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My mom passed away Sunday. I am going up to Dallas to stay with my dad for awhile. Her funeral is on Valentines day. 😒

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jimeka

Midgey_Midge06 oh I am so sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Big hug, Jimeka πŸ€— πŸ€— πŸ€—

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Midgey_Midge06β€’ in reply tojimeka

Thank u. I am going thru the 5 stages of grief and i am at depression now. I so wish i cud drive myself up to my family but stupid MS took that ability away from me. Instead i am stuck here in the middle of nowhere alone until someone can come get me

Stupid MS

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jimekaβ€’ in reply toMidgey_Midge06

I totally understand. It's awful how this ms takes away our independence. My mum passed just I came out of hospital. I was in bed the day she passed, not able to help or anything, but I am told everything happens for a reason. Please take the time to grieve and please cry when you feel the need, hugs πŸ€—

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erashβ€’ in reply toMidgey_Midge06

Midgey_Midge06 per kubler ross, those stages can cycle back around. My dad died 1 month ago. And I still remain very sad 😒😒😒

I also had to rely on my hubby to drive me. Fortunately I saw the end nearing and was able to be with him to hopefully help ease his death. He resisted hospice until the end and suffered until the last day. I was also glad I could be there for my mom so that she didn't have to witness his suffering alone.

Everyone copes with this so differently. I had them make a thumb print of my dad etched on into a dog tag with his name and a beautiful saying that I wear next to my old Army dog tag. As it jangles throughout the day, I'm reminded that he's always with me.

I also absconded all of his art supplies (no one else in the family wanted them) and I think of him when I paint and ask him for criticism of my final projects...I only hope I made him proud in life and I promised him I'd take care of my mom.

Sorry...I did not mean for this to be so self-centered about my loss. I wish you peaceπŸŒ…

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Midgey_Midge06β€’ in reply toerash

It was not self centered at all! It was helpful sharing.

My parents just had their 65th wedding anniversary Jan 26th. It was like she waited for that before passing away. I fear my dad will just give up now and will follow her to heaven.

I like the dog tag idea. I may have to do that. I have my dads dog tags from WWII. My dad is everything to me. I cant imagine the pain of losing him soon too.

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erashβ€’ in reply toMidgey_Midge06

Midgey_Midge06 irony is cruel 😒

My father hung on until their 64th wedding anniversary on Dec26

Mom was 17 when they married

My mom is very lonely

We offered to have her move near us but she is fortunately surrounded by an amazing network of friends

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Midgey_Midge06β€’ in reply toerash

My dad is gonna be isolated now. My oldest sister that lived near him just moved to las vegas. The middle sister lives abot a half hour away and she has had him stay with her since mom passed.

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erashβ€’ in reply toMidgey_Midge06

Family is so very important!

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Midgey_Midge06β€’ in reply toerash

Totally!

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bhappy41bβ€’ in reply toerash

I am so sorry for your loss of your mom. I lost my beloved husband; he passed away of a sudden heart attack. I wear his wedding ring along with a gold lazy heart he gave me before we were married on a gold necklace. That way he is always close to my heart. We had 35 wonderful years together. You take care of yourself. Hugs and prayers.

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Oh God! My heart and LOVE goes out to you and your family Midgey_Midge06 I am so sorry!πŸ’•

*Wrapped in the Wing's Of Angels,and Placed In the Hands of God!πŸ’•

All my love!

Jes 🌠

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Morllyn

I am so sorry for your loss Midgey_Midge06 . My heart is with you.

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Texandyroe

Oh, Midgey_Midge06 , I am so very sorry for your loss. I am praying for strength for you as you travel through this valley of darkness. Many blessings to you and your family, and safe travels. Lots of hugs, Sandy.

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Juleigh21

So sorry for your loss! Take care of yourself!

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SueAB

Midgey_Midge06 , I'm so sorry that you lost your Mother. Your Dad will need your love and support and I'm glad you are up to going to be with him.

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Royjr

Sorry to hear about your lost. I’m praying πŸ™πŸ½ for you and your family.

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kdali

Oh no, so very sorry 😭 I hope you have safe travels and I will be thinking about you.

