i need help, counselling didnt work, i self harm on and off, im so down. i've already been diagnosed with...

[br0kend0ll]

depression, annorexia and anxiety but i wasn't given any anti depressants and my boyfriend, my friends even my mom says i need to do something. i just dont know what to do. i feel wrong at my gp like they lookdown on me and i dunno if i can go anywhere else?

please help, im running out of options

[missrat]

I'd suggest you look for the website of Anorexia, Bulimia Care.

[coatpin]

change your doctor too, you should be on meds. Look for a counsellor that does inner child work. There are many styles of counsellors and different training.

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Hi

Although they undoubtedly mean well, having people tell you that you need to do something will not be helping - what you need is there understanding that at that point in time you feel you can't do anything about how you are feeling - that's the point. Could you perhaps explain that to them very clearly and ask them to understand that, and maybe think about how they can support you in positive ways.

You say you weren't given antidepressants, did your GP say why - it may be that he or she didn't realise how bad you are feeling and thought depression was not a major problem. It may be that it isn't the main issue and that putting you onto antidepressants would not have been helpful but the GP should have talked that through with you. I wonder did you explain exactly how you are feeling? If so then they should have asked what you felt might be helpful and either referred you or explained why not at the very least. Do go back to the GP unless you feel you really cannot talk with that person in which case I would change GPs.

When you say counselling didn't work I'm not sure what you mean. Presumably you are not feeling any better for it, but there are lots of different options in terms of talking therapy. If you have been formally diagnosed with anorexia then referral to an eating disorders unit would be a good option as there specialist staff can look at why you don't eat enough and have such a poor self-image. Generally such units have therapists who work with depression too which is anyway part of the anorexia cluster of symptoms. If your GP will not refer you then I suggest you find the nearest eating disorder team yourself and find a GP who is willing to refer you to them. If you are feeling dreadful and have a cluster of symptoms then you do need some kind of help and support at the very least.

I hope you find a way to sort things out and get some helpful support.

Suexx

[annie87]

Hi

You should have been given antidepressants by now go to your gp and demand them. You should feel better after a few weeks of taking them.

Have you tried behavioural therapy? I think it's great and does work I attend. I hope you get better asap

Annie x

[missrat]

One problem is that many antidepressants are not recommended, or have higher risks below a certain age - I don't know how old you are. If this is the case, your GP should have explained it.

There are many different types of counselling, and our response to individual characters is different so, as with medications for many of us, it may take more than one before we find what suits us.

I certainly think you should use your right to a second opinion, and a referral to a specialist in eating disorders would seem a good option. My initial comment about a website was just one interim suggestion you might find guidance and support from people who have 'been there' - I do realise that the whole situation is much more complicated.

Take care

Ann xx