I’d like to post some useful information about bisexuality, because I think many people can be confused about it.
First of all, the American Psychology Association declares that:
“Sexual orientation refers to an enduring pattern of emotional, romantic and/or sexual attractions to men, women or both sexes. Sexual orientation also refers to a person's sense of identity based on those attractions, related behaviors and membership in a community of others who share those attractions. Research over several decades has demonstrated that sexual orientation ranges along a continuum, from exclusive attraction to the other sex to exclusive attraction to the same sex. However, sexual orientation is usually discussed in terms of three categories: heterosexual (having emotional, romantic or sexual attractions to members of the other sex), gay/lesbian (having emotional, romantic or sexual attractions to members of one's own sex) and bisexual (having emotional, romantic or sexual attractions to both men and women)”.
So: the first thing to underline is that: none of these possibilities are pathological. All are NORMAL expressions of human psyche.
The second thing to recognize is that bisexuality DOES EXIST. It is not a myth. It is not a transition stage toward another form of sexual orientation. It is NOT CLOSET homosexuality. It can be contemporary (if a person is attracted by men and women in the same period) or sequential (if someone changes his/her sexual orientation during life, being for example heterosexual and then homosexual in his/her behavior).
The third thing to be underline is that bisexuals can be as faithful companions as heterosexuals or homosexuals are. It is NOT true that, since they can be attracted both by men and women, they are more likely to betray their partners. They have NOT an exaggerated sexual drive. Sexual drive can vary among bisexuals as it can vary among heterosexuals or homosexuals.
So, if you are heterosexual, fine! If you are homosexual, fine! If you are bisexual, fine!
Just remember that having/having had some same-sex fantasies, desires or even behaviors DOES NOT mean that you are 100% homosexual. If one man falls in love with a woman, desires her and decides she’s his ideal partner, he must NOT consider himself inadequate just because he happens to have some same-sex fantasies, desires or has had previous same-sex experiences. If one man falls in love with another man, desires him and decides he’s his ideal partner, he must not consider himself inadequate just because he happens to have sex fantasies, desires or has had previous sex experiences with women. The same applies to a woman. They are probably bisexuals, and can be partners as trustworthy as any heterosexual or homosexual person can be.
For further, deeper information, see the works of Kinsey, who was probably the first scientist who studied epidemiologically the human sex orientation, and provided the first test to “classified” sexual orientation in grade 0 to 6 (0=exclusively heterosexual; 6=exclusively homosexual)
Other interesting sites are:
founded by dr Fritz Klein,
or read the interesting book by dr Franz Klein
Remember that great historical personalities in the past were bisexual:
Sappho, who wrote some of the best love poetries for women, but felt also attraction for men (she had probably a daughter, and she may have committed suicide for the love of a man)
Catullus, who wrote poems with explicit reference to same-sex and different-sex attraction
Alexander the Great, who fell deep in love with Roxane, a beautiful oriental princess, but had also a long-life love affair with his companion Hephaestion
Oscar Wilde, who was deeply in love with his wife while young, and then developed a homosexual passion who led him to prison
The Bloomsbury Group, with Virginia Wolff