My life is falling apart

[Lilac_Bunny]

I've been trying to get a job for 3 and a half years and nothing, i still live with my parents in a mold infested house that the housing won't deal with so my asthma has gotten so severe that im being moved onto secondary care. I'm in debt, I've been in limbo with the mental health services since last year October and my parent's want me to get my own place but I'll never have the funds to live alone especially because no one will employ me except mcdonalds but they haven't given me my uniform or schedule and i was meant to start this monday but i've heard nothing. I've called everyday since the welcome meeting (two weeks from today) and the manager's are never available. I give up

[Sarah_Mencap]

Hello Lilac_Bunny

I am so sorry to hear that you are finding things hard at the moment, and that it is difficult to find work.

Do your parents help you look for work? Or is there anyone else you could ask for a bit of support with this?

Perhaps it would be a good idea to talk to one of Mencap's advisors on our helpline? They will be able to offer you advice and information, and help you find the right support and services in your area.

Call the helpline on 0808 808 1111

You can ask them about anything that is worrying you - finding work, moving out of home, or anything else!

It would also be worth seeing if there is a Mencap service near where you live. Have a look on here - mencap.org.uk/search/groups.

Please feel free to post on here again. I'd love to hear more about how you are getting on.

Thanks

Sarah

[Lilac_Bunny in reply to Sarah_Mencap]

Hi,

Thank you for your reply. Unfortunately my parent's aren't actively helping me find work, but my best friend has been trying his best to help.

Thank you for the advice. I've already sent an email to Mencap the day before and I'm just waiting for a response, however, I will be giving them a call as you suggested.

As for nearby mencap services, there aren't any near me, but I could try taking a bus. The nearest one is about 5 miles away and travelling especially alone and to a new place triggers off my anxiety.

Thank you so much for the advice, I really appreciate it.

[Freddy44 in reply to Sarah_Mencap]

Hello. Try to stay positive. Anxiety is such a horrible thing. I have suffered with it from time to time. I found my GP was very helpful. I thought they'd just tell me to stop it, but they really listened and came up with some good ways to cope. Best of luck.

[Lilac_Bunny in reply to Freddy44]

I tried and I'm really glad you had a good experience with that! Unfortunately, I've been in limbo with the mental health services for almost a year now. I'm getting 0 help and there's only so much the GP can do that isn't medicating me. I've got 0 support for my mental health and none for my disabilities. According to someone in mencap ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder) isn't a learning disability so they won't help me in that regard (ironic considering i spent almost 3 years at a special needs school). I honestly give up. I spend most of my time homebound.

Thank you for the advice and support regardless!