I am very concerned that my father in law has dementia. He already has medical conditions mainly to do with his breathing (asthma, copd, ...

[Mcci]

Emphysema and scaring from tb) recently been in hospital and breathing now good but is showing sings of confusion and unable to communicate. Some days is ok but bad days are becoming more frequent. Has been for memory test at docs and passed but this was on a good day. Can anyone offer advise on what to do as or where to go as really do not know what to do or who to talk to as docs think all is well and it really is not. Also am I able to help as I am only daughter in law

[trophywife]

hi-I hve early dementia and took care of my dd who had it.strongly recc you get durable power of attorney asap.read about poor judgement is the worst.my computer is acting up.more later

[trophywife in reply to trophywife]

I passed borderline.i recognized similarities btwn me and dad.people said I forget all the time but it isn't the same.i uused to be a great speller.thats gone.cant sign my name and doing dangerous stuff.speech therapist dx

[lizzyd]

My dad has recently been diagnosed with Alzheimer's - he also passed the initial memory test on a good day. I wrote an initial list of the behaviours that were worrying us, then mum kept a log and we talked to dad, then mum went back to the GP with dad (and the list). He then had a much more in-depth assessment at home with a specialist nurse, which resulted in being referred to a consultant and the eventual diagnosis. I would recommend keeping a log and taking it with you to the GP as evidence of your worries. It's usually possible to request to see a different GP at the same practice if you want a 2nd opinion. Good luck!