And if they saw symptoms it was time I should go home or go to bed and for them to leave. So I was lonely. I respected and was gracious that my husband works. But I wanted to create, use my brain, talents. So I could feel alone while everyone present. Now they really or not around. I don’t hear, touch or see them. But I am concerned whether they are safe, ... and most of the time could not influence their adult lives. So I have to keep reinventing myself and my world. I miss the encouragement and appreciation my sons gave me. But when they turn 18, wow! My world was turned upside down, they were doing or experiencing things that I would warn them of the consequences. It was like I didn’t know some other side of them. And I missed quality time with my husband. He is now able to spend more time on his career. At the same time my world and body are changing in sort a time warp. Some things are like when I was first diagnosed and now I am dealing with MS with aging; and more dependent on others. Really feeling that premature aging aspects of my life. If it wasn’t for my faith and people (women) I interface at church, I am quite alone. I have a harder time immersing myself in many of my hobbies than in the past. So I just need some encouragement and know how I am contributing to my family, friends and life. With limited resources, it is also tiring for me to be home.

[bxrmom]

I wish your son well on his sobriety journey. My sister just recently was released from prison on drug charges and in there she went through an intense drug treatment program. She worked through a lot of issues that she never resolved and she believes caused her to relapse so many times. She thinks going to prison and going through that program was just what she needed to make it this time.

Jessie

[Kenu]

One Day, One Moment at a time! I am so happy to hear your son has graduated and clean 👍😊. Now it’s meetings daily or several a day was part of my recovery. My hardest time was in the evening, that’s when I would get uneasy and was time for meeting or call sponsor ! You have to break the routine, don’t worry about friends they quit coming around when you quit 👍. Wish him well 👍🙏. I will be 31 years sober March 18th. 🙏😁👍. Ken 🐾🐾

[TonyiaR7 in reply to Kenu]

My son will be 32 April 27th. I am so grateful that he is alive and healthy. One day, one moment at a time. Until it his new nature.

[Jazzihorsecat]

🙏💐Praying Always Tonya, & thanks for the update!😎👍Staying positive & really🙏always helps! We love Ya!💐💗💗👍😎---Jazzy🌹💜