Advice

[paul1960]

I know,ot sounds daft asking for advice. Right on w9 30mins runs I ran 6miles Friday and 7miles Saturday rest day Sunday no tryed to run this morning could only manage 25mins run when I get to about 20mins I feel like I need a few minutes walk and then am of running again but I think now this is the way I run I can do this all day is this just my way of running I realy was crying this morning because I promised irene I would do 30mins I feel like I have let her down

[SkiMonday Ultramarathon]

Hi Paul. We all have good runs and not so good runs, it's part of being a runner, so I don't think you've let Irene down at all.

I think the best that you can do for her is to look after yourself and do what you can.

[nowster Metric Marathon]

Remember that there are always days when you're not at your best. We all have them. It's not something to fret over.

You've not let anyone down. The only way you'd have done that is not to have tried at all.

Rest today and tomorrow and see what Wednesday brings.

[Cmoi Marathon]

No, you've not let Irene down in any way Paul, you're doing her proud just by getting out there and running. You did way more than planned on your previous runs, so be kind to yourself.

[Oldfloss Administrator]

You are doing brilliantly and you probably just need to ease back a little. Irene would be so proud of you, and would want you to be kind to yourself... rest up a little more and then on you go, slow and steady ? x

[linda9389 Administrator Marathon]

I can only agree with the other comments. Let her down? absolutely not!!! She would be so, so proud of what you have achieved so far. One day soon you will run for 30 minutes, but by then I'd lay odds you'll also be running far and wide.

[GoGo_JoJo Ultramarathon]

Please be gentle with yourself Paul and don't set goals that are too much at this stage, you've just run 6 and 7 miles respectively when you should still be around the 3 mile mark.

When running with grief we can have a tendency to almost punish ourselves for still being here. Please remember how much Irene loved you and cared for you. She absolutely would not want you to overdo things or to feel guilty for not "doing enough" at all. Less is definitely more right now. I've been there and ended up not even being able to walk a mile, let alone run so please, please, take it gently. 💖

[paul1960 Marathon in reply to GoGo_JoJo]

Thank you am just expecting to much I think

[GoGo_JoJo Ultramarathon in reply to paul1960]

I think you are, you're trying to prove something, either to yourself or to Irene but you need prove nothing at all for her love is still there, always will be. 💖

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Dear Paul. I’m sure you haven’t let your wife down. You just need to take care, look after yourself, and do the best you can that’s all I’m sure Irene would have wished for you. You are definitely doing her memory proud. Please don’t be hard on yourself and don’t forget we are all here for you

Take care Paul 🙏❤️

[Frenc Half Marathon]

Irene would be incredibly proud of you 😊.