Considering supported living for my 27 year old son -Reply

[Pumpkinsweden]

Not sure how to reply to all. Thank you for your encouraging and heart felt comments. Sometimes doing the right thing is the hard thing. I can still be his mum, without having to be his full time carer. I know a move will be good for him and maybe harder for me. So deep breathe and I will start the process. Thank you again for taking the time to respond to me ❤️

[Jofisher]

In so called normal life he would do all the things other children do and finally go off to college or university and fly the nest so you are definitely doing the right thing for him and for you. It’s time for you to have a life as well and start to get to know you again and the things you enjoy and to meet up with friends again and who knows where that will take you. We have one life so we have to grab it with both hands and make the most of it everyday we can. I wish you and your son luck on both your journeys as this will be a great adventure for him too.

[Galwaybay2]

You are right, it's hard but you don't have to take anything that isn't right. It happened that I was in therapy when the process started so I had support and I was able to understand that codependence was not really helping him. Good luck with it.

[Exsubmariner in reply to Galwaybay2]

My son has been in supported living for 13 months. He was on a waiting list for many years through the local council social services. Be very careful though. He could be charged for his care. My son is charged a "non residential charge which is £100 per week by the local authority. This is in Wales and because all the council run homes were sold to profit making care companies.

[Mybestfriends]

I would just like to add to these Good comments, that Not All Supported Accommodation, have Support Workers living in Supported Accommodation & only have an Office, which means the people/Service users get left to their own devices at night, from about 8pm/10pm. Some Supported Living setups are Only Temporary. Please ask those Questions, when looking into Supported Living Accommodation Places. My adult Son was in one for about a year & they left each night. We then were told he could look for somewhere else to live, independently, we ended up having to look local to that area & over the course of 4yrs gradually got him Accommodation nearer us. Good luck!