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Kenu

Sorry for your lossπŸ˜”Remember the good times πŸ˜‰ My prayers are with you and family πŸ™πŸ™πŸ™πŸ™ Ken

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janetb1968

Oh I'm really sorry for ur loss xxx

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FiddleStyx

My prayers are with you. My mom, my very best friend passed away when she was 68, way too young. I know what you are going through and it is was hard. But you will make it through this. The advice of remembering all the good memories is the best. Taking care of your Dad should be your main focus right now. There will be much business to attend to and you can be a great help to him. He is very fortunate you can stay with him for a while. Don't forget to take care of yourself during this stressful time. ...FiddleStyx

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Midgey_Midge06β€’ in reply toFiddleStyx

Its gonna be hard to take care of myself. I am already stressed abot how i am gonna make it thru cuz most of my family doesnt understand MS and that i have limits. Hopefully they educate fast

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Raingrrl

Sorry for your loss Midgey_Midge06 !

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greaterexp

You have so many who are praying for you and your family, and I'll add another. I'm sorry you must go through this grieving process. Hang in there, and keep us updated as to how you are doing.

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Midgey_Midge06β€’ in reply togreaterexp

Will do. Thank u

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ssdw1958

I am so sorry for your loss grieving is so hard to go through I am sure your Dad will be pleased to have you with him during this time. My mom has been gone for 26 years it is hard to say goodbye but it does help to be surrounded by family and friends. Be very careful and take care of yourself.

Drink plenty of water and make sure you eat. I do remember one thing the day of my Mom’s wake my sister asked me and our brother in law when we had eaten last and we both said we had lunch, and we were proud of that, well my sister said you do know it’s 8 pm, and my, brother in law looked at each other and we all of a sudden we were extremely Hungry needles to say after that we went and found a fast food place. So please take care of yourself and your dad

I send prayers your way.

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Midgey_Midge06β€’ in reply tossdw1958

Now that u say that - i havent eaten since breakfast! Its funny how u forget something like that

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Brindisi1

My condolences. Prayers for her and your family.

My mom passed on 06 and remembrances of her in house, prompt me to say hi, and ask her to pray for me.

Courage and peace

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JMTS

Deepest Sympathy to you and all the family. Sad time for you all.

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Diva1976

So sorry for your loss Midgey!

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erash

Midgey_Midge06 my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family πŸ™πŸ˜’

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SlmHarris

So sorry to here!

Prayers for Strength and Guidance thru this difficult time!

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Yooper

Midgey_Midge06: You have our condolences. God's strength and love πŸ™ in this time of mourning.

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Fancy1959

Midgey_Midge06, it's Fancy1959. I wanted to send you my deepest condolences on the loss of your mother. No matter if you think you're prepared, if there's been a long illness, or injury you are never ready when it comes time for your loved ones passing. It's like someone sucker-punched you in the stomach and your world comes Crashing Down. The best advice I can give you is it will get better with time.

Whenever you find yourself in a situation where the course of action is not clear and suddenly the situation's answer presents itself so clear and precise, it will be your mother guiding you from above. When you are worn thin and tired and you have nothing left to give this monster we share and a cool beeze wisps across your forehead to refresh and give you a second breath it will be your mother helping from above to boost you up, you. She will always be as close as a memory away. Lean her and she will never let you down.....

Think of and remember the fond memories you had with your mother and focus on the good she was in your life. The bright shining star that was always there for you. Think of her often and smile when you think of her. I hope you keep a perpetual smile on your face.....

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Midgey_Midge06β€’ in reply toFancy1959

Beautiful words thank u πŸ’œπŸ’œ

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WAshingtongirl

I am so sorry, Midgey_Midge06 . My heart and prayers are with you as you grieve for yourself and your dad. As others have said, be sure to take care of yourself too. Praying for you. πŸ’ž

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Babslover

Midgey_Midge06

I’m so sorry for your loss. No person can tell you when to get over your grieving. My mom passed away years ago and I talk to her off and on, remember what we did together, she was my rock when I had my first ms bad flare up. I have a moving photo frame that has many pictures on it but when I see her picture I just say hello mom 😊. Hope this helps a little. Just look up and say hi. πŸ™ For you.

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oklaguy

so sorry for your loss. thoughts and prayers coming your way.

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ssdw1958

I am so sorry for your loss I know how painful 😣 it is to loose your mother just take one day at a little. My prayers are with you and your family.

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bavery207

Midgey_Midge06 I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Know you are not alone.

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Eleyne92

Midgey_Midge06 I am sorry to hear about your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

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cljones

Midgey_Midge06 I am so sorry for your loss. The hope that the bible gives us at Acts 24:15 can bring comfort at a time like this. I just lost my uncle two weeks ago. It is hard to deal with. I will be praying for you.

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