Friends

[nitramjd5992]

How do you make someone understand? My bff said some terrible things to me and it's killing me inside ! She knows I have MS, but says my behavior has nothing to do with it! Says I am not normal, I know I am not normal and never will be! I wish there was some way to get her to understand!! Sooo sad!

[micheleinnaples]

I believe you previously left a similar message regarding your bff’s cruel words? Personally speaking, I would give her an informative and printed overview of MS and all of it’s stressful nuances. I would ask her to read it privately and schedule time to meet. It may be that she feels uncomfortable around you because she lacks awareness of this disease. You might also come to a conclusion that she is self-centered and is not patient and sincere enough to support you in this maze of unpredictabe relapses and the stressful pathway of MS! We all know that MS symptoms are exasperated by stress. If she truly is a best friend then she needs to step up to the plate. If she is wavering, personally speaking...I would advise you to part ways. Trust me...we’ve all been there, with or without a diagnosis of MS. Toxic relationships are not healthy for your mental, spiritual and physical well being. Stay strong my friend!

[nitramjd5992 in reply to micheleinnaples]

Thanks, I have given her materials to read and even has a subscription to Nuerology Now! She doesn't get it, I have to let her go! She won't go with me to any of the seminars!

[vduckery in reply to nitramjd5992]

Best decision, tough but the best. Ultimately only you have to be ok with that. Time will heal your sadness

[Kenu in reply to micheleinnaples]

Amen 🙏 Ken

[Jesmcd2 CommunityAmbassador]

nitramjd5992 hi and Welcome!

I'm sitting here reading all these posts, and wondering why YOU, would want to keep a friend like that? I good friend would would try to understand a little bit.😊

But MS is hard for us to understand, let alone someone else. So maybe you Both, need to try harder, if you want to stay friends. Not everything is MS related. 🤣

~Hugs n Luvs~

J🌠

[janetb1968]

She sounds as if she doesn't want too at least understand ur problems which is very sad indeed. Take care hun and don't put up with it as stress is not good for MS and if it doesn't get better between u both u might need to reevaluate ur friendship xxxx 🤔🤔🤔🤔

[greaterexp]

You’ve read the great advice from everyone, and I agree that investing more time in a toxic relationship is time that could be spent building a healthy one elsewhere. I’m sorry you e had the stress of dealing with this.

I’m so grateful to have this chat room/forum to come to whenever I like. Everyone here understands what dealing with this disease means and can offer real support. If we could just figure out how to give actual hugs (and send dinner) in person, we’d be over the top.

Hold more dearly to those friends and family who are supportive and cherish them.

[RoseySawyer]

You don't need the stress or headache from a "friend" like that. You need to do YOU! Right now you need to worry about your health. I wish you the best. GodBless. ❤

[Diva1976]

Seem as though u have done your part. Your friend is struggling with the new u. Sounds as though she hasn't read any material. Because at this point she is working on your nerves. Stressing u out! Obviously not interested in learning more if she hasn't attended one seminar. I would stop trying! Let her kick rocks!

[Linda3579]

So much wisdom in all these replies. It’s never easy to loose a friend, but in the true sense of the word she may not be a friend.

[ssdw1958]

I also have what I thought was a good friend but after going out with her for a ride and when it was time to come home I had a hard time trying to get into my house my legs collapses because the temperature was warm good thing my son was home to help me to get into the house. Well after that I have heard from her she does come over to visit but since that day we haven't gone out. This is very hard for me. People don't get it guess what we have feelings to. It's been very hard to come to the reality that people are like this. This also happened to my mother she has been gone for 26 years and was diagnosed 12 years prior to that with lymphoma. She had these two friends who totally ignored her after she let them know she had cancer. So sorry to say there have been ignored people who don't get it or should I say don't want to get it what you are going through. If I for got to say I have been diagnosed with MS since 2014. Yes I am still friends with my girlfriend, but it won't ever be the same. Well you know we will always be your friend here and I understand it is not the same.

Good luck in whatever you do.

Sandrs