premature ejaculation help

[Cj73828362]

hi guys when I was around 18 or so I could last a good amount of time, 10 mins or so. if I first met a girl then for some reason i could go for a very long time.

got a girlfriend in 2020 and about a year or 2 in, I all of a sudden started ejaculating after like a minute or less. And when masturbating I started an still do ejaculate in like 5-30 seconds. I have tried edging but can go a few strokes before I again want to ejaculate.

have been single for about 3 months now and wasn’t having sex very often at all, maybe once a month at times as I think she started to find it unenjoyable at the end and still have the problem when masturbating. I don’t think it’s stress or anxiety as I don’t really get either of them and definitely don’t feel that way when masturbating but for sure it gets very annoying at times when I can’t last at all. Only thing that changed is my girlfriend lost a few family members at once an we started to both smoke, could this have affected me? Haven’t smoked in a good 2 months now but no change.

Only other thing to add is occasionally (not a lot) my testicles might feel a little tight/sensitive

haven’t tried lasting sprays or medication. Just really confused am getting annoyed as I used to last a very long time and didn’t think my penis was very sensitive to be wanting to do this everytime. Please help as my last step was wanting to go the doctors but maybe that needs to happen .

I masturbate daily, maybe I should try quit I’m not sure. I get horny still most days

[Norwich1 Moderator]

I think you have answered the question yourself. You need to get to the doctors so you can get a proper diagnosis.

[Omniscient1]

If penetration is your thing (and maybe it's hers too) then maybe use a condom as that will deaden the sensation a bit. The sprays typically have lidocaine in them so will.also deaden the feeling a bit but I have had no experience of these. Best to try an FDA or Dr approved one if you go down this route.As to the lady maybe concentrate on things that pleasure her rather than you so you're keeping her happy while you sort yourself out. This will make you feel better anyway.

As to the origin of the problem (ie sensitivity) then as Norwich1 says the Dr is your best bet.

[Cj73828362 in reply to Omniscient1]

Condoms used to make me last longer to be fair but that is a thing if the past. I’m all good for foreplay etc but just annoying as when I actually want penetration, it won’t last very long. Maybe a trip to the doctors will be the way. Always just been a bit embarrassed shall we say to want to go to a doctor about it

[8thfloorben]

Circumcision cured me

[ml66uk in reply to 8thfloorben]

If it worked for you, that's great, but Frisch 2011, Tang & Khoo 2011, Denniston 2004, and O'Hara & O'Hara 2002 all found that circumcised men were more likely to suffer from PE.

[ml66uk]

If you're only 24, then this might just fix itself, but masturbating to ejaculation in 5-30 seconds sounds unusually fast. How long does it take before you're ready to go again?

The first time or first few times with a new girl may involve a lot more foreplay than usual, so could this explain being able to last longer in those cases?

I doubt that stopping masturbating would help, though in your position, I'd definitely try to make it last a lot longer.

The NHS advice is here: nhs.uk/conditions/ejaculati...

and you could also look at these:

leicspart.nhs.uk/wp-content...

sexualhealth.cnwl.nhs.uk/me...

baus.org.uk/patients/condit...

and this page from the American Urological Association:

urologyhealth.org/urology-a...

claims that "With the techniques listed here, about 95 out of 100 men will recover from PE.". (!)

[Cj73828362 in reply to ml66uk]

hi yeah I’m 25 and yes it seems to be very fast an it’s been annoying me a lot more lately now. I’m now single so can’t keep progress on actual sex anymore. But sometimes I can last a couple minutes but alot of the time if I’m aroused it can be very quick like 30 secs.

The first few times I used to be with girls I wouldn’t even count the foreplay, I could last with actual sex for say half an hour or so without climaxing. I had this with a few partners an then after say 6 times or so it would go down to a (normal) I guess 5/10 mins an I would be able to slow down an make it last longer.

Nowadays it’s quick and if I stop or if I’m masturbating and I try squeeze the top then I can stop myself ejaculating but as soon as I start again it just wants to climax very very quick.

Sometimes often I could masturbate again after or not long after. I try not too lately as was going to try stop to see if it helped.

Before hand I would have to have intercourse at a fast pace to be able to climax but with my ex now of 4 years even going slow would make me want to.

Will take a look at your links thanks

[jaglad]

I think in this case, abstention may help. Try and hold off and see how it goes.

[BexyBoy]

When I was 22 and newly married I could ejaculate then carry on with thrusting and lasted longer second time around. This changed with age and the older I got the longer it would take to cum. I think you could re-train yourself by changing your masturbation style. I doubt abstention will help as you'll probably get a sense of built up need to climax. Maybe try once every 3 days. If it comes to wanting to make babies, this frequency worked for us in having our two children as I think it gave my sperm production chance to recover.

[Joshua_]

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