Residential care

[Ladyloos]

Hi, I have concerns about my daughter's residential home where she has lived for 4 years.Most of the happily.

My daughter is on the autistic spectrum and has learning difficulties.

I'm now concerned her mental health has declined quite abit.

I try to speak to staff and managers but they try and brush me off .

They are rude at times.

My daughter wants to come home and stay , we are happy for this to happen

Covid keeps rearing its ugly head and.t the staff stop home visits and social visits , no wonder mental health is on the increase .

I feel like she is imprisoned in this horrible home , under staffed ,

I would never off let her move there if this was the outcome.

I want.more say in her welfare , I've been told I can't know every thing that's going on with her as she's over 18.

Her meds keep Changing and I have no say at all .

I've let her down ,and feel so helpless .I

I haven't got clue who I need to speak to about moving her to a new house or even home .

She's imprisoned , other service users are shouting etc,,they are all in turmoil.

Thanks for reading

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Do you have any record of your daughters decline in her mental health?

As bizarre as it may seem to say this, but I mean photographic chronological evidence - not taken as evidence - but (in terms of mental health) in a clinical meaning - the photographs carry a present evidence that falls into physiognomic clinical evidence akin to presentation in clinic or assessment in person.

You may also have letters or cards sent over the four years, also, your record or clear memory of your concern expressed with other family members or close friends. That may include anything you have said to your GP where you MAY have raised your concerns as a reflection of seeking personal health care for yourself - where you MAY have expressed your daughter's needs and condition as a response to answering any medical questions by your GP speaking to causality for your own mental or physical health.

There are often numerous ways you can demonstrate the rational and objective concern you have.

This is important because when you do begin to address your concerns and move to either correct the present situation OR to have your daughter back home - it is your being the parent that will be most applied to dissolve any concerns you have.

I am assuming that you have never applied for or been granted deputyship for your daughter in either property and affairs or health and welfare?

[vikkis1]

Has your daughter got a social worker? Can they help?

[BenjiB]

oh that sounds awful. My son lives in a residential care home and they are amazing. They inform us of everything with regular updates every week. We also sit in on multi disciplinary meetings every month.

I would contact her social worker immediately and request a meeting. If your daughter is verbal and can make her feelings known that will help immensely.

[LaVerite in reply to BenjiB]

Sounds ideal Benji B. My experience is not unlike Ladyloos. Can you say where this home is or which organisation manages it?

[TPrider]

The bar for capacity is really very low these days. If she has capacity she can simply demand your involvement or just say she wants to go elsewhere or even home with you for a while. Only bar to that is if she is sectioned in any way.

If there is zero chance of capacity then go the social worker route mentioning safeguarding every other word and at the same time, contact the CQC who often are very helpful.

Also, if she has capacity (get an assessment done if not sure), she can afford you Lasting Power of Attorney which means for the times she lacks capacity, no one can railroad you out the picture. If capacity lacking, you might apply for a guardianship order which is much the same thing.

[FELTSPAR]

All advice here is good, but if you can afford to get an independent social worker assessment that may well be the quickest and easiest route for you.