Sorry just needed to shout this out

[paul1960]

My wife as sclc and unfortunately she will not see the year out she as gone through all the treatment available and now no more treatment. So every day is different as s you can imagine good days and bad days today is not a good day it all seems to bottle up in side you then you have to let it all out to many tears today just can't seem to stop crying so angry that I cant do anything for her it's so heartbreaking to see her like this but what can I do I cant imagine life without her it's so hard just got no idea of what's to come I feel I realy need to talk to someone but I cant seem to I know this is not the place but I have alot of friends on here who will understand sorry

[Tasha99 Marathon]

Oh Paul we are all here for you. Life is so unfair at times but you know you can always come on this forum and we are all ears. Don’t ever apologise. It is best for you to be able to vent somewhere. My thoughts are with you and your wife Xx

[roseabi Ultramarathon]

We're all here for you xxx

[linda9389 Administrator Marathon]

I can't imagine how hard it must be and how dark the bad days are. One day at a time Paul. You can get through this, but one day at a time, one step at a time. Hoping that sharing your feelings and knowing that we are all here for you will help you a little today.

[cheekychipmunks Half Marathon]

Sending lots of love to you and your wife Paul. Stay strong, we’re all here for you at this difficult time. 😘

[misswobble Marathon]

Oh dear Paul I’m so sorry to hear that your wife is not getting any better. It’s hard to take in isn’t it 🙁

You have to be there for your wife. Her rock 🙂. It’s natural to cry and rage when things are beyond your control. You can share your frustrations with us, and release pent up emotions if you can get out to run I hope you can, even a small run can help 🙂. Time out on runs gives us much-needed head space to digest our problems and come up with ways to tackle them. Your son will be feeling shocked as well so I hope you can comfort each other while supporting your wife

Your wife will be a comfort to you too, and you can spend time reminiscing about happier times when she’s able to chat 🙂

Keep us posted Paul, and I hope the combined power of your running pals can help you through this torrid time.

Love Wobble xx

[Irishprincess Administrator Half Marathon]

Paul, you’ve accepted that there are good days and not so good days and that is a brave and hard thing to accept at a time like this. You’re having a bad day so let your feelings go.

Are you able to talk to someone close to you? A friend or family member?

Your friends here are thinking of you and praying for you all and you know we are always here for you xxx

[Curlygurly2 Half Marathon]

I am so very sorry Paul, I just can't imagine the despair you must be feeling. I run virtual races for The Roy Castle Lung Cancer foundation, my brother passed with lung cancer, and while we are of course always here to support you, they have trained councellors available to help, have you tried them?

[Hidden]

Take a day at a time Paul, moments in everyday are special, moments in everyday make memories 🙏

[Cmoi Marathon]

Hi @Paul1960, just wanted to send sympathy and a virtual hug to you and your wife. Of course you can vent here - we can't fix things, but I hope we can make them a tiny bit easier for you

[Over62 Half Marathon]

Paul so glad you shouted this out on here - this is a great place to share your thoughts and feelings. If you can focus on one thing each day say a gentle short run out for you and share what you have seen with your wife it may just help this precious time with one another, a loving conversation is so important. Sending a virtual hug to you and your wife. - keep posting on here.

Love to you both. ❤️

[Grannyhugs 10 Miles]

So very sorry to hear this Paul, shocking news, and the current restrictions are really not helping as it makes it difficult to get help from your support network. We are here to listen, wheneyou need us, any little thing that helps. Take care. 🤗

[Sandie1961 Half Marathon]

So sorry to hear that Paul. Never be afraid to vent on here. We are all here to support each other, so if it makes things feel a little more bearable, carry on and, on the better days, try to make memories that you will be able to carry in your heart xx

[GoGo_JoJo Ultramarathon]

You're in an awful situation. I've watched a colleague fall to bits as his wife fights her cancer, he's there for her but who's there for him?

I keep encouraging him to talk to MacMillan as there are spousal support groups. Just having someone else who understands the fears and powerlessness of the situation is a start. 😔

Keep reaching out. There are always more people willing to help than we think. 💖

[Dexy5 10 Miles]

So sorry to hear this Paul and if coming on here to let it out helps you then that’s what you should do. But there is help for people in your situation , people who understand and can help you both practically and emotionally. Do get in touch with Macmillan nurses if you haven’t already to give you the support you need. Sometimes I think it is harder for the partner as you feel you cannot help, but you can by just being there. Take care of yourself.

[Blackberrypie Half Marathon]

So sorry to hear this, and please don't apologies for needing to let out the emotions to someone. As others have said I'm sure there are groups and forums out there for people who are going through similar agony and will be able to offer better support than we can, but meantime do feel free to use this space as you need.

[Decker Ultramarathon]

Aw Paul I’m just so sorry. I hope you and your son can help each other through this and get the best out of this time you have with your wife. You have lots of shoulders here to lean on.

[Magellan Marathon]

Paul that’s awful, it must be devastating for you all. Do get in touch with Macmillan, they are nice people.

[Sandraj39 Half Marathon]

I have only just seen this Paul but I wanted to respond. Many of us have followed your running journey on here and with that, the hard times both you and your wife are going through. I am so sorry that today has been a tough day for you - as you say, you need to let those feelings out sometimes and that is completely understandable. We are always here to listen. Thinking of you both - take care.x

[Cowladyrunning Marathon]

I am so sorry that you are having to go through this. I hope you have people near to you who will listen too. I think it is good you've reached out here. My thoughts with you.

[RunningJ123 10 Miles]

I'm so sorry too.... Almost a year ago, my aunt passed away from cancer... And it is SO tough for the rest of the family, particularly for the husband... Firstly the practical side of caring, and then the feeling of wanting to be strong for them, and just knowing that time is closing in... My heart goes out to you... Sending love and care to you both 💛

[Raspberrypink Half Marathon]

I’m sorry to hear this. Such a tough time for you and your wife. I know ( from your previous posts )you live in Stalybridge. Some of the local McMillan nurses are great and of course there’s Willow Wood , the people there are amazing. Sending strength and love to you

[Hidden]

Oh blimey what a terrible situation that you and your wife find yourselves in. Sending virtual caring thoughts to you both.

[LordOberon]

My thoughts are with you, bro. Hard as it is, try to be strong & enjoy what you have now & memories of earlier times. A dear friend (I lost 11 years ago to cancer) made occasional jokes to make light of the situation. Maybe focus on what you & her need to sort out in this time. One love to you both.

[Peter44 10 Miles]

I really feel for you Paul, and know what your going through, having lost alot of close family, two sisters, my wife, and 3 weeks ago, my mum, it is hard, letting the tears out is good, try not to bottle it up, it will be a rollocoster, just try and make the most of the time left with your wife, i'm sure running, and your friends on here, will be a big help.

[Coddfish 10 Miles]

That’s really tough for both of you and I hope you manage to eke out as many good days together as you can.

[PandaCory]

Go ahead and vent - we can take it! I wish I had clever words to help you, but remember we're here if you need us. Look after yourselves 🌼🌼.

[David_G Metric Marathon]

So sorry to hear this paul1960 There’s absolutely no need to apologise for here. We will all be here for you whenever you need to let off steam or whatever.

Sending my thoughts and deep sympathy at this terrible time for you both.