How to avoid negative energies and increase the positivity in your life?

[Skyrim]

I’m looking to block the negativity out of my life, any advice on how I would go about doing this.

[20Voices]

Well this is a huge subject because you have controllable negativities and uncontrolled negatives.

For the ones you can control I would say to start making a list of the negativities that you feel you have in your life. You then need to take a look at each and see how you can resolve them. For example your negativities could range from putting on weight to the negative thoughts in your head.

I would say starting with the easy ones first is the way to go, get some confidence with resolving or knowing how to control the easier ones will help you to develop skills for dealing with the tougher ones.

The uncontrollable ones now that is a different matter, you have to learn coping techniques for this and also how to define whether the person/company causing the negative event is really important in your life. When you workout how you can deal with a negative situation you may find you have a few options, choose the one that will give you the most peace and help you not the one others think you must do.

If you make your list and have trouble would out how to resolve an issue ask someone you confide in and trust or ask here for options.

If you make a list of negativities in your life, keep it so you can see every time you strike something off the list. You made add other things to it, but that is okay because that is life and it doesn't mean that you have to feel down about it, it is just life and we are all great a problem solving and need some problems solving in our lives.

One negativity that I can think of is the person who you help out at the drop of a hat when they have issues, could be anything for borrowing some milk (not doing the cup of sugar thing as too much sugar is not health. ;-D ) to driving miles to pick them up or going out of your way to help them when you are having a bad day. Then when you ask for help they are suddenly too busy or they make light of your issue or maybe they just tell you to give yourself a shake (classic from a lot of people that I have ditched from my life).

What are the fixes for this. 1. Explain to them what the problem is and why you need help and that you've helped them out in the past. 2. Don't do anything and continue with how things are. 3. When they ask for help and you are not up to it or it is too much, say that you can't. 4. Cut them from your life they are a drain on your resources, yes this is a tough option but sometimes it is for the best.

I have done all the options and it is not easy but you have a right to think about yourself and your happiness and your happiness is as important as helping people that don't help you.

Always talk things through with someone you trust if you are unsure. I did and it helped just having someone to listen to me and help me to confirm that I am not getting paranoid or mad.

Hope this helps.

20Voices.

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