Obsessive reassurance seeking

[staysia]

Hi all. New here. So I’m still obsessive about my boyfriends to the extent that when he want space, I still cannot help but wanting to text/call everyday. We’re in an LDR now I don’t even know why but I just feel compelled to call him and not hearing from him feels like he is going to abandon me or somethjng

[amember]

Hey, what's up . Nothing will happen. Believe in god and take help from friends. You will surely succed in defeating it

[staysia in reply to amember]

thank you for your kind words. It’s been a really hard battle.

[FearIsALiar]

I know the feeling. Seems like we are in a similar situation

[EBsDad]

I feel for you, you are in a no-win situation.

In general, dealing with OCD seems to involve a trade-off between gains and losses, (achievement of real pleasure vs. fear, pain or loss) for example - if one 'hits bottom' and comes to a conclusion that OCD is unbearable any more, they may have enough incentives to overcome their fear of treatment and finally go for it.

So consider your specific situation; if you think honestly about the dynamic you outlined, you'll realize that 'contacting him more than he wants' will probably cause what you fear: the end of the relationship... so you are better off resisting the urge, right?

Good luck, I hope you are getting CBT therapy