I am exhausted, I have been cooking for 3 days. We are expecting up to 7 guests tomorrow. I know that's not many, but when you are dealing with everything we deal with, I can be too much. I still have to vacuum the living room carpet, and clean the bathroom. I will do it tomorrow morning.
Hubby and I have decided that tomorrow we are going to announce to the children that this is our last year hosting dinner. We just can't do it anymore.
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It can be difficult to stop being the traditional host for holidays and festivities, but we do reach a point where we are no longer able to take on the task and do an even adequate job. With all that has happened, it just isn't possible. Now others have stepped up to the plate and are doing a superb job! We spend time planning together and share the work. Tonight my contribution was something I could make days ahead, and I did the dishes until my body signaled it was ready to rest. Without question others took up the task. No pressure to handle things, and everyone was very understanding when I quietly said "I'm whipped" and sat down. Makes it much easier when everyone is committed to cooperating and we all had a grand time!! It makes it so much easier when I can head home after about 3 hours, which seems to be my overall time limit with so many things. I don't at all feel bad about limiting my involvement anymore!!
You are right, it is very difficult. I have realized that it is hard for me to give up that control. I was raised hearing "if want something done right, you have to do it yourself".
For the foreseeable future, we will most likely still have to host holiday dinners, but my family will do most of the cooking and cleaning up.
Glad you have set some limits on yourself, and your family understands. Getting exhausted can make you more susceptible to a cold or infection that can be hard to recover from; and would defeat the purpose of your holiday or make holidays times to dread.
